Every struggle is another strength - today’s setback is tomorrow’s comeback...

Have you ever thought something was too embarrassing and never told anyone about it?

But in time it became one of the best things that happened to you!

When faced with any challenge - I’ve often asked myself this…

Is there any possibility that this could turn out to be a good lesson?

The key is that possibility is something that can grow out of anything.

Then I ask myself,…

What do I need to make this happen?

As soon as I do I have begun opening the door to possibility, uncovering avenues that I never thought about previously.

But it began with one step….

1. I had to cultivate a new way of thinking.
2. I have to practice this when things don’t quite turn out the way I expected, and keep trying a different route.

Often this means I need to recognise what I’m terming as a mishap and keep checking in by asking myself multiple questions…

• Is there any possibility I can turn this situation into something good?
• Maybe not today. But what about tomorrow?
• What can I do to make the ideal scenario happen?
• How can I turn my mishap into something I can celebrate in the near future?

I love the art of questioning myself to find new possibilities.

It’s having a dynamic conversation with myself that pushes me towards creating pioneering and creative ways to manage situations.

Not to mention giving me a bounceability to setbacks. And note when I maybe repeat the same mistake. By getting to know myself. So I don’t feel bombarded by life’s challenges.

It may seem strange at first, to ask yourself questions, but over time, it’s a natural way to build resilience to reactions, particularly emotional ones where you later think – why did I react in that way? Instead of reflecting – before reacting – you can ask yourself …

Will my reaction add anything to this situation or not?

Most times, an emotional outburst isn’t beneficial to you, the other person or other people, so recognising the emotions by assessing the situation allows you to control your emotions before they erupt.

What is my plan? If I keep my focus, what is my prize at the end?

Most times it might be avoiding a challenge turning into an embarrassment or overcoming emotional distress, because you are choosing which battles to fight.

Lastly, they may be no reason to fly off the handle, a better way is keeping your emotions under check and simply asking yourself…

What will I gain if I lose my cool?

Chances are it won’t benefit your health as your blood pressure might rise, so what is the point of losing your cool, just to try and let someone know you’re annoyed with them.

What is this situation teaching me?

How can this situation turn out to be good if I focus on the positives of keeping my emotions in check rather than running with a few negatives just to have my say.

Sometimes in less than 30 minutes you can turn situation from a challenge into an advantage, because I turned a problem on it’s head and found a solution instead.

With time, the more problems you turn on it’s head, the more likely you are in finding solutions.

So what’s your goal after reading this? Is it to question yourself, so that you take action and overcome setbacks?

• I’m turning every crisis into an oasis to find myself and became calm and focused.
• In addition, I’m flipping the script AGAIN to making adapting as easy as ABC so I assess a new situation and quickly bounce back from a difficulty.

My adaptability to difficulty is bounceability!

Go ahead, strengthen your mental flexibility with those questions, learn from experiences rather than stacking them on a shelf and view any situation as temporary – a lesson from a question is the best activity for your bounceability!

Need help or support to persevere until you discover your passion and purpose, and choose adaptability to difficulty by your bounceability? Let’s connect.

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