Executive Presence for Midlife Women Leaders: What Really Works

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As I entered my 40s and 50s, I learned that being an effective leader required more than just fulfilling the duties of the job. It was about how I carried myself and showed up.

Executive presence became a game-changing factor.

The truth is, executive presence isn't about playing by outdated rules or waiting to be recognized. It's about claiming your space, using your voice, and leading with intention.

For midlife women, this means embracing our unique wisdom and experience while clearly stating that we aren't content to follow someone else's path.

In this article, I'll break down what truly works for midlife women to enhance their executive presence, empowering them to show up as the authentic, powerful, and confident leaders they're meant to be.

Essential Elements of Executive Presence for Midlife Women

Executive presence usually involves three key elements: gravitas (how others perceive your authority), communication (how well you share your ideas), and appearance (how you present yourself).

However, for midlife women, these elements can feel a little different:

Gravitas: For midlife leaders, it means unapologetically owning our years of knowledge.

You’ve earned it—now use it.

Despite decades of experience, we’re still told to second-guess ourselves—enough of that!

Gravitas tells us to step into our authority and lead?without asking for permission. It’s about using your voice to say,

‘I belong here, and I know what I’m doing.’

Leading with empathy doesn’t mean you’re soft—it means you’re strategic. Sylvia Ann Hewlett’s research shows that leadership today also requires being inclusive and making sure all are heard and seen , not just having confidence.

Communication: By midlife, we’ve probably mastered many communication skills, but that doesn’t mean resting on our laurels in this digital age.

You need to command attention on Zoom just like you would in person. That means being deliberate about how you show up in virtual spaces. Your body language, tone, and energy must all signal that you are in charge.

Don’t let the screen dilute your presence. Be as intentional online as you are in person.

Appearance: It’s not about being perfect. It’s about looking polished and comfortable in your skin. Authenticity is key. People trust leaders who show up as themselves.

"To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment.” — Ralph Waldo Emerson

Debunking Myths About Leadership Styles for Women Over 50

Some myths about women over 50 in leadership need to be busted.

These false ideas can hold us back or make us question our abilities just as we hit our stride. Debunking these myths is essential for building a strong executive presence because they challenge outdated ideas that can limit how confidently we show up and lead.

Myth 1: Women Over 50 Are Less Ambitious

Not true.

Ambition evolves with age—it may take new forms, but it’s far from disappearing. Many women over 50 pursue goals with renewed purpose, often focused on impact, mentorship, or personal growth rather than traditional career milestones. As life responsibilities shift, such as children becoming independent, women usually have more time and space to focus on these meaningful ambitions.

While it’s not accurate to say ambition universally increases with age, it’s clear that ambition for midlife women often shifts toward different priorities.

For some, this means exploring new career paths or advancing within their fields. For others, it means setting goals that contribute to their communities or build lasting legacies. The myth that women over 50 are less ambitious fails to recognize that their ambition doesn’t disappear—it simply adapts and expands.

We send a clear message about our presence when we embrace our changing ambitions. For us, executive presence means showing up with a new sense of purpose and direction that people can’t ignore.

Myth 2: Older Women Can’t Adapt to Modern Leadership Styles

Let’s get one thing straight: women have been leading since the dawn of time.

From warriors and queens like Nzinga Mbande and Cleopatra to present-day powerhouses like Oprah and Hillary, women have shaped history, business, and government long before "leadership" became a popular buzzword.

Forbes points out that the notion of women being “new” to leadership stems mainly from the relatively small number of women executives visible today.

It’s simply that history hasn’t always given us our due.

Women over 50 have lived through enormous changes—tech revolutions, economic shifts, evolving workplace dynamics—and we haven’t just adapted; we’ve thrived.

Many of us are leading the way forward, showing the next generation what resilient, innovative leadership looks like. Women over 50 bring decades of experience, perspective, and agility to the table—qualities that modern leadership demands.

Midlife women have adapted to every change thrown at them. Executive presence here is about using all that experience and showing others we’re not only keeping up—we’re often leading the way.

Myth 3: The "Glass Ceiling" is the Biggest Barrier for Midlife Women

While the "glass ceiling"—the invisible barrier to top-level leadership positions—still exists, research shows that it’s not the only or even the biggest obstacle women face. The "broken rung"—the gap in early promotions to managerial roles—profoundly impacts women’s career trajectories, especially for midlife women who may have missed these crucial early promotions.

Studies by McKinsey & Company and LeanIn.org reveal that for every 100 men who receive their first promotion to manager, only 87 women do. That disparity is even more significant for women of color. This early gap limits the pool of women who gain managerial experience early on, setting women back before they even reach mid-career.

Without those initial steps, women face fewer opportunities to develop leadership skills, build visibility, and position themselves for executive roles over time.

So, while the glass ceiling is still a real barrier, the broken rung creates a structural disadvantage from the start. For midlife women, this missing step early in their careers continues to impact their progression, leaving them at a disadvantage even before they reach the upper rungs of leadership.

Addressing the broken rung is essential to level the playing field and ensure that all women have a fair shot at leadership from the beginning.

Executive presence requires that people see us and our experience. The broken rung holds women back from this visibility early on, so fixing it now means giving midlife women the room to show up with authority earned through years of work.

