Expansion of Leadership means Expansion of the Heart - Unconditionally!

Happy Friday! ?

The past months, particularly the past week, were the most challenging. My inner and outer world, positioning, and everything else were readjusted - which is part of the alignment process.

Priorities shifted, opportunities emerged, and painfully, things fell apart and went for good.

Repositioning can't be bought.

Consciousness is not woo-woo; it means seeing the connection. It is repositioning and leadership by claiming the position you're meant to take on and guiding others on the unbeaten path. This repositioning is a rebranding that only works with 100% authenticity.

Trust can be 'bought' through explanations, favors, and money, and leadership can be acquired through a course or seminar, where you 'convince' people with your skills that you know how to lead people in various styles.

Leadership is nothing to be learned through a seminar. Authentic leadership is walking the unbeaten path.

Leadership means stepping out of your comfort zone, being vulnerable, and realizing that you can create your own path—by being you and showing your real you in a crisis! We often disguise crises and love to show off our successes. Or we use a crisis after we've been through it to show that we're heroes—or sometimes, our card blanche to victimhood.

Losing control opens the path to expansion: Stepping up!

This is the hardest part for all of us: feeling like we're losing control of things. What's happening is that we touch new territory. This new territory requires expansion, and with this expansion comes the demand to build up.

We always assume we can 'buy' more staff, that is, employ people, outsource, or pay people to stay or to be.

My journey led me down a new path. I did this all the time in the past. I always 'paid' for favors, and most of us 'leaders' do that.

I went behind my daughter's back to get her an apartment, negotiating with the future landlord a deal to have two contracts so that she would only pay it partially, as she wants to finance herself and be independent.

Guess what happened? Speaking of being controlling vs. authentic and allowing change and expansion, the contract miraculously did not work out - after all was ready to sign. I'm sure some parents reading this can link to that behavior and my thoughts. I wanted the best for her - but it was not my job. As a leader, you sometimes have to accept your kids and employees to want to be independent and step aside and face the reality of: did you do your job right - if you did, it's all trust in yourself and your self-worth.

I pushed too hard to keep my hands in the game instead of letting go and admitting - she wanted to be independent.

When people refuse your support - don't chase them or trick them into it to stay on top of things - even if it's for their best. In fact, you don't know that.

Being a family leader means letting go and allowing expansion and growth.

Guilt and Shame Free in Crisis

Expansion means growth on multiple levels, and one of these levels is expanding your heart to give and receive. Especially as leaders, parents and people who usually run things, ?it is easy to give. But to receive or ask for help - whoa, don't pull me to the edge. This means I failed, I can't get shit done on my own, how can I possibly lead?

Well, this is also leadership: asking for help. Again, when people don't receive your ask, it is not their business—they would not help you but add another complexity to it. Authentic leadership magnetizes your team, and although you hold the vision for the team, company, or family, others can only help if they know what is needed.

I'm so so bad at asking for help. Maybe I didn't allow it, so I asked the wrong people and received the response I wanted: Do it all by yourself. Get yourself out of it, which I did. However, expansive leadership only works through allowing help and not just favors but also receiving help in a crisis.

However, it is also important to provide others with the opportunity to give, by you as a leader, asking for support and receiving it guilt—and shame-free. There are certain things you can't figure out alone.

Oh dear, shame! We dwell in you so much! Shame for admitting defeat, shame for not knowing everything, shame for realizing: 'I made a decision, and now things went South, and I need help.? Wait, hold on, it is not a messing up it is a new way to grow and expand my leadership and part of it is asking for help!? Because as a leader with a clear vision,? you guide the way out with the help of the outside.? Without any guilt, because you know where you are going and why the world needs what you do and so you openly and freely ask for help.? Because you believe in your purpose.?

We don’t have to do it all alone or suffer.? And my dear followers. God put me in that position to experience and understand.

Don't Feel to Balance and Make it right

I’m experiencing an experience unlike any of the challenges I've overcome in the past years. This morning, at 5:55 a.m., I realized I needed to get this feature out. Self-worth is not selfishness, and the people who are aligned with you will feel called to act. I trust in the all-connecting power. It will land with the right people, and they know what to do.

And forget those sentences: I wish I could help, but xyz. Those who help know why they do it. Because they see you and are aligned with your vision and mission, they see the connecting of the dots of the macro.

My task is to get this perspective out there. Funny enough, as I mentioned in my previous features, I'm going through my program again. It feels like I'm redoing the MVP, and my readers see the outcome of the 30-day program. Me in a new authentic light, I've never dared to step into before. Now I fully accept and claim it.

A leader is so steadfast in his vision that they know the best outcome to the minute's detail. Only then connecting the dots to that is obvious.

The most challenging thing is expressing a concrete request and reaching the right people who sincerely support your cause. ?

You call in people who are a match without finding your haters to use them against you.

And you don't owe anybody anything. God/the universe matched supply and demand through your ask and people are channels, circulators of money or other material things.

Suppose someone offers you 50k just because - take it. Say thank you, and trust me, if it comes from an open heart, the giver will receive it double or triple from other sources. It's in flow, and you allow the flow by receiving it guilt or obligation-free.

My ask

I’m doing that right now.? People who are genuinely interested in supporting me with my work and my mission and seeing how we are aligned - DM me; I'm in an emergency right now, where you might play a crucial role.

It's actually quite logical, then, because my newsletter is a puzzle piece to your story and to your success. When you give with an open heart, you'll receive because there is a void to be filled, and when the heart opens, your potential expands.

It's unconditional—not in a romantic sense but from the perspective of the leader, as you hold the vision for abundance and growth.

No more words are needed.? If it’s for you, you’ll feel it.? If not, I'm sharing it to encourage you to ask and accept help as leaders!

Love

Danny