Fear
Adam Quiney
Executive Coach | Transformational Coaching and Leadership for Leaders of Leaders
Fear is a healthy sign. It means someone is playing a game in their life that has stakes to it.
You want to support your client to practise being with their fear a little more than they currently are able to. Like lifting a weight at a gym, this means pushing out beyond what their current capacity allows for, and doing their best.
Meditation can be an excellent practise for this, provided the client isn’t using the practise in an attempt to bypass their fear. Instead, when they meditate, they should be aiming to feel the fear that is there, and simply allow it to be.
It’s okay to let fear whisper in our ears all of the scary things that it has to say.
Living a transformed life is about feeling the fear, acknowledging its presence, and then, rather than reacting to it, taking the next step anyway.
As your client practises and begins to allow fear to simply exist in their lives, they will find that its significance diminishes. Playing a big game in your life doesn’t mean that your fear goes away. Quite the contrary, its tends to increase.
What shifts is our relationship to that fear — we go from feeling that fear is wrong, or means something significant, to simply recognizing its presence without adding any additional meaning.
This, is freedom.
–Excerpt from the Ontological Codex
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1 周"Living a transformed life is about feeling the fear, acknowledging its presence, and then, rather than reacting to it, taking the next step anyway." This reasonated...it's about taking action and moving forward even if it means one step at a time.
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1 周Insightful, Hi Adam it's been awhile, how you doing. Just wanted to thank you for this post! Read it earlier when the post first cam out but didnt think much up it. Had a "ah-ha" moment and realization which reminded me of this post. I agree fear doesnt doesnt disappear, and personally for it becomes a stop sign. But today i came to realize as im working towards transitioning from corporate to freelance is that its a courage tester. How can i just like pages and start ups that come up on my feed but have a hard time executing my own and it boils down to unknown result of success and faliure and what I would lose. Haha! Anyways thanks for the post thought I'd share my opinion.
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1 周Absolutely, fear is a signal for growth, Adam.
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2 周So inspiring! I like your different take in facing fear, Adam.