Escaping the Shame

Will we ever feel confident?

Many of us have lived a lifetime procrastinating on the things we want to do and know we need to do.

It partially comes from our incredible ability for creativity, storytelling, and imagination.

We tell ourselves what if this and what if that?

We bounce around and lose sight of where we started and where we are going.

On the best of days, it's frustrating, and on the worst of days paralyzing and depressing.

We know what to do. We often also know how to do it.

We just don't do it.

Watching others get frustrated with us is just the icing on the cake.

A tall layered cake filled with so much frustration and shame that it's nearly impossible to notice or care about the tiny layer of icing on the top. So others falsely assume we “don’t care” but we are so consumed with our own thoughts and emotions to even get close to the “icing”.

The best thing we can do is continue striving for improvement each day.

A little bit better, a little more focused, a little more self-aware.

The good news is that with these seemingly tiny steps over time, we do have the ability to make lasting changes.

It's the farthest thing from easy.

Knowing and believing that it's actually possible to improve “someday” is what keeps us going.

How do we go from such debilitating shame and overwhelm and distraction to calm effective execution??

For me, it all started with self-awareness and compassion.

Discovering the direct link between so many of my lifelong struggles and my ADHD was a pivotal moment where everything changed.

The confusing frustrating and unexplainable suddenly had answers, research, science, and a road map to transformation.

It's a journey that's led me to where I am today.

"I am far from where I'm going.

But I'm far from where I've come."

-Me

I want to share with you a simple practice that helps me on this journey daily.

A set of mantras that you can fall back on any time your emotions are getting the best of you:

• I am not broken
• I have got through challenges like this before
• If I slow down I can think better
• This doesn’t need to be perfect
• As long as I try my best then I can be proud no matter the outcome
• What tiny piece of this could I start now?

Saying these simple positive affirmations to myself is the self-compassion we need to lower the stress and anxiety that is preventing us from taking action.

I am now making it my life's work to help others who are still struggling and searching for answers.

There is so much talent and ability in an ADHD mind that struggles to be realized.

Join me and our community as we unlock more of this potential and ease the suffering.

If any of this resonates with you, you are not alone.

I would like to speak with as many of you as possible!

Please book a time to connect with me and I would love to hear about your journey.

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You are doing great!

Much love,

Ian