Bhaya Bin Hota Na Preet.( Fear is important for lasting love.#)

Every hug of a dear one is gratifying, but it is incomparable and beyond the words to portray when we hug the loved one who was lost and found out of the blue after a long gap. Do you know why it is so? Sometimes you will be stunned and may not immediately agree with me, this is fear. The fear of losing the joy and the person. Fear is an important ingredient to intensify and make the experience unique.

Again, few of us may be bewildered by knowing that God is created due to an unknown fear. Many may proclaim God as a superpower. The deep faith tends us to surrender to Him. We gather hardihood and feel protected when worship God. In many mythologies, they believe in reincarnation and moksha. Such teachings are also helping to fight the fear of death and live a somewhat fearless life.

We all are aware of "exam fever". What is it? This is nothing but a fear to be tested. The total absent of this fear may lead to failure. On the contrary, normal exam fever is good because it works as a catalyst and inspire us to study sincerely. Having always a fearful state of mind is harmful, but in a relationship, a slight fear of losing the loved one is appreciable.

Tulsidas rightly quoted that " Bhay Bin Hot Na Preet". When a wife or husband has no fear of losing each other, in that case, devotion and ardent love also decrease. Wife is affectionate to the husband because she subconsciously knows that if, a husband is not happy then may get attracted to other female or he may lose interest in her. It is possible that she may not get all the privileges what she is enjoying now. This is the same for the husband also.

All may not be implausible but few are. They don't digest the true admiration and take inordinate advantage of it. The moment the fear is removed they lack in their integrity and the efforts to maintain an effervescent relationship. 

These days there is equality between men and women and it is helpful in overall evolvement. But it has also affected the strong bonding between the wife and husband. Even though it may not be playing a big role in having more divorces and separation, but it has a remarkable contribution. With the social upliftment, the fear to outlast is well-nigh nada in the working women. The physical and emotional sharing is also not difficult to get as there is legalized living relationship in society. In olden days these all were missing and played a greater role in the survival of many marriages maybe with some compromise.

Due to sudden changes in the existing laws, women empowerment have a strong impact and it is prominent and loud. In the last two decades, we are experiencing huge changes in our lives. The divorce rates are drastically at the rise and sanctity of marriage institution is at a risk. Maybe the unexpected social changes are not logically conceived and accepted decently. I am hopeful that with the time it will be taken care of and discipline & freedom will get in the rhythm. In this instance too, fear is the main ingredient to bring phenomenal changes in our social life.

Fear in the handling or doing things are also termed as care which is very eminent to have a quality output. Negligent working normally spoils things. This also results in loss of output and ebbing of quality. In ordinary circumstances it can be tolerated and ignored, but not in the case of people's life. A small fear to the surgeon makes him more alert during surgery. Like-wise in many of the activities, such fear plays a vital role in avoiding devastating results.

All the above are not to impart more fear in you, but make you aware of the importance of fear. Anyway, nothing to get upset. If, you are scared of many things; you are not alone. Few are smarter than you to hide their fears.

The synonyms of fear are anxiety, worry, discomforts, distress, dismay, dread, scare, despair, terror and so on, but psychologically these all can be defined differently.

Too much of fear is very dangerous and this is very damaging and unacceptable. More fear leads to worries and low confidence. The longer state of mind in worries may lead to depression and many other psychological as well as physical ailments. That is why the moderate fear is helpful and useful, but the excess of it is lethal.

In Hindu mythology, we are taught that when we are enlightened we get Moksha, the salvation, free from reincarnation. Dr. William Weiss in his book "Many Life, Many Masters", has also shared his experiences. As per him, we have to take birth till we don't acquire the true knowledge.

The fear is created mainly by ignorance. Take an example, which we mostly keep experiencing. Before I proceed further, like to ask you a question. Are we not comfortable when we enter in our home even in the dark? Yes, we all are comfortable to inter in our dark home or rooms without any fear, because we are aware of the items and situation of the place. Every corner is known and we easily deal with them even in the darkness. But, what about going to an unknown place in the dark, maybe that place may be much safer than our home? Almost all of us will have some fear, the fear of the unknown. Is it not wonderful, the knowledge makes so much difference? In the first situation, we are aware of everything and feel fearless. In another case, nothing is known and we have all the doubts and fears.

The person who follows routine and has a systematic way of living is calmer in life because he has less fear. He has more control over situations than the person lives unplanned. 

The fear of the future makes us save money for rainy days, fear of sickness tends to live a healthy life and fear of being late results in punctuality. The procrastinating persons are always worried, less successful and little creative; this is due to negative fears. May be such persons are more fearful of death.

Astrologically, the Mars and Moon beside other planets play a great role to make the person brave, doubtful or coward.

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