Expressing Gratitude: The Power of a Simple Thank You Note

Growing up, I remember begrudgingly writing thank-you notes after every birthday and holiday. My parents—mostly my mom—insisted on it. At the time, it felt like a chore. But over the years, that task turned into a habit and eventually became a value I now pass on to my own kids. While they follow through, they do so reluctantly for now, much like I once did.

As my career developed and I stepped into leadership roles, I began to understand the deeper significance of a handwritten note. It’s not just a gesture—it’s a recognition of impact. For me, knowing that I’ve had a positive influence is one of the most meaningful gifts I can give or receive.

A handwritten note communicates that someone took the time to acknowledge an effort or action that mattered. In the workplace, such acknowledgments go beyond common courtesies—they demonstrate emotional intelligence and set individuals apart. Taking the time to write a note shows an awareness of others’ contributions and a willingness to celebrate them, qualities that are essential in business and leadership.

Personally, nothing brightens my day like a thank-you note or a “just because” card. Leaders, in particular, may need these small gestures of recognition more than anyone else. They’re often tasked with showing appreciation to others—through rewards, feedback, or recognition—but they don’t always receive the same in return. Hearing genuine appreciation from a team member can be a rare and meaningful reminder that their efforts matter too.

So, if you’re fortunate enough to work in an organization where you feel valued, challenged, and fulfilled, take a moment to express that gratitude. A simple note to your supervisor or a leader you admire can go a long way. It not only strengthens relationships but could also inspire the organization to invest more in recognition and appreciation for everyone on the team.

This week, as my daughter officially enters her teen years, she surprised me by saying, “It feels good to write thank-you notes to people. I like it.” For me, that’s a small but significant victory. She’s developing a habit that’s not just good manners but a vital skill for the workplace—and for life.