Expectations or suddenness….what will U choose…

Having expectations are the life threatening instances when you are about to take charge of your whole life and suddenly the dreams of your parents, grand parents, teachers, siblings, community start appearing from nowhere as if you don’t have a choice. Expectations are those colourful dreams which have been filled into us from external sources . Expectations are motivators and they do drive us to get more accomplished in little time and yet leave you grappling.

Since the time I was raised expectations were the new normal ….you are expected to keep quiet, you expected to obey your parents, you expected to agree with elders and so on ..the list is endlessly boring and uncouth for. The strong usage of these words usher in some memories where I was personally asked to never ask “why” that was the forbidden word especially when its elders. Hence it had a deep imprint as if I had been handicapped. It was underlined that since elders are older than us and they are speaking to you with a lot of experience they cannot be wrong but how an inquisitive mind can rock the solid foundation will not be disliked and seen with contempt. Deep down for years this feeling of “don’t ask why” continued to haunt me and I kept telling my self you are not supposed to ask why…. I abided by as a result unfathomable unshakable trust in people, situations, surroundings as if one channel between me and the source called intuition was peculiarly jammed.?

I happen to relive my past in one of these recent coaching sessions where the person just blocked something that was not making sense. A person usually has an access to three sources of validation when trying to find answers within self one of them being the logical space which helps us to reason out different aspects and is useful in weighing options. The second is feelings the good feeling where the heart almost swells up and gives out a sigh of relief and the other feeling you must have come across as “ it doesn’t feel right”. The third pillar is intuition which is coming from a sense of knowing somewhere deep within you always knew what was going on.

A person is well equipped with these three powerful spaces that they can go in and come out as the need be felt, neither its told nor its taught its present but what generally happens is not relying on these powerful spaces due to external barriers or expectations. These spaces are jammed by belief systems, trained or conditioned spaces or assumptions or interpretations? or expectations to follow all of it to the T . Therefore its very important to periodically check if the “self” has fallen victim to such circumstances unconsciously and operating from a jammed space which is not working at optimum level.

In the current set up the person is trained and have spent quite a number of years in military which cultivated the mind and the intuitive space but the emotional mindset was jammed. This unfortunately has led the person to not being able to become an empath by stepping in other’s shoes and feeling their pain rather become more angry. This emotional disconnect with self is kind of activating the self-sabotage mode in relationships where expectations thrive but the shortsightedness brought in due to lack of emotions does not view the situation through the lens of compassion.

The intuitive part when not balanced makes you more dependent on external sources like astrology, psychics and so on…. but even then the intuitive you is always ready to guide you through? you and make the navigation a cakewalk instead of hitting at each step through logic you might make your way out in just one leap of faith on your intuition. Part of me knows what happens when you cannot tune into your intuition you feel you are less capable and often out of need to balance this self judged “I am not capable enough”? you start relying on external mediums and get entangled? and the expectation here is we ought to check time and again if things are following the course as earlier seen by these medium dwellers.?

When the logic is switched off it is mysteriously a shameful space where suddenly the whole cosmos has opinions about how dumb you are.? As logic fails you then you fall behind the pack (read herd mentality) and may be you are the point of ridicule.? You can become a pawn for the most logical humans as they can be manipulative,? exploitative and so on. This space has maximum ways of abuse and the expectation is everyone is naive like them. The naivety is their cocoon and their go to place where they stay uninterrupted unless “suddenness” rocks their boat.?

Expectations is the norm…unchallenged …over protected and brings out not such an authentic you? whereas suddenness is freshness and aliveness around you. In case the holographic (logic, feelings and intuition together are called holographic way of thinking)? thinking is blossoming in a person there is a balance and the actions that spring from this space is not unhealthy neither do they feel misaligned. Suddenness is like removing the secure layer all of a sudden without preparation and why most of us dislike this space is because it makes us feel powerless and not ready to face it but in reality that is the time when you are the most powerful being with absolute control on your three spaces (logic, feeling and intuition) you are attentive and has a deeper sense of knowing of how to make your way out…

Suddenness is baffling, mind boggling, renders you powerless but leads you back in absolute control of your own self ….more in sync with the real “Who”….? Have you experienced your expectations being shattered by the suddenness of change…. were you thrown off….#Shambho #leaders #leadershipdevelopment?#motivation #success #consciousplanet #people #leadershipdevelopment #leaders #coaching #stress #consciousness #innovation #future #creativity #digitalmarketing #entrepreneurship #careers #socialnetworking #startup #futurism #europe

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