Episode 77 on the Orgasmic Life Style Podcast
Davidson Hang
Head of Business Development @Untap Your Sales Potential ex|LinkedIn, Fortune, Udemy, and TriNet
Welcome to episode 77 of The Orgasmic Lifestyle Podcast with Venus O'Hara . In this Flower Moon episode, we discuss online #reputation, #vulnerability and #authenticity. We speak with Davidson Hang a visionary mentor, life coach and LinkedIn expert.
I also review the #Netflix series Baby Reindeer. #babyreindeer
The episode ends with a guided #meditation with #affirmations for vulnerability as a strength.
We discussed many topics about being vulnerable on LinkedIn.
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Here is the transcript of the episode:
Davidson H welcome to the orgasmic lifestyle podcast thank you so much for taking part in this oh interview today
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he checking the microphone okay let me start that again Davidson H welcome to the orgasmic lifestyle podcast thank you
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so much for taking part in this interview today and for those who are unfamiliar with your work could you tell
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us what you do yes yes um so I help like Humble High
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Achievers just like love themselves more and do self- love they're able to like accomplish more and just be able to
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check off items on their bucket list so a lot of um folks that have been burnt
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out from corporate you know I've done the corporate stuff for a while um I'm helping them transition to more of like
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a sustainable uh work life integration um and just be able to pursue their side
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passion projects as well amazing so this um my my mission is also Hol is actually
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holistic self-love
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self- l means to you and why it's so
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important yeah it's I think it's like not worrying about the extrinsic um
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motivators right like what other people think and just doing things that make you happy and it's that simple but I
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think we just have so much societal conditioning or sometimes just our parents or just others expectations and
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we end up doing things that we think other people would want us to do instead of actually fulfilling on so for me that
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looked like climbing the corporate ladder like making more money like spending thing like spending money on
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nice things like nice cars and a new house and you know traveling the world because I thought it would look good and
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people would be like good job Davidson Pat me on the back instead of just doing things that I want to do whether that's
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like a 16 days solar road trip or just be able to just um enjoy myself and just
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be with people and just go up to random strangers so recently i' I've got up to
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when I was in London last week I went up to 150 random strangers and just started asking them deep questions about their
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lives so that was a lot of fun wow that sounds a it was very scary to do
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something like that for a lot of people so what inspired you to follow this
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path um I think like a lot of people I just was just like finding myself and I
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was really sure like what the right path was so I just I've tried like everything like all these different meditations all
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these different Retreats and all these different coaching programs and I just I
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guess I never really I was always like seeking fulfillment but then I I
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realized I was doing it through the wrong channels which is through like corporate and winning Awards and like
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getting up on stage and and climbing the corporate stuff and then I realized that
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huh like that was wasn't as fulfilling because it was like I would get the high once I we win the awards I would get the
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high but then afterwards I was forced to be with myself again I was like oh well if I don't love myself then it doesn't
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matter how successful I am on paper so I I read that you spent half a
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million dollars on personal development is that correct I if I had my life you count
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like my entire lifetime yes yeah so here in I live in Barcelona Spain you could probably buy a small an okay apartment
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for that price I'm wondering um what do you think were the best and the worst
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Investments without naming names of course if they if they're in the side but what do you think best investments
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in your things you wouldn't do again obviously we never do anything Never Say Never but like things you probably
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wouldn't CH yeah I I I think I'm generally like a
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very optimistic person so even the ones that I didn't get as much Roi from a traditional sense like I learned a lot
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about myself and what I did like so I feel like that's like equally as important if I was to choose I would say
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landmark has been pretty pretty eye openening um I don't know if you've heard of landmark but pretty well known
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I think W Warner aart guy who like started that he's like guess you can
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call him like a guru like in the space where people like basically worship the the land he walks on like he's just like
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a very intelligent guy and so Landmark has been super helpful
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um and what is it exactly what it's it's
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hard to describe it it's it's hard it's I guess the goal of it is it's to get you to nothing so it's the framework is
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that we all have blind spots and the the course is allows us to make amends with
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our past and then because we're making amends with our past we're able to have an empty Blank Slate so we can create
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from a blank canvas versus the conditioning and the all the draw all
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the the baggage that we've had that's throughout highight wow um so we hear the term life
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coach very often here in Barcelona where I live there are so many life coaches um
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so I'm I'm still not not sure what the term actually means what is a life coach and what is your life
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coaching yeah that's a good question I think everyone's different and people on the stage in life right so I've I've
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hired maybe like 30 coaches in my lifetime and and some of those are therapists and some of them are you come
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from more traditional like backgrounds or psych or they have like a psychology background
