Falling in Love…. with Your Child!

Of course, you love your child, but let me ask you this…are you IN love with them? Let me explain the difference. Remember how it felt when you fell in love - and were constantly thinking about that special person??

They say that love is blind, so weren’t you convinced that they were the most awesome person, ignoring the niggling negatives you would have attached more importance to if you were thinking straight? So why not regard your child in the same way – as someone you have fallen in love with?

Make Your Child Your Valentine

Would you spend time with a past love telling them their table manners were bad, that their grammar needs improvement, or that you hate the way they leave their stuff all over the place??

But when it comes to our children, despite our uncontested fierce love for them, we feel it’s our parental obligation to constantly point out what they are doing wrong After all, who is responsible for raising them? (spoiler alert…you are!).

Do you find yourself constantly reminding them to wash their hands, sit up straight at the table, and get their homework done now? Are you on high alert to catch them doing something that needs your immediate attention and reprimands?

Imagine if you tried falling in love with your child in addition to just loving them??

Here’s a proven shortcut that I’ve shared with thousands of busy parents who quickly discover that falling in love with their kids instantly transforms their relationship, even when they were struggling at that time with a certain child.

Imagine that your child is that special someone you are falling in love with and try the following…

• Focus on their positive qualities. Concentrate on that adorable dimple when she smiles or the remarkable handstand your son can do.

• Take note of whatever sparks their curiosity. Does she love to read? Take her regularly to your local library. Does he like to collect things? Encourage a stamp collection or take him fossil hunting.

• Be aware of what they are afraid of. Don’t insist on turning off the nightlight if he’s afraid of the dark. If you want her to learn to swim and she’s scared stiff of being in the water, find a swimming teacher who knows how to cope with her fear.?

• See the flip side of their “weaknesses.” For instance, your daughter might be incredibly stubborn and wear you down with her arguments until you give in. While admittedly this trait is hard to live with, the flip side is dogged persistence. This persistence may serve her well if she grows up to be a scientist, a novelist, or an attorney.

• Acknowledge their likes and dislikes. Don’t try to force your daughter to eat Brussels sprouts if she hates them and don’t badger your son to play sports if he’d rather write poetry.

You Don’t Have to See Your Child as Perfect

Of course, no child is perfect, but every child is unique and special. Falling in love with your child doesn’t mean you should ignore things that you feel need improvement.?

But, keep this in mind: when you not only love your child but are also in love with them, you are creating a powerful and positive momentum that will enable your child to grow in ways that only focused love can create. Remember that energy high you had in those first electrifying weeks when you were in love? That’s how your child will feel when you fall in love with them.

Practice falling in love with your child to make every day your Parenting Valentine's Day and watch the magic happen!?

Want to experience the transformative power of falling in love with your child? Start by letting them know how you feel! Grab my free Heartfelt Connections:The Secret to Writing the Best Love Letter here , review the prompts and suggestions, and get ready for a lifetime of loving relationships.