Experience is what you do with what happens to you

Life keeps on giving your experience every day and it is up to us actually as to how do we learn from the everyday experience we get and keep learning from earlier mistakes and misdeeds and do a better job next time round. First of all let me admit that I have never stayed away from home for long time, my travel has been for a few days and then am back to home for another few days hence I never really experienced staying away from home for say 1 full year.

I believe that staying away from parents at least for 1 year minimum in your student years will teach you a lot of things. How to look after yourself in terms of personal hygiene and cleanliness, how to give value of time and money, how to manage your good health and over all will either make you a great or a better person or might break you as well if you indulge into wrong stuff but you wont be the same again and also you would not be an average person in terms of life. You would be changed for sure either for good or bad depends on your choices but I have seen boys becoming more disciplined and start loving home much more after staying away for a year away from the cozy comforts of home food and parental love and care.

Experience having a girlfriend. Having a girl friend is also very vital in life as it will teach you something that no one else can !!! And I really mean it. Apart from a great new company and nice time including physical relationship and satisfied youth you would be prepared for better things in life as well. It will teach you real value of your own money, it will teach you about respect to women, how they think like them and for them and how their brain works, how can they be part of your life and fulfill you, so far so good for having a good time with your girlfriend.

However, if your have gone bad in that relationship it will also teach you about all the hardships of life, how you can be a stronger person after a break up, how silly you were earlier and how easily you were cheated and all that. These things nobody can teach you !! but mark my words these are the things that no matter how often you learn or listen from your fellow mates, unless you experience them first hand, you will never ever learn or live your life fully !!! You need to have a girl in your life for sure !!!

Spending time playing with young kids. Yes, if you get a chance whenever, don't loose that option!! When you play with small kids often you should look at their reactions and their simplicity towards life and having innocent fun !!! How simplest of things make them laugh and how they are trying to cope up to new things. We have passed that stage but we never got a chance to see that experience from third person perspective. This will be an enriching experience, being always happy and stratifying and will make you learn simple things like being happy doesn't need stuff, its from within and how selflessly you can laugh for stupid things as well

Spending time with or staying with grand parents this is a very rich experience life offers. It helps you to understand their value systems and their beliefs as well. Because they have seen the world one generation before your parents they will tell you things you never ever imagined how they used to live and how they prospered in life having nothing to start with. I mean you will get old too so your grand parents are telling you stuff what they have learnt and how they are now on the path where they can guide you as well. They have words of wisdom and secrets or lots of things to share !! Listen to them all, you never know what enriching things you may come across from them. They give you so much unconditional love.

Preferably take a break between your change of jobs and stay without pay for at least 2–3 months before you join the next company. If possible, give a break between you job and you would realize a lot of new things that you haven't realized till now as you were busy engrossed in earning and running the rat race while earning good money. It also holds good for couple of reasons and if you are bachelor its different and if you married its different.

Being a bachelor you might end up spending all your money within 2 months and then you left with less money for a month or 2 or until you get another job, This break phase teaches you a lot about reality, how you have been spending money recklessly when you were earning. If you smoke, this will be an eyeopener as how effortlessly you smoked so many fags a day and now you realize how much money you have wasted. This will be the time when you might see true friends and fake friends as well. You come back being minimalist for a month before you start the next job so that you learn to spend only as needed.

If you were married during the break time, you will have and spend full on quality time with your wife, kids and parents and go for trips with them. Visit your native place and refresh yourself completely. Life is not all about running on the tread mill and believing that I will enjoy later, I will do this later, I will do that later, IT never works that way !!! That moment gone is gone, your small little cute kid will be then in 8 standard by the time you realize I could never spend time with my toddler and kids are great when they are toddlers they have grown up so much so early that they don't really need you then!!!

Always plan to go on solo trips without anyone with you and without any planning or booking. Yes, this is also one awesome thing to do. To know your self, to know how you fair in this world. To know your strength and weakness. Basically to understand yourselves you need to do this. Will make you a more better person that you are. When you go on a travel without any booking or a plan it is more enjoyable as you can spend as much time as you want in a place you like instead of running from place to place.

Learn to swim in rivers and seas. Whenever you get a chance, never let that go. When you see a wild river lake or pond or waterfall or anything that is not man made do take a plunge !!! Venturing into an unknown pond or lake is like overcoming lots of your fears. It is never ever as fake as swimming in a swimming pool. Its scary but in a good way. Its a confidence booster for sure !! Try it out !!

Of course you need to know swimming or be a champ simply go as far as you can and take a few dips and feel the fear coming into you and when you stay there, slowly you would feel how your inner self has grown confident and you feel better. The scary thoughts about where your footstep lands, what might bite you, what if its a deadly animal and so on.. all these things come inside when you get into a wild lake or pond or river but as you spend time there, it will ease out and will make you laugh with joy n pleasure.

Also experience staying some mountains or hilly area for a year.This also has a deep sense of self revival and calmness to it. Stay in hilly region and try and make it as remote as possible. You would feel your body day in and out. When the temperatures get extreme you would know how good or bad you are in terms of health and mental strength. You would walk a lot and that will have a greater impact and the pure oxygen you will intake, will make your soul better than ever. You would eat simple food and your body will work more than it ever did and hence I want you to stay in these area for at least an year. The more the better !!!! You would love yourself after that. how great, healthy and better you feel !!! Makes a lot of difference emotionally, physically!!

I think by the time you return to your comfort zone after experiencing all that life has to offer you return as a learned and experienced person who has seen the world from a different angle and also seen how it feels when you are on your own without any support from the family, this kind of exposure makes you a better human being and a mature person in due course of time. Cheers!