Every time I come to a conclusion that you are my lesson, Life!

Please mark Steve Jobs's last words when he died as a billionaire at 56 years old from pancreatic cancer, '′I reached the peak of success in the business world. My life is the epitome of success in the opinion of others.But, I have nothing to be happy about except work. In the end, wealth is just a reality of life that I am used to. It was then, lying on a sick bed reminiscing my whole life, I realized all the recognition and the wealth that I was very proud of, became pale and meaningless in the face of the impending death."

You can of course hire someone to drive for you and make money for you, but you can't make someone else take the illness from you. Lost substance can be found. But there is one thing that can never be found when lost -”life".

For example when a person enters the operating room, he will find that there is a book that has not yet been read - ′′ The Healthy Living Book ". No matter what stage of life we are in right now, over time we will face the day when the curtain falls. Therefore always cherish the family that loves you, love your spouse, love your friends... be kind to yourself.

You will of course realise, by the time you reach your late twenties or initial thirties, either you remain heavily opinionated to your beliefs of your teens or change massively as you come across different people and incidents. Some of the lessons I learnt bitterly of course :

There are no friends forever but the life goes on and you too move on to jobs, cities and make new friends at every point. The everlasting friendship shown in the movies or fiction stories is very rare find. It might exist but its rare. Your friends move on. You move on. No need to hold grudges against them. It’s all very normal.

All said and done, money matters a lot. But ultimately when it comes down to peace. The fire to work late hours or give it all, has given you money, but not peace. You’ll want to get away for a while and do absolutely nothing. The crave and the importance of a simpler life dawns at you like a thunder. You have missed out on family, occasions, even a peaceful birthday of your own and that salary is no longer giving you the ultimate satisfaction.

The people in relationships are not characterless really speaking. Goodness of a person is not just based on their sex lives. Having male friends is not a crime. Not every girl-boy sitting in a cafe are a couple or friends with benefits. They can be just friends as well. People in live-in are not bad. You, yourself, might not be comfortable in the concept of live-ins or have not experienced pre-marital sex, but you will no longer judge people based on these things. The society looks at them in a disgusting manner and so we tend to think bad about these things in our younger days, but as we age, we tend to look at one simple thing - If those two people are fine, you have no right to judge. There is more to a person than only these things. Their intelligence, their warmth towards you, their helpful nature, their humor.. these things matter more.

Only your interest matters in real life. You may have taken a field out of its sheer career success rate. But years on years of working, still you will not make you fall in love with it. You will always keep craving for satisfaction. That heavy pay check will make you smile on that day, and the next day you’ll be back to thinking about your actual interest. You will want to work for your passion. Somewhere and something that would not make you feel like a robot and that’s when you’ll realize, that in this rat race, you no longer know what your interest is. It’s all gone and you search online for answers “I don’t want to code anymore, what else can I do?”

Take a leaf from my life that Love is simply overrated and so is marriage. Yes, it is. Thanks to our Bollywood movies and to those fancy novels based on reality or fiction whatever. You can survive without falling for anyone and you will be happy by the end of the day, you’ll crave for time for yourself and not for anyone else. Love is not so rosy and it is not eternal. People fall in love many times and fail and keep looking for more love. People fall out of love many times. And people may never fall in love. Love is anything but what is shown in movies or written in novels. If you are committed, your bf/gf will need space. They cannot be there with you all the time. And it is nowhere romantic to have your partner tagging along with you everywhere. It only looks romantic on screen because it is only for 2–3 hours.

And of course your looks do matter a lot. This might sound extremely materialistic but yes looks matter. Anyone who says looks don’t matter at all, are either lying or are too great. The first thing someone notices about you is how you are looking and vice versa. Looks might not be the utmost priority but yes they do matter to some extent. Many will reject you because you are short, you will reject many because they are bald or paunchy or whatever. It’s okay. It happens everywhere. You’ll accept it one day.

Real friendship is more than timely birthday wish. Once where you would go all angry and judgmental about not being wished on our birthday, now it will not be such a life changing crime. You’ll forget birthdays of your friends and they will forget yours. It’s all part and parcel of our busy lives and we learn to let go. There is more to life and people than being a timely calendar.

Your parents scolding you was not wrong at all because they had seen more world than you. They were right all along for a lot of things and we being immature and arrogant took that in a wrong way. Sometimes scolding is the only way, we asses can be fixe the right way. Finally, the drugs/alcohol are not fun anymore. Though I have never done that, but honestly, they are not the ultimate fun. You’ll get more enjoyment in simple get together and talking with your friends. Remembering your old school days, your crushes, the silly things you did in front of your teachers. Hell, even sleeping undisturbed will be more fun. In any case, what’s fun in things you can’t even remember the other morning. Stay blessed! #kishoreshintre #possessedbywritingspirit