Every Woman Needs a Support System.

Hi friend,

How did last Mother’s day weekend go for you? Did you have the opportunity to enjoy the company of loved ones and to celebrate your mother or mother figure? Mothers and mother figures are truly amazing humans deserving of appreciation every now and then.?

Speaking of mothers, I’d like to talk about ways that they (and really, women in general) can build a support system for themselves.? As more women pursue their careers, climb the corporate ladder, or become business leaders in their own right, there comes a time when they may 'take on' additional roles as wives and mothers. Women may experience the relative difficulty that comes with striking a delicate balance between their career and their new roles.

Some women ultimately sacrifice their previous roles and settle for roles that are more flexible and “family friendly”. Some may quit work altogether or for a while to become stay-at-home-moms. Whatever a woman's situation is after having babies, it helps to have a solid support system. This “village” if you will, would be there to help you achieve work related goals and family or personal goals and make you feel supported when challenges come along- and they often do!

Phoebe K Koomson MSc, BA , one of the mothers in my Mama’s Milk Club, an online community I started for breastfeeding mothers disclosed to the group that it is particularly difficult to find support for childcare even with the help of local nanny agencies. Her advice was that women need to build their “village" long before having a baby and I totally agree with her. A supportive community of like minded friends, relatives or professionals is what every woman needs to achieve the best results for the many hats she would be wearing.?

Here are a few suggestions on how to build a solid support system.

Close Family Relations

Making use of family ties is probably the simplest option for most people especially if close relations stay nearby. Reach out to them when you need assistance, whether it's help with childcare, a listening ear, or advice. Loved ones who have already experienced parenting may offer valuable insights and support.

Connecting With Neighbours

As a neighbour you can include parents and their children in invitations for social activities, such as neighbourhood gatherings, barbecues, or holiday celebrations. Feeling included and part of the community can? help you feel supported and connected. Neighbours can be patient and considerate, especially if there is a crying baby, a toddler having a tantrum, or other parenting-related situations. You can offer to babysit or provide temporary childcare when your neighbours need a break or have appointments to attend in return for a similar favour. This support allows parents to have some time for self-care or other commitments.

Connecting With Parents at Your Kids’?School

Like you, the parents at your kids’ school may be in search of an opportunity to connect with a supportive community that would help them adjust to the demands of their roles. Don’t hesitate to strike up conversations, exchange contact information, and schedule playdates or outings with their children. This helps foster relationships and build a community of support.

Joining Online Communities?

Online communities convening through social media may offer support for individuals with similar interests. Examples are support groups for mothers-in-waiting, career women, stay-at-home-moms, working moms, breastfeeding moms, parents of children with special needs, etc. Joining an online community helps provide support especially where there are resource constraints of time and money.

Healthcare Provider Relationships

Building a relationship with healthcare providers such as paediatricians, specialists and therapists can provide reassurance and support. During regular check-ups or appointments sieze the opportunity to seek guidance, ask questions, and discuss any concerns you may have.

Attend Community Events

At community events such as fairs, festivals, family-oriented gatherings, picnics and church events it is an opportunity to meet other parents in a relaxed informal setting. Some of these events are recurring and allow you to plan ahead and schedule dates at your convenience.?

Prioritise Self-Care

Taking care of yourself is essential. Make sure to carve out time for rest, relaxation, and activities you enjoy. By nourishing yourself spiritually, physically, mentally, and emotionally, you'll be better equipped to handle the demands of parenting and build a strong support system.

I hope these suggestions have given you options to reflect on as you build a strong and robust support system to meet your social, emotional and professional needs.

Incidentally, the newly opened Talkative Mom Studios established by Eno Quagraine is happy to provide that “village” every woman needs especially as a mother to feel supported on their journey. Additionally, the Alpha Aesthetica Spa located within the premises promises to give you a well deserved pampering.

The studios offer childcare and nanny services, hosts community events and organises recurring monthly classes for childbirth and breastfeeding. If you pass by on Wednesdays at 11am you just might see me in action as I lead the breastfeeding classes.

Stay safe, stay healthy and nourished!

Warmly,

Joan Naadu Hazel