As we debunk these myths, it’s clear that each affects how midlife women leaders show up with confidence and command. Breaking these old ideas makes it easier to fully own our leadership presence.

"Age is no barrier. It’s a limitation you put on your mind." — Jackie Joyner-Kersee

Top Skills for Enhancing Your Leadership Presence as a Midlife Leader

Building a solid executive presence starts with a leadership mindset—a belief in your abilities and confidence in your value as a leader. This mindset is the foundation for showing up powerfully and inspiring others.

1. Clear, Strategic Communication

Clear, strategic communication is essential, whether speaking in person or online. Today, your presence has to be as strong on Zoom as in the room. I remember feeling like I was fading into the background during virtual meetings.

To fix that, I made a point of looking people straight in the eye by looking directly into the camera (it felt odd at first) and using a stronger voice. That small change made a difference—I could tell people were really hearing me.

By the way, some research shows that virtual presence is a major part of executive presence, especially in remote or hybrid work environments.

TIP: In your next virtual meeting, focus on looking directly into the camera and sitting up tall. Speak with purpose, like you’re in the room. Notice the shift in how others respond—it’s a small change, but it can transform how you come across.

2. Authenticity and Emotional Intelligence

Being authentic is one of the best ways to build trust, and trust is at the core of executive presence.

As a midlife leader, you’ve likely built a strong foundation of emotional intelligence (EQ) over years of experience. You’ve learned to stay steady when things get tough and listen deeply to what others need. However, further developing your EQ can take your presence to the next level.

When you lead with empathy, people feel valued and safe. When things got tough with my team, I made it a point to ask how they were holding up. It wasn’t just about the work—it was about showing I cared and that built trust we could lean on.

High EQ means reading the room, adapting your approach to your audience, and making people feel heard. Staying calm under pressure also inspires confidence in those around you.

Strengthening your EQ can make a real difference in how effectively you lead and how others respond to you as a leader.

TIP: Today, ask a team member or colleague how they’re doing—not just about work, but how they feel. Listen without jumping in to solve anything. Sometimes, showing you care is the first step to building deeper trust.

3. Decisiveness and Confidence

Decisiveness is critical. After years of experience, trust yourself to make bold calls. You’ve earned your seat at the table—stand firm in your decisions. People are drawn to confident and decisive leaders.

I remember times when I had to make calls that felt risky, and I didn’t have all the answers. But I trusted my gut, knowing I’d been here before.

I’d tell myself, “You’ve got this,” and make the choice. Looking back, those moments defined my presence as a leader.

TIP: In your next meeting, quickly make one clear, direct decision—something you’re confident in. Don’t hesitate or second-guess; let your confidence speak for itself. This kind of decisiveness builds trust with others.

4. Building a Strong Leadership Brand

One day, I realized people looked to me for clarity and calm. It hit me—I’d built a reputation for being steady and reliable. Embracing that truth gave me confidence and helped me show up stronger every time I stepped into a room.

Your leadership brand is the sum of your values, strengths, and purpose. Knowing who you are as a leader makes your presence more potent because people see your confidence and authenticity.

TIP: Today, write down three things you stand for as a leader. Think about how these values shape the way you show up. The more precise you are about what you bring, the stronger your presence will be.

5. Asking for Feedback and Practicing New Behaviors

After a big presentation, I sometimes felt unsure—did I come across the way I wanted? So, I started asking close colleagues for feedback right after, while it was still fresh.

I’d say, “What worked? What didn’t?” Their honest input helped me feel more grounded and confident.

I believe feedback is essential for growing your executive presence. Ask colleagues, mentors, and team members for specific, actionable input. Instead of asking, “How can I improve?” try asking, “What specific behaviors could make my presence stronger?”

TIP: Ask someone you trust for one piece of feedback today. Try a new behavior they suggest, and watch how it impacts the way others respond to you.

6. Managing Habits That Minimize Your Presence

Certain habits can undermine your presence.

One day, I caught myself saying “sorry” way too often. Each time I said it, I felt smaller. So, I changed: I stopped apologizing unless it was truly necessary. I replaced “sorry” with more direct statements (like saying “Thank you for waiting” instead of "Sorry, I’m late”), and sometimes I didn’t say anything at all!

This shift felt powerful—like I was finally taking up the space I deserved.

Verbal habits, like apologizing or using fillers, can weaken your message. Nonverbal habits—like avoiding eye contact, slouching, or fidgeting—can also lessen your impact.

TIP: The next time you’re about to say “sorry,” pause and ask yourself if it’s needed. Stand tall, make eye contact, and speak with purpose—it’s amazing how these small changes boost your presence.

Executive presence isn’t about pretending to be someone else; it’s about showing up confidently as the best version of yourself.

"With confidence, you have won before you have started.” — Marcus Garvey

Conclusion: Embracing Executive Presence in Midlife

Executive presence for midlife women is an opportunity to leverage their unique experiences to lead with purpose and strength. It also requires pushing past outdated myths and continuously developing the skills needed to succeed in today's evolving leadership landscape.

By mastering executive presence, midlife women leaders can confidently take on new challenges and make a lasting impact.

How will you embody the kind of executive presence that commands attention and drives results?

You have the experience—now is the time to own it.

Your Mentor,

Dr. Geneva

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