Fail to Succeed
The Failure Trap
A Chapter form Time Traps by Todd Duncan
Wasting Time Worrying About Yesterday
When defeat comes, accept it is a signal that your plans are not sound, rebuild those plans, and set sail once more toward your coveted goal. - Napoleon Hill ?
Failure should be our teacher, not our undertaker. Failure is a delay but not defeat. It is a temporary detour, not a dead-end street. -William Ward?
Don’t look back the past is over!
If past failures slow you down, then failure is a trap that steals time from today. But when you recognize that the only time you can do anything about is the moment you are in now; failure takes a different meaning.
Past Failures Should DRIVE YOU!
Taking a cue from John Maxwell, my failure probabilities have diminished by creating a Daily Dozen. Each morning I review these things that help me gain perspective and increase the odds of success. Here they are.
My Faith gives me peace
My Family gives me harmony and stability
My Fitness gives me stamina and energy
My Friends give me counsel and comfort
My Finances give me options
My Future gives me direction
My Focus gives me growth
My Feelings shape my attitude
My Faithfulness gives me serenity
My Freedom gives me choices
My Fun gives me renewal
My Fulfillment gives me joy
ABUNDANCE
The Paradox of Failure
To overcome failure, we have been taught to be persistent… take initiative…be aggressive… stick to it, and eventually we will gain the confidence to succeed more often. But the truth is that overcoming failure takes more than mental toughness and fervent initiative. It takes more than the ability to avoid or ignore your setbacks. Overcoming failure takes perspective.
?Here I wrote in the margin: Fear is nothing to be afraid of!
?Please remember that everybody fails, even the best and that failure has an upside.
?My thought: The Best of the Best are failures and that is why they are the BEST!
?A person’s emotional progression in response to failure goes something like this:
?Anger
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???????????????????????Disappointment
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???????????????????????????????????????????????Insecurity
???????????????????????????????????????????????????????????Fear of failure
I wrote in the margin: FAKE!
?On the other hand, salespeople with a healthy perspective of failure do not let their emotions go beyond disappointment. Ultimately, such salespeople end up in a better position than when they started.
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Anger?????????????????????????????????????????????????Confidence
???????????Frustration?????????????????Resolve
???????????????????????Disappointment
?This is the one to remember: Failure if perceived right, is the sharpest tool for whittling away our inconsistencies and inefficiencies
?Those who are brave enough to face their failures understand that to be successful, you have to risk failure.
?Take a look at the differences between the risk taker and the risk maker and for each description ask yourself does this save or steal time.?
The risk taker pursues dreams, aspires for greater success, is courageous, thinks about succeeding, is a pioneer, is resilient and is tenacious.
??The risk maker pacifies dreams, aspires for greater security, is cautious, thinks about not failing, is a plodder, is resistant and is timid.
??The risk taker risks because he or she understands it is the only way to create greater productivity.
??The risk maker makes risks by avoiding failure and this remains unproductive and increases the likelihood of regret.
?Three Risks Worth Taking With the right perspective, will help you be a more productive LO
??Here are the top three risks worth taking in your career:
?1. Develop an impossible vision. If you want more time to sell — and live — than you’ve ever had before, you must stick your neck out. You must dare to have an impossible vision for your business that includes these three parameters: You can’t accomplish it alone, it breeds excitement and fear simultaneously, and it requires risk. Take a chance and really dream here.
??T.S. Eliot once wrote “only those who risk going too far can possibly find out how far one can go”
??2. Become accountable to others. This is the best way to maximize your potential. Use your personal leverage, associate leverage and professional leverage to stretch your potential.
??3. Set exceedingly high standards so that failing to meet them will not have major consequences. It takes guts. You’ll need to stick to your guns in some potentially difficult situations. This particular risk isn’t just about having high integrity; it’s about leaving your office every day when you tell your family you will. It’s about paying attention to your health despite the work you need to get done. It’s about maintaining one face to every customer. It’s about saying no when you must — even when saying yes is more lucrative. VALUE SYSTEM
?When you are not afraid to take these 3 risks, you set yourself up for a level of success you may have never thought possible.
?After reading this I made massive changes in the way I looked at failure. Failure became a step stool for success.
?Remember success and failure go hand in hand.
?Looking at failure in a new light can help you make an impact your way.
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1 年Great post!!