Exes Who Want You Back - Here's Your Chance

In life, if you observe for long enough, you'll get to marvel that the tables turn in every unimaginable situation. The powerless will reign. The less advantaged will be in advantage. The unpopular becomes popular. The once needy becomes wanted.

Observe your life, and with time, you see the tables turn. An example is your job. When you applied, you needed that job to work out, but by the time you are ready to move on and are seeking new employment, your company needs you more than you need them.

Same as in your personal life: in friendships and equally in intimate relationships. Your life patterns mirror your work life because work and life are one.

Your ex may have undervalued you, even have been abusive towards you. You felt powerless and struggled to move on. You felt like they were your world and you needed them. The more you pushed to make some magic happen that wasn't even there, the faster and more brutally they pulled away.

You've recovered from that pain, but you struggled. You've been focusing on your own growth. You've created amazing career success. You're having fun, you're in a great place, and it suddenly happens.

Out of the blue, they find you and message you on social media! (You already deleted them eons ago!)

When you don't answer, they find your business email address and email you.

Here's a life pop quiz: What should you do here?

A. POLITICALLY CORRECT: Answer politely and with curiosity

B. POLITICALLY INCORRECT: Answer with strong words - tell them exactly how you feel and what you think of them

C. SHADE: Crickets ??

Of course, what you do should depend on your situation. All of the above can be the correct answer, depending on how you parted ways.

The right answer is doing the right thing for your integrity.

A is only acceptable if it was a mutual, reciprocal, fair break-up. If that was the case, it's a no-brainer!

More likely, your break-up was highly charged with a lack of respect and empathy.

This is your chance to redeem your integrity and show yourself how far you've come. The move you make in this scenario shows you in action how much you value yourself.

What move will give you power now? Let's break it down.

Stay away from B, no matter how angry and resentful you feel. Saying whatever comes to your mind to someone who didn't care about your feelings is giving your power away... again! You might feel strong and fierce telling them what's what! You want to get back at them, but that doesn't flatter you. Everything that's written is a written record forever. Protect your reputation! No matter what you feel inside, stay elegant!

CHOOSE C if you were suddenly dumped via text, ghosting, after sex, was cheated on.

CHOOSE C If you felt abused or taken advantage of in your relationship.

WHY CHOOSING C IS THE BEST: You simply don't resonate with that vibration. Don't start wondering if they've changed, because if they did, the beginning of the message has to be a hard apology, not, "Sup," or "Hi."

Your life is so good that you can't ever imagine ever needing them, or anyone. You're self-sufficient. You're having fun! You're on a high vibe!

Your confidence and trust in yourself strengthen with the repetition of small healthy habits. What you do here matters. The right move builds more self-trust and a higher sense of integrity. It helps you see how far you've come.

The tables have fully gyrated!

A Rich and Loved Queen has no time for nonsense. ??????

Julia Cha is a Holistic Success Coach for change-makers and change leaders of the world. Love this? Subscribe, and check out her latest book, Bad B!tch On Top.

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