Failure: Part 2

What is Failure?

Failure, noun: 1. Lack of success. 2. The omission of expected or required action.

Hmmm…

You know what? Scratch that dictionary definition!

In my opinion, failure is one of two things: it’s either not meeting expectations set by other people or it’s a decision not to pursue a desired result any longer.

Let’s take a look.

Imagine your parents. They want the best future for you, they have a vision of how it’s supposed to go in your life: a successful career, marriage, children, settling in. And then it is you and it doesn’t go according to THE PLAN. If you value the opinion of others, if you trust judgement of external world more than you trust yourself, you will be crashed. You will feel miserable, discouraged and yep, you will feel like a failure.

Solution: get clear on what it is you truly want. What is the story you want to write? If it has nothing to do what someone else told or what you saw in the fairy tale, what would that be? It is an inside out job, not the other way around.

Now, picture a different situation. You got certified. You got your first client. First checks are coming in. It is exciting, new, adventurous. You are learning so much. But then you start doubting yourself: Can I have another client? What if it doesn’t work? Who am I? There is so much competition. All these thoughts consume you; the results get reflected in less than promising results. And then one day you decide to forget about this childish idea to become a successful entrepreneur and go find yourself a job.

What happened? It is simple. You gave up on yourself. Instead evaluating what worked that first time and creating more of it, instead of looking for solutions, instead of asking for help and being flexible with your goal timeline, you decided to fail in your pursuit.

Solution: It is all made up! Goals, timelines, dreams. We might not know when exactly we will get what we want. But what if we never stop trying? What if don’t give up on getting a degree? What if we don’t stop looking for a soul mate? What if we keep going on our business, career growth, skill mastery? Who will we become?

Bonus solution: Who will we become in the process of not giving up on ourselves? And what if we just decide we don’t want to do something any longer without attaching meaning of failure to it?

Looking back I see why some of the biggest accomplishments and incredible moments happened in my life – I followed maybe intuitively these definitions of failure and decided to stay in the game just a bit longer.

If you have not read my shares about failure, check it out in Part 1 I published last week.

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Next week I will be sharing a concept of survival mechanism and how so often it gets on our way of living full out our best lives.