For Eye Problem use ‘Eye Drop’ and ‘ I ‘ Problem drop the ‘I’

“How can my ego-belief control or overcome my ego-belief?” How can a problem be solved with the same thing that had created it? The reason why you are full of ego is because this is a habitual way for your thoughts to explain what is going on all this because you believe that everything in this world consists of “you” and “the not you”, with “you” naturally being at the center. There are pleasant and unpleasant feelings that belong to “you”, and the goal is to maximize pleasant feelings and minimize the unpleasant ones. In order to achieve that goal you have the ability to “control” “the not you”, but this ability seems to fail when it comes to “controlling you” - hence your question.

But I don’t think this problem will ever be solved for as long as you stick to the above explanation only because this explanation is not convincing. It is a useful model in some limited contexts, but fundamentally it is wrong, and that’s exactly why problems like “inability to control self” seem to arise. They are the problems with the explanation, not with what it is trying to explain.

You will never be able to control or overcome the ego because both the control and the ego are illusions - something that ‘appears in your thoughts’ to be real, but in fact is just a figment of imagination. And there is no way how you can see it with more of the same thinking that continues to use the same concepts. This is like trying to remove a splinter with the splinter itself. The more you push it, the deeper it goes. You have to change your perspective to see how your current thinking was flawed.

When it comes to dealing with the ego-concept, which is naturally designed to work like attention magnet, changing perspective is really hard. That is why it is so easy to fall into the trap of selfish thinking and so hard to become free from it. The fact that our very pronoun-oriented speaking language is constructed around the same way of thinking both illustrates how pervasive it is and makes it even harder to abandon it. How in hell are we supposed to express our thoughts without using the word “I” in a conversation, right?

In my experience, the key to the escape door is realize the difference between thoughts and actual, direct experiences (also known as the “facts”), and carefully rely only on the latter when forming conclusions. This basic principle can be demonstrated by a practical exercise. You need two apples: one you have to buy in a grocery store, and the second one will be imaginary, i.e. you need to visualize it “in your head”. Now eat both apples and compare the experience. How many apples did you actually eat?

This is quite tricky in practical life, because real and imaginary experiences tend to follow each other in a very quick succession, both kinds pretending to be real. But it can be done. And when you master it, you will notice few following things:

? Thoughts about your ego are real, but your ego is not.

? Thoughts about controlling the ego are real, but your control is not.

? There is no center, no “inside” and “outside”, no “me” versus “them”.

? Pleasant feelings are not really desirable; unpleasant feelings are not really undesirable.

When you only see what is real and disregard what is not, there will be no more compulsory reliance on flawed concepts in thinking and no more ego-problem. And then you will be free to use the word “I” without being enslaved by it. People will tell you sort of nonsense about ‘me' ‘I' and ‘self'. Don’t listen to it. I will tell you what might actually matter.  Now ask yourself, how is ego and pride coming to you in the first place and how is it affecting your life. Is the ego is present because you're really good at something?

Or is it because you were raised being spoilt kid and you feel you own the world? Find the reason. Now here is most important thing. How does that affect your life and others? Are you being mean to someone because of it? Do you insult people? You don’t like being corrected? Or you make mistakes because you are too sure of yourself?

1.) If you are being mean to even a smallest person of society then its issue of apathy. Then think of your parent or loved one in situation whenever you are about to be mean, think of some body being harsh and mean to your loved one and try to push yourself to have empathy for people. Overtime this will turn into habit and people will enjoy your empathy for them.

2.) You don’t like being corrected/ you make mistakes because you are too sure of yourself?

Then let me tell you, you're in wrong environment. Be where people know it better and can show you what you don’t know. Such experiences will humble you down and over a period again with growing knowledge of the world and skills you will relieve yourself of behaviour of taking yourself as king of world and accept that you're one of the 7 billion and need to stick to basics. Also you will need some jolting experiences on way that is created by you being too sure of something.

There is no overnight pill to relieve you of this basic human emotion of vanity or pride which is one of the seven sins. Trust me no amount philosophy will help you. Now that you noticed that you may have ego its beginning of the journey. Most people I suppose don’t even realize. If you find the ways where it is affecting your life you will find answers to overcome it. It is about training your mind.

If the said ego is not affecting your life and people around you and if it's there because you are indeed really good at something then it's just some strong confidence in yourself. Just keep it in check and learn enough. And as they say, it's never enough. Keep meeting and associating better people at the first chance you get. Exposure is the key. And you will find it gets just better.

Supporting a large ego can be extremely stressful, as it requires regular feeding. Some arrogance is a natural byproduct. Arrogance can easily blind us to our mistakes, because recognizing and admitting to them is humbling experience. So reducing the size of your ego, will improve your ability to recognize your mistakes, and make you smarter. That is one more motivation. There is a difference, between acting like you are smarter than everyone else, and believing it, but not acting like it.

Write down a list of the things you do, that are destroying your relationships. On a separate page, write down alternative positive behaviors. From my experience, talking less and actively listening is a good place to begin. Just try to be little supportive of other people's ideas. Add to the discussion, rather than lead. Why humans converse. When you talk to me and your words interest me, then I receive a chemical reward. I am important enough to hear your words, and you may wish to hear my response. Cheers!