Is expecting and trusting wrong today?

Trust is a two way agreement. It is more about how you extend trust and build trust rather than grant trust as a gift. It is not wrong to trust others today, however it is necessary to protect yourself and be aware of breaches in trust. People will break your trust from time to time because they are only human. That is an opportunity for you. It is an opportunity to forgive human nature. Through that forgiveness, many times but not always, the other person will understand that you care about them. Sometimes that forgiveness will give the person the understanding of what loyalty and trust means. At that point, you will have earned their trust and they will be trustworthy and loyal. People are not perfect, they want to be valued by others. When you understand this, you will begin to have as many trusted people in your life as you wish.

But today its wrong to trust anyone and this dilemma whether to trust or not leads to not to trust others nowadays. Because your first meeting with anyone is not enough to build trust on that person. Trust is like something which can’t be seen and which cant be done but its a long process of analyzing the one standing beside you. Trust is the most valuable thing to give someone and if you trust someone it means you have given all the rights to that person to know about you and your things. So,its your choice that the person whom you have shown tons of trust is really worth that.

The foremost example which I can give you now recently is the sad case of Sushant Singh Rajput. He trusted everyone around and what did they do to him is very clear in front of the whole world. So, the person around you, you think cares for you may not be the same and is preparing to destroy you. It’s difficult to get someone for whom your success is their success and your sorrow is their sorrow. Yes,we can’t trust anyone nowadays, because people are being mostly selfish and have lost their humanity level. Life has become a race so everyone wants to run faster than the other by using whatever tactics they can implement for their win.

I am also not able to trust anyone because there are many persons who have broken it and I am not able to trust anyone now. Earlier I was a person who used trust everyone without thinking a bit but now its really difficult because I have gone through so many thinks due to this thing called trust. I cant trust anyone anymore and its absolutely okay if you don't trust anyone. When trust comes expectation comes and expectations always hurt. I suppose being hurt so much over your life means that you put up barriers to protect your feelings. I realised I could never trust fully again recently.

Like if I close my eyes and imagine myself as a child, I can see that I always managed to see the good in people. Then people start to let you down and, for us, we then start to look at others as people that might hurt us as it has happened before. I would rather live alone and without love than put myself through the torture of heartbreak and suspicion again. Others may disagree and say that I am missing out, but I would rather be alone than open myself up to more pain.

We all agree that it's human nature to stay away from the things that hurt him/her.. it's a lesson we learn.. but soon... we forget that we were hurt and in few years... we again fell in a trap of love and affection... and again we get hurt or we get enlightened about love. So the most important is even if you love someone, just don't expect anything in return because love is beautiful but expectations hurt. all things are wrong with him/her…” by whose assumption are they ‘wrong?’…If someone does not hold the same values or viewpoint as you, it doesn't make you or them wrong. However, if they don't hold the same values as you, there is little point in you putting trust in them because you will find that trust will be broken.

Because trust gives the other person to take us for granted and trust also makes a person vulnerable to the other one.Trusting people up to a certain point is a good thing but we must set limits of levels till which a person can be trusted or how much he/she must be trusted and for that we must set rules because I have borne issues and faced a lot a problems due to trusting others has lead me to grave dangers which has became a matter of life or death if I would not have taken my step back.

Trust is a good because it gives liberty to people to take actions without the fear that something might go wrong or they will be answerable or are they capable or not but to much trust lead to misuse of power and loss of self reliance and which leads to dependency and vulnerability which leads to expectations and leading to breaking of trust and heart aches so to evict these issues we must set limits in each and everything which will help us to thrive every relation and let things take action on their on course of speed and which can help us to understand that their is not need to be feared and pained due to loss of trust or being abused. Cheers!