Everyone seems good at the Coffee table

It is always our assumption that being honest, holding certain values, principles, integrity etc are all causing the problems you currently encounter in your personal and professional life, is so wrong. I think your issues will be better handled if you shift your focus on the way you respond to these situations instead. From the information that you have provided, you seem to be a highly sensitive person and any adverse feeling of betrayal and depression symptoms followed may look like exaggerated at a later date, it took me almost 5 years to forget all the bad things of an incident and move on in life".

Yes, it is quite natural and understandable to feel upset and betrayed in such cases. After all, that's what makes us human. But, being hypersensitive about it, getting into depression and investing tremendous amount of time to just get over it is the most damaging thing you could do to yourself. That incident could have happened to anybody and does happen often irrespective of whether the person is honest or dishonest. Eventually, its all about how you handle it and move on.

But do recognise that you are not really feeling bad because somebody betrayed you, you are feeling bad because you lost a great deal of time. Your problem is not that you are honest or that you hold certain values or integrity, its just that you are unable to forget and move on for good. Therefore, be sure, be honest and trustworthy, you don't have to change those things about you, but know when not to be sensitive and move on.

Also I'd suggest that you take some time to understand the next person you are going to pursue as your future life partner. Invest quality time, ask some relevant questions, and know the temperament of the person. Only go ahead, when you really do get convinced that she's the one you are looking for or share compatibility with. Consider that being honest at workplace is a quality and not a drawback. Honest people are seen as reliable, those who can be trusted. However, honesty is not the only quality required at workplace. There are other qualities that are needed in order to excel and gain recognition at work such as being proactive, innovative, gaining relevant skills, to name a few.

It is wrong to expect things to come your way based on just one quality. And if you have already demonstrated all such qualities and yet don't see yourself going anywhere, then again, its time to move on. We need to stay on our path, riches gained by ill-gotten means are not real wealth. But honesty and integrity are valued more than you may see at the time.

Please don't fall into the misapprehension that 'good girls love bad boys', because that isn't true in the majority. Yes, many a businessperson has to have some ability to be disingenuous or capable of telling white lies, but that isn't the same as being cut throat. As usual, with these answers, I'll give you an example - though it really isn't much of one. I don't lie, unless it helps a situation, and I won't lie in any major way regardless. I don't cheat and I don't find reasons to use a situation to my advantage.

Do look to the people around you who you grew up with. Those people are probably still nice and have managed to keep being nice their whole lives. Your parents, if they are still around, found it a good thing to raise you nice and honest and if you think they were wrong, why are you dis-respecting them? Just take your time finding someone. It will happen - pick the right one, just be patient. The right one exists. If your job isn't the one that pays you millions, who cares? Be in the one you feel comfortable with. Comfort is at least as important as wealth but I prefer it, but maybe that's because I'm not wealthy

You should stay true to your role models and your own morals. If it requires you being someone that your not then you won't find happiness only misery. Just keep looking and one day you may be able to find someone that has the same morals as you. I'd also recommend that you look carefully at your own standards perhaps you are looking for perfection and a flawless character when in truth nearly everyone carries their own secrets and carry around something that they'd rather not share. Most people have flaws of some kind. You should prioritize what traits are most important in someone else to you. Don't be expecting perfection itself to suddenly find you when no one can be perfect. Cheers!