Even When It Get's Harder, Life Gets Easier

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I wish that I could tell you that it gets easier from here. For some of us it will. But the truth is that for the vast majority of us it won't. Not if you want more that is. If you want more it never gets easier. Life isn't like all of the inspirational movies you've watched, where there is the rhythmic build up to some drama, before the ultimate reconciliation between the stars and the climax where the newly reconciled stars overcome the odds against them. Life's plots are much less predictable. It's scripts much less forgiving. The dramas here don't always end in forgiveness and even when they do, not always in reconciliation. Now you may be thinking, how can you have forgiveness without reconciliation, but they are not one in the same. Forgiveness can simply mean, agreeing to disagree, but still moving on. Reconciliation means some sort of coming to agreement. A re-mending and rebuilding of the relationship that was...

But that's not the point of this article. The point of this article is simply to remind you that even when it gets harder, life gets easier!

"What do you mean by that Rowshan?" you ask....

Well I mean what I always mean. "What I said!" Since I'm typing I don't think I stuttered! Or I could be wrong. Maybe I did, but then again, even if I did, would you know?

I guess at this point I should probably explain what I mean when I say that life gets easier even when it gets harder. Well what I mean is when life gets harder, it gets easier.

Now, I know what you're probably thinking right about now, "But Rowshan, you're just saying the same thing backwards!" And the reason I am is because that's how life works. Perhaps, I've become a broken record by now when I say that the hard things are what makes life easier, but who says that the hard things are hard? The hard things only seem hard because they fall out of alignment with who we are now, but who we are now pales in comparison to the person of our dreams.

"What do you mean by that Rowshan? Person of my dreams?"

Yes, the person of your Dreams. And I say that simply because your dreams.... All of those fancy goals you have. The riches you want to obtain. The groundbreaking speeches you want to deliver. The obstacles you want to overcome. The achievements, you would like to call your own, cannot be accomplished by the person that you are now. The person you must become to achieve those things is vastly different from the person you are today. That person lies somewhere on the road ahead waiting for you to take the necessary steps to catch up to them. Who you were yesterday may have got you here, but where will he guide you to tomorrow? And if he takes you there, can he keep you there?

Maybe to stay there, you need to read more, but reading is hard. So now you must become a person who believes that reading is easy. Maybe to stay there, you have to eat healthier, but eating healthy is hard. So now you must become a person who thinks eating healthy is easy. Maybe you need to speak more, but speaking up is hard. So now you must become a person who thinks speaking up is easy. And even when all of those things become easy you find that there is a new challenge ready to present itself to challenge this new version of who you are. And the truth is, it will take some time to get used to this "New You".

At first it won't be easy to speak up. At first it won't feel comfortable. You will ask yourself, "Who am I to speak up? Who am I to say how I truly feel about something that everyone else thinks is fine, even when deep down I know it's wrong? Who am I to rock the boat? Who am I to shatter the status quo?" You'll start to rationalize yourself out of it. You'll question your new found authority and you'll feel like an imposter.... Because the truth is, that this "New You" is not "You" until it is "You". And right now, it's not "You", it's "New You". Get it?

So the question now, after knowing all of this is, "Do you want more?" And if you still want more, are you prepared for the difficulties associated with more? More means access, more means fulfillment, more means ease, but more is hard. So that leads me back to the beginning, but this time I'l say it slightly different. To live a life that's easy, you must first be willing to live a life that's hard!

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