Expectations breed disconnection

Lets talk about expectations..

I want you to answer the following with total self honesty...

?? How high are your expectations of your partner and your children? Are they realistic, or do you place undue pressure on them to always meet your unattainable standards?

?? When your children stumble, when they falter on their path, how do you respond? Do you find yourself consumed by judgment, criticism, and fear? Do you fear how they will turn out as adullts? Are you constantly worrying about their decisions and behaviours, desperately trying to "fix" them? Or do you meet them where they're at, with love and compassion, recognising that without challenges they don’t learn and grow?

?? And what about your partner? When they fall short of your expectations? Do you blame them, judge them, or expect them to change to fit your mould? Do you approach them with frustration or disappointment, or do you meet them with empathy and understanding, recognising that they too are human, imperfect, and deserving of compassion?

As you reflect on these questions, pay attention to the thoughts and emotions that arise within you. What stories do you tell yourself about these experiences? What beliefs do you hold about success, failure, and worthiness?

Here's a truth that cuts deep: The expectations we hold for others are often a reflection of the expectations we hold for ourselves. If we're constantly striving for perfection, relentlessly chasing an elusive standard of success, we will project that onto those around us.

Its NEVER about the other person, its always about us. If you’re hard on yourself, you’re consumed by your own feelings of inadequacy, of not feeling enough, your own fear of judgement or rejection, or failing. These expectations reflect the expectations that were placed on you growing up and now you're unconsciously projecting them onto those around you.

So often we’re trying to prove our own worth through the achievements of our loved ones.

Just know that expectations breed disconnection.

They drive a wedge between us and our true selves, between us and those we love.

We have to learn to truly love and accept all parts of ourselves so that we can extend that to others.

Because until you come home to your truth, you’ll never be able to see the truth in others.

This is why we do the inner work—to have a deeper understanding of ourselves. To break free from the illusion that we’re broken, that there’s something to fix, and that we’re not enough.

To heal from our addiction to doubt, to comparison, to people please, to blame, to prove, and to embrace our inherent worthiness.

So take a step back, and breathe, disintegrate the expectations…its ok to let go, its ok to just be.

You've always been enough..it's time you remembered that.

If you want support on your journey back to self, reach out..this is the work I do, to help you disintegrate everything that isn't you, so you can start to embody everything that is.