Falalala...blah

Tis the season to be... *urgh*... what? #musicstops So. not. jolly.

In a rather bizarre way, I came across a website the other day that holds a real-time-counter of how many deaths occurred globally so far this year. Around midnight last night, it just ticked over 54 Million people. And then again - how does that even matter, compared to that one person you have lost in your life? Your person.

It doesn't.

So, here I am, sitting and thinking about our Christmas ahead. 3.5k members in our movement. Most of them are not looking forward to Christmas. Most of them don't see it as the jolly season - at all! Most of them feel, their heart is just as shattered as the Christmas bauble in the picture above.

Last week I had a session with a client, who has lost one of her kids and her husband over the years. She just wanted to "get it over and done with". Until I gave her that option.

"Ok" I said. "Let's play this scenario. Theoretically."

I gave her an out. I asked her, how she would feel, if she could just skip Christmas. Not show up (like I did for years after my dad passed btw!). How would that be? I waited for relief; a smile; maybe even a tat excitement about the idea of not having to go through it.

Nothing.

Instead, I saw a realisation plant a different smile - in her heart. "I wouldn't want to miss out on seeing my kids and grandkids!" she said. I saw a little sparkle in her eyes. This moment changed a lot for her. It also happened to be our last session. One question. New perspective. And so much healing. My heart was overflowing when we hugged goodbye that day. I watched her as she walked over to join her daughter and 2 of her grandkids at our local playground.

This year, I decided to make Christmas extra... well, Christmass-y. Lots of icicle lights, a Santa gnome on our table, the tree is coming out this weekend - I cannot wait to watch our boys hanging up the ornaments - and I've caught myself whistling Christmas tunes all week. I have made my list and am checking it twice... Ha, I might be turning into an elf soon!

I made a decision. A simple decision. It's not always easy to feel jolly around Christmas, yet I decided to make it the most beautiful one we had in the past 4 years.

We decide. We choose. Every single day. And because a lot of these choices and decisions are made on a rather subconscious level, we often forget how many of them we make each day. That incredible vastness of choices we have, is just like a Christmas miracle in itself, don't you think?

I am wishing you the happiest Christmas this year - no matter what your circumstances - you just get to believe that you can make it happen. Yes, get to - not got to - it's another choice you can make, right now.

With Love x

Marie

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