Memory of Abuse
A 76-year-old woman was referred to me by her daughter for health and wellness. After a consultation about arthritis, a sleep issue, and some allergies, she shocked me by saying, “I’ve never had an orgasm. Can you fix that?”
“You have two grown children,” I replied in amazement, “and you’ve never had an orgasm?” “Yes,” she reiterated, “Never!”
Every once in a while, female patients would confide in me that they experienced pain with intercourse. My first question was always, “Have you ruled out any medical problems?” Or, “What does your gynecologist say?” Over the years, I’d had good results with eliminating this pain, but rarely had a woman told me she was unable to have an orgasm. It’s simply not part of the chiropractic routine…or it wasn’t, until now.
Dr. Ruth, I need you!
Anorgasmia is the inability to have orgasm, or regular difficulty reaching orgasm after ample sexual stimulation. Approximately 25% of women report difficulties with orgasm, and 10% have never had an orgasm. There are several medical causes for anorgasmia, including cardiovascular disease, multiple sclerosis; pelvic trauma (i.e. from a fall or accident); hormonal imbalances or menopause; surgeries or medical procedures (i.e. uterine embolization); childbirth trauma; vulvodynia; and the side effects of medication.
In addition, 40% of women have either complained about sexual dissatisfaction or experienced difficulty becoming sexually aroused at some point in their lives. However, the problem is often not of a physical nature. Men can be part of the problem; some are impatient and don’t realize the timing might be different for a woman; others simply don’t know how to satisfy their mate. In such cases, women often don’t say anything or may even fake orgasm to avoid hurting their partner’s feelings.
On the other hand, anorgasmia can also be caused by performance anxiety on the part of the woman. She may worry so much about the pleasure of her partner that she becomes anxious and unable to relax. This delays orgasm, which creates more anxiety, and so on. Then there is a cause that, when I hear of it, always makes me cringe. It is when a woman tells me she was sexually abused as a child.
Some practitioners believe that inability to have orgasms is caused by an emotional or psychological issue, but my experience is that anorgasmia is a “subconscious energy block,” usually the result of traumatic past memory. After my patient told me she knew of no medical cause for her problem, I suggested doing kinesiology, a form of muscle testing that I employ to communicate with the body and determine what’s going on. When there is no tangible explanation for a problem, muscle testing can be helpful. Sure enough, within a few minutes, I accessed her as having an energy block. I theorized that if this block was removed, she should no longer have difficulty reaching orgasm.
How do I do this? In my many years as a holistic practitioner, I have learned how to move energy without any force. I do chiropractic without manipulation. Similarly, the treatment for anorgasmia is an extremely gentle spinal tapping procedure with an instrument, called Arthrostim. It uses an electronic pulsing that delivers hundreds of oscillating taps that releases stuck energy. I describe it as acupuncture without the needles.
After two sessions of healing energy, my patient’s wish came true. Her results are not an anomaly, either. Now, when a woman tells me, “I want to have sex, I like sex, but never reach an orgasm,” I first make sure their doctor has ruled out any physical problems. If the answer is yes, I then feel comfortable doing this “healing energy” treatment. Usually after a few sessions, any woman can enjoy having orgasms.
To be clear, my approach is a physical release, not “talk it out therapy,” in fact, it rarely involves any discussion at all about what is inhibiting climax. You don’t need medication, exploratory surgery, psychiatric care, mechanical devices, twelve weeks of kegel exercises, mindfulness training, nutritional supplements, or celery juice, which is all the rage these days, but may take a few years to detox the body. An energetic release, on the other hand, is immediate and specific to the area of the body that needs it. If you experience discomfort when making love, or having a climax, just know there is a simple process that will quickly and painlessly put this problem to bed.
For more information on Anorgasmia, go to https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/anorgasmia/symptoms-causes/syc-20369422
For male anorgasmia, go to https://www.verywellhealth.com/anorgasmia-causes-and-treatment-options-2328525
BIO: For 20 years in Los Angeles, Dr. Mike treated many celebrities, pro athletes, and CEOs. He has toured the country treating colleagues. He has patented a multi vitamin formula for optimal absorption of nutrients. His book, Keep Your Eyes on Attracting Love is available on Amazon Kindle. Dr. Mike and his wife Andrea decided to raise their two children in Atlanta. In 2015, he was selected as a top holistic doctor in the state of Georgia. You can reach Dr. Mike by email: [email protected]