A Fathers Perspective

Looking at the name of the article you might think that this guy is going to boast his credentials as a new father, but no you can ask my wife about that she will probably tell you how i turned out to be, but today i am going to write about a MUM and whenever we think of a mother the first thing that comes to our mind is our own beloved mother who has sacrificed everything just to make us happy, yes I agree that is true but today I am going to talk about a new mother and yes it wouldn't be very tough to guess who I am going to blabber about... :).

We can very well say that we know what goes into a women's mind when she learns that she is going to be a mother but no only that women knows how she feels. Usually people jump to the birth of a baby when they talk about a new mother, but they forget the best part of the journey, those 9 months or 40 weeks that a woman goes through every hormonal changes every emotion that they go through only that women knows and also during this Covid Pandemic it becomes much more difficult for a mum to be but the things she goes through the changes she experiences will blow up a man's mind but he cannot experience it personally.

The journey has usually been divided onto 3 parts at least that has been told by my Mrs. First Trimester, Second Trimester & Third Trimester.

Yes during the first trimester we can say that we were there for the whole 3 months but until and unless you have a food poisoning you cannot understand that feeling and that too just the vomiting part i am short of examples to compare the rest(probably will update the Blog once I have those. :) ) and yes believe me those hormones can do stuffs can you imagine a die hard chicken lover not liking even the smell of chicken and yes this is the only thing during the 9 months that goes against you as a father as you also have to follow the same thing, its already a working overtime for the women and let's not forget the cravings part that too late night you might say that whyyyy this late but it's the hormone that's getting the better of her mind and its also a phase that both Mumma and papa should enjoy.

Now usually people say(again my Mrs.) that the Second trimester is the honeymoon period of the whole 9 months journey but then what she meant by Honeymoon period was everything apart from the Nausea but then comes more responsibility, She has to take every care in the world for the well being of the little baby inside and only she can tell you what's the feeling inside when the little one kicks and rolls around and that feeling of being kicked somehow feels like someone showers rose petals for her and according her that is the best feeling a to be mother can have, and we can only imagine those stuffs.

And now the best and the most important part of the whole Journey the third trimester and the thought of having a baby itself is more than enough to sweep you of your feet and that's just me, she is carrying the thing inside again only she knows how is she doing. With so many things being fed by everyone in her mind, but she is the one who balances everything She may feel uncomfortable because of the weight gain, but she understands that the babies body is maturing and to keep the baby healthy she goes through all the changes with a happy face, she is tired consistently but still working and being active and you cannot be sick in any way as no one is going to prescribe a medicine for you and thus the pressure increases on the women.

And when the D-day comes you think that you are tensed but the only person who can really feel the tension and pressure is the other gender the mental and physical pressure is immense and the labor pain which is equivalent to more than 20 bones cracking, this comparison will only fill you with chills but the women literally goes through all this and the worst thing is just looking at her in pain and doing nothing but as the saying goes sometimes the bad things that happen in our life put us directly on the path to the best thing that will ever happen to us after the pain, the sight of the baby has the cure to heal even the worst pain and then the everlasting bond of a mother and child starts that lasts for eternity and that is the purest bond that God has made.

All an All we can say that all the 9 months of pain, hormonal changes, anxiety, cravings is a risk worth taking and yes you can say those were the best days of our lives so far.

-------- DEDICATED TO MY WIFE ASTHA --------