Fall more in love with yourself this Valentine's Day

If Valentine’s day is about celebrating love, why not use it to celebrate our most important relationship; the one we have with ourselves? Too often this day can bring up a false need for someone else to show us our value. I suggest the possibility of using this energy to fall in love with yourself. Oscar Wilde said: “To fall in love with oneself is to begin a lifelong romance.” Following are five ways to gift yourself this Valentine’s day and beyond:

1) Indulge your inner lover: Many of us are so busy taking care of others that we forget to give ourselves gifts. Give yourself permission to indulge in something that inspires passion or excitement in your life and choose to feed your life force energy. Perhaps a trip to the spa, flowers, a bubble bath or a massage? Maybe it's some quiet time, or snuggling up with a good book? Give yourself something that you would like to receive from a lover, and soak up that positive energy! This supports the development of receptivity. 

2) Write yourself a Love letter: Have you ever written yourself a love letter?  We often have the feeling of falling in love with another, not realizing that this love exists inside us. Self Love is an act of kindness, compassion, and radical acceptance for number one. It is important to take the time to commit to, acknowledge, and honor ourselves. We all have some form of negative self-talk going on. Write down all of the things that you love about yourself in the form of a love note using your romantic love language, and be receptive enough to take it in. The love we cultivate for ourselves is what we bring to all our relationships. Your essence is pure love. Own the love that you are.  

3) Choose self-observation and radical acceptance and let go of negative self-talk, even if it is just for the day. Often we are harder on ourselves than anyone else in our lives, and perfection is a myth. Choose to be kind to yourself. Give yourself a break, if you catch yourself focusing on your perceived shortcomings, stop and flip the switch immediately towards something positive or choose to take a few deep prana breaths. Accepting your perceived imperfections is a gift that leads us on a path to our true, authentic, powerful and beautiful selves. 

4) Give and receive more love: Even if you do not have a romantic partner this is a great time to love the key people in your life. Send Galentines to your pals, flowers to a family member, or offer to babysit for friends going out for the evening. Feel the gratitude and show all the loving people in your life what they mean to you. Choose to normalize platonic touch and connection with your close friends. Normalize hugs, kisses, holding hands, snuggling, saying "I love you", and always supporting your friends. Love is an action.  

5) Commit to yourself consistently: Commit to a daily consistent habit that moves you closer to your most important Self-Love goal. Perhaps it is meditation, keeping a journal or reflecting on what you are most grateful for? Consistency and developing positive daily habits help us to transform negative thoughts, worry or anxiety into more love, compassion, and energy.  Falling in love with yourself is an Infinite fall.  Happy Valentine’s Day!

Love,

Staci

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