Ever had a trigger go off inside that created an endless loop of thoughts that steals your peace?

Ever had a trigger gone off inside you that created an endless loop of thoughts that steals your peace?

It can begin with a contradictory thought about what your ambitions want and what you enjoy doing.?

In these situations, it can feel like the only option is to bury it at the back of your mind and get back into overworking or some other escape from this inner conflict.

However, what you avoid is waiting, and it will return until seen, heard, and dealt with.

Until then you are stuck in overwhelming mental conflict-solving, rationalizing, and trying to be right.

That experience is something I used to feel often. Torn between wanting to be happy and what the world was giving me. Slowly and with a hard-earned badge of courage I learned to surrender to the frustration, allowing the aching pain, confusion, and insecurity to just be there.

Why?

Because I learned that inside every avoided feeling is liberation from the trigger that keeps you stuck in that suffering.

The fact is that when it comes to being fulfilled being triggered is a part of the process.

Why??

Because it just is.

It just is.

The feeling is just there. It just is.?

And resisting what can lead to only misery, blame, and a deeply confused state.

This does not mean that you can't stand up for what you believe or want.?

Oh no, fulfilled lives in paradox!

How does this work? Here’s a great example in a response to a question I was asked recently:

Is it possible to be a "present" mother and build a multimillion-dollar company and still stay healthy in this tech industry and how it is built? If I am genuine; I don't like social events, I don't like small talk, and I sometimes prefer to spend time with my cat rather than with people. Is there even a chance to make it if you don't like the networking part, or rather spend that time with close few loved ones?

Here's my response.?

"Live as a present loving mother who loves being at home with her cat while networking and paying attention to your growing business.?

Let go of separating yourself from your baseline of joy and peace, bring it with you. Bring your living room and your cat into that networking experience.?

Be the living expression of what you want to feel. Be it so fully that you don't have to feel separated from that EVER.?

Separation occurs within a conflict. That can be the conflict between two people, two countries, or your heart and your head."

The question above is about coping with sacrifice and separation.

The resolution is in being someone who won't allow that separation to happen by removing every thought from your mind takes it away.?

You can feel the same as you do at home with your cat while surrounded by people if that's what you want.?

How?

Create it within the very center of your soul. Create the world you want to live in (a felt internal experience of a perceived external projection of a world that looks like it is happening to us) then fucking live in that world. Live inside the feeling of home with my cat constantly.?

Constant creation. Like living in your own virtual reality ;)

How? Choose to. Dedicate yourself to freeing yourself and removing the inner conflict through a disciplined process of unlearning, forgiveness, and self-creation as I teach at my Fulfillment Immersion.?

I remember when I first realized this was possible because my poor broken heart always felt “left alone” and “abandoned” when I was not with the woman I love. I would become dislocated, conflicted, unfocused, and frustrated.?

I wanted her to have her freedom and I also wanted to feel the warm cozy loving feelings “I could only feel when we were together” (my internal belief lived as an irrefutable truth)??

The liberation came when I let go of the ancient buried belief that being apart from the person I love meant being separate from the love of that person (a terrible loveless hell and a terrible burden on my relationship).?

That story faded into paradox when I discovered that love has no distance if I allow myself to receive that love when I am apart.?

I realized that whether physically together or apart love is present when I focus on BEING Full-filled with that feeling.

That choice has become my new world. I now live in THAT world. And when I don't it's a short journey back along a path laid by carefully chosen internal declarations (words, and symbols that hold the power to create and destroy worlds). Something else I teach during my work with clients

So just for today. Can you choose to live in a paradox? Can you hold the world you see and the world you want to feel at the same time??

to your fulfillment,

Ryan?