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um it it's tough to say because every person's different right some clients it's like hey I want to find the love of
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my life and they come usually those clients come from they were like domestically abused by their stepparents
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or whatever it is right so I help a lot of people heal um a lot of their like
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past traumas and then I help a lot of uh orphans and people that grew up in the Foster um like they were adopted so a
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lot of like in in the US there was a time in the 90s and that and in late 80s
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where there were a lot of Koreans that were adopted by like American um parents so they have a lot of identity crisises
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so they'll often come to me to help kind of sort out their identity and just figure out like what they want to do
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so it's hard to answer because I do think every person's different but it usually revolves around like some
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element of self-love and uh compassion and acceptance is it's like the bottom
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the theme amongst all of it okay um it seems to be a saturated
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industry at least um what we can see online and uh so how how can someone
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choose a good life coach for example here in Barcelona where I live a lot of people are life coaching is but I see a
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lot of them for example who are trying to charge High ticket amounts but they
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don't have the they're not kind of leading by example they haven't got their own stuff sorted out so how you
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know they're the ones who can need the coaching kind of thing that when I when I and I sometimes think I would never
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pay you any money so I mean a lot of people in this industry maybe because I think it all starts with your own
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journey of healing that's what attracts people to this of industry but um do you have any advice someone who's looking
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for guidance and what they should look for in a in a life coach I think intuitively like you'll
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know like you'll meet someone and you just Vibe with them on a different level than everyone else so I do think it's
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very intuitive like I think we can do analysis analysis I gota look at your website and I gota like make sure their
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content is resonating with me but I think you when you meet someone you'll know you'll be like oh this person has
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good energy so where they're very vulnerable and they're just sharing about like some of the coaches I've hired they they'll share about their
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porn addiction or how they lacked intimacy with their spouse and how they were able to overcome that or they'll
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talk about how they're addicted to video games you know so you'll be able to see yourself in their shares those are the
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ones I've enjoyed the Lo because they're just very open about some of their insecurities and how they were able to
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overcome like many of their addictions whether it's like work addiction or being addicted to being a um like moving
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up the corporate and then neglecting their family or their their wellbeing
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those those are the people that that I have personally resonated with but I think you'll know when you meet someone
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like you said like you met some people that's like okay I would I would I would never pay you that right to your point I
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think there's a lot of people like that but there's also a lot of good people as well like with anything I think you just
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have to trust yourself and and yeah maybe a couple times like it won't work out and you'll work with them for a
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couple months but then you'll find someone new um just going up about life you'll meet people that will come across
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your life and you be like oh I feel like I can learn a lot from this person okay so um I read you've um done
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some work with LinkedIn is that correct what have you done exactly yeah yeah LinkedIn was an
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interesting place it's it's a there's like a big emphasis on diversity inclusion and belonging so some of the
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most memorable things that I've like was like a lot of the panel discussions so a lot
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of asian-americans like we we struggle with a lot of the identity crisis where our parents and our cultural values are
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more from like the Eastern philosophy but then obviously like we live in America where there the individual is
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often celebrated so it's like so I've have led a lot of workshops and
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facilitated a lot of events where um a lot of the Asian-American experience like just trying to find ourselves like
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hey like how do we fit in in this society and that's been extremely reing
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and do you have any tips about how we can uh build a link in profile I'm actually working on that a lot over the
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last few months have you got any tips for me or anyone I think what you I think
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what you said was really astute I think just being super vulnerable like very
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like being authentic just sharing about our insecurities and some of the problems and challenges we faed so I
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think on LinkedIn especially like everyone's like oh look at me like I'm awesome like all these Awards right I
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think people people that usually like those like they just it's like we're like robots we just like like show like right
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Doom scrolling but I think and it's always harder to do this but the more
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vulnerable you can be and just share like hey these are my challenges this is like I messed up this is how I was a horrible husband blah blah blah you'll
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see that you'll build up more authentic following and and people will reach out to you and they'll often share with you
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like wow this is what I got from your your you know whether it's your podcast or your article your newsletter and you
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you'll find a pretty strong Community because everyone is always like look at me look at me if you're one of the very
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few like maybe two or three% that is actually super vulnerable you'll you'll stand out from from the
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competition because the way I see it because I was actually having some mentorship from a Content strategy
