Fallacy of Control;Yeah! Let go of that...
Simone Jennifer Smith
Mental Health Advocate, Psycho-Educationalist, Project Manager, Award Winning Journalist, Ghost/Copy/Content Writer, Founder Hear 2 Help
" Why won't my child just do what they need to do, and not misbehave?"
"Why won't my partner act the way I want them too?"
"Why does my best friend act so selfish all the time?
"My boss frustrates me! He/She won't allow me to just do my work the way that I do it; it has to be their way, or the highway!"
Do you know why some of these questions come to mind, in different ways, and in your own words of course?
Well, because many of us don't realize that we are living with a Fallacy of Control. We think that if we say certain things, act a certain way people around us will just fall in line, and do what is expected. Someone is going to read this and get defensive, and that is okay. I just hope that you realize that this need to control is normal, and has been built in sort of like a defense mechanism.
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Unfortunately,? like the appendix it needs to be removed from us, and this is no easy task because many of us are ruled by our EGO'S.
It's important to recognize that you cannot control someone else's thoughts, feelings, or actions. Trying to exert control over another person can lead to feelings of frustration, resentment, and disappointment for both parties involved.
Here are some steps you can take to let go of the control you think you have over someone:
Remember, letting go of control doesn't mean giving up on the relationship or the person. It simply means acknowledging that you cannot control them and focusing on what you can do to improve the situation.