Facing your Fears

There are a lot of situations where you can face a dilemma. Whether it is gearing up to do a big presentation, pushing for a raise, seeking a new job or going on a skydive there are ways to help you confront your fears head on and do what you need to do.

What FEAR stands for

One good way to confront your fear is to remember how life coach Pat Barone spells out FEAR- FEAR is False Evidence Appearing Real. In other words, a lot of the time what you are afraid of is not real or rational and if you think it through often you can get over a lot of the objections in your mind.

What are your goals?

People can often get so caught up in stress or anxiety they forget what they are aiming for. Focusing on what you can achieve and your goals can make it easier to keep clear on what you are looking to achieve rather than the obstacles stopping it.

Make it real then get rid of it

Another effective method is to write down the things you are afraid of. Some people store them in jars (similar to swear jars) while others write them down and tear them off. There are other methods you can do but the point is to acknowledge these things and then do what you can to move on.

Don’t feel bad about the fact you are afraid. This is a normal human emotion. The point of these exercises is to acknowledge how you feel and find ways that you can address it.

Find a way to beat it

People can often feel that they may be being held back. In this instance, there are ways to find this out- if you want to be a film director you don’t necessarily need a film school, you can become a runner and get experience on sets while making your own videos. If a job requires a qualification, there are ways to get it.

Whether it is learning how to make a business plan, improving your CV or any number of skills a lot of help is out there.

Avoid negativity

People can often put themselves down or feel negative without realising it. For example, instead of saying “I’m sorry I don’t know that” you should say “Please excuse me while I find out for you.”This is both in terms of how you work with people and how you address yourself and your own feelings. It is often said when coaching golf that coaches shouldn’t say to their client “Don’t hit the water” as the client will subconsciously think on the part of the sentence that says “Hit the water” which then leads to further frustration as they struggle to deal with this psychological obstacle.

We can help

For more information on how we can help you get more from your business please contact us today and we will be happy to find ways to help you achieve your goals.