Falling in love with AI...sort of

My blogpost this week looks at the concept of Love Languages to enhance the effectiveness of leadership communications. It took me five hours to research and detail the correlation of each love language to connecting with audiences on a deeper level. ChatGPT did it in 30 seconds.

My digital marketing manager insisted we give it a try after I had written the email campaign and post.?Nothing changed but my own belief that generative AI could be my friend without stepping on my ethics.

Although not as thoughtful and nuanced as my own creation, the AI generated substantial content for a first draft. Take a look side by side at the first three love languages: what I wrote and what the chatbot created. The AI generated content appears in italics.

The query for ChatGPT was: What are the love languages and how do they relate to public speaking?

1. Love Language: Words of Affirmation

These are verbal compliments and expressions of care and affection. Think: "Thanks for putting the kids to bed" or "You looked really nice today." Typically, the less generic and more specific the words, the more meaningful they feel to the recipient. Conversely, criticism can be particularly upsetting to people who favor words of affirmation.

How this relates to speakers:?

Mark Twain said: “I can live two months on one compliment.” Complimenting your audience—be it one or thousands—means affirming their strengths, interests, and talents. Statements such as “I appreciate you all coming today.” “Your team has achieved great success. Congratulations.” “You have been a fabulous audience. Thank you for your attention.” These are powerful affirmations. You can be specific to their achievements and efforts and use language that is meaningful to them and related to their industry or profession.

Words of Affirmation: If your audience values words of affirmation, you can use positive language, affirm their strengths and achievements, and praise their efforts. This will make them feel appreciated and valued, leading to a more engaged and receptive audience.

2. Love Language: Gifts

These are tangible and intangible items that make you feel appreciated or noticed. Going to your partner's concert, for example, is as much a gift as flowers or that new smartphone they want. To individuals who favor this love language, the absence of everyday gestures or a missed special occasion is particularly hurtful.

How this relates to speakers:?

Develop the mindset that what you bring to your audience is a gift of something they didn’t have before you spoke. Perhaps it is the gift of stories that motivate them to stretch higher. It could be insights and solutions to problems they can put into action. Or it could be information that opens their eyes to another point of view. You can also give the gift of attention. active listening and inviting honest feedback.

Receiving Gifts: If your audience values receiving gifts, you can offer tangible takeaways from your speech, such as handouts or useful resources. This will make them feel that they are receiving something valuable from your speech, increasing their level of engagement and appreciation.

3. Love language: Acts of Service

This means doing something useful or kind for your partner. Showing love and kindness non-verbally through helpful actions. Think: Helping with a home improvement project or simply providing emotional support and understanding during a challenging time. For someone who favors acts of service, ambivalence or a lack of support are more damaging than anything else.

How this relates to speakers:?

Kindness is a language understood by all. It has influenced more people than eloquence. Consider how you are expressing caring, compassion, and respect for your audience with your verbal and nonverbal communication. Choose your words carefully to emit warmth and sincerity. Adopt nonverbal cues such as the head tilt and nod to express empathy and inspire trust. ??

Acts of Service: If your audience values acts of service, you can demonstrate how your message will serve them in a practical way. Show them how your ideas will improve their lives and make their lives easier.

?You can read the rest of my blog post (without help from AI) here.

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