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person and he was saying LinkedIn thought leadership Instagram lifestyle
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and I kind of like that distinction actually because I can see in the content I want to make
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what goes on which space and some of that that content can go on both
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yeah I don't I don't think I don't necessarily agree with that I do think that it could be Universal across all
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platforms I think I think there's all these memes and jokes where it's like there's like the Facebook like there's
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like the same picture of yourself but then the seven different platforms right I have found actually that people just
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love authenticity and people love vulnerability so I don't know and you would think LinkedIn would be the last
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person that you would be place that you would talk about like you know a lot of the topics that you're talking about like you would think LinkedIn would
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almost be like the last but they're probably the people that need that the most because that's like they're like the stuffy corporate like wearing a suit
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and tie like you know and I think they would benefit most from your type of content because they're just super
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stressed out and they're just like always on the going always trying to build the next company like trying to
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get promoted so I but I think Instagram is very it seems like has a very strong
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following with people around my age I'm 36 I feel like everyone that's my age is like very very um feels like very
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connected to Instagram and then I would say that LinkedIn is high Achievers it seems like okay that's interesting so I
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think for me it's more I would say the connections on LinkedIn are more kind of real than than
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the ones on Instagram because they can there could be professional interest to be in contact a lot of the time so even
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though it's less I think each follower has maybe higher quality of what what the kind of collaborations can emerge
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from from those connections I do think the average
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person on LinkedIn makes more money like they just have more disposable more disposable income so I do think if
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you're trying to grow your business or you're looking for people that can't afford whatever it is that you're
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selling whether it's a coaching program or Retreat or I think linked dinners tend to have a lot of displ closable
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income so they're more likely to to actually spend on whatever it is that you're helping them with compared to
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Instagram I I feel like a lot of the folks on Instagram I've met are still
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trying to like find themselves and they like a little bit I wouldn't say like behind but a couple stages like in the
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in their journey in terms of like figuring out like what they want or that's what that's just I hate to
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generalized like that but I do think that's what it seems like based on my my interactions with both communities M I
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do love myself um vulnerability on link things I find it's a lot of it is all about status and achievements a lot of
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the the content but I saw there's a girl I know's actually one of the most um successful P public speakers here in in
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Spain and she had she was giving that she was giving a very a free workshop and 10 people signed up and no one came
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and she actually shared it on LinkedIn and I thought it was so cool you know she turned it into a
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really cool post that was highly engaging and it was just um you know showing the balls of being able to share
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failure I think that's something that people like yeah it's funny so there one of my
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friends he he shared very vulnerably about how as a manager like and he's
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like a a gay male like a tall white male he was just talking very vulnerably
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about like one of his employees when up he like hey like you know I only got like a $5,000 raise like what do you
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suggest I should do and who's and he just show like you should leave because honestly like the amount of work and
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dedication you put into this organization like I feel like we're doing you a dis Justice with that slap
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in the face and that went absolutely viral like he he like I think before his
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most posts are getting like a hundred comments or something but that one got like 8,000 comments so like like
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overnight and it was like very simple it was just simple he was just sharing like hey if you feel like you're not
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underappreciated and you feel like your company's like slapping you with these two 3% raises and you're afraid to take
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that leap of faith and go for something else like I'm here to get your permission that it's okay to do that and
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it's like very simple message but for whatever reason it touch the nerve and it went like absolutely
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viral and why do you think it worked so well what what nerve did
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it I think I think to your point like I do think LinkedIn still is very like
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status driven right it's like look at me like I make a lot of money now right it's like sort of like that's like kind
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of or so I do think the 1% where people can actually like share about hey like
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this is like a very vulnerable moment for me and and he was able to add value right at the end of day it's about adding value but he the way he delivered
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it like it was clear that he just wanted the best for his employee and it was and
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most people on LinkedIn like they wouldn't share that because they they would be like oh is my company going to
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like spat me on my my like you know you just like corporate is still very much
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like hey you have to like stay between the lines you can't you can't and that's one of the reasons why I started my own company because I would interview all
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these like Asian Executives and they would be like good for you for like raising this awareness and Consciousness and like talking about these issues that
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no one else is talking about I would never be able to do that but I'll support you doing that so I left because
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I I had my hands slapped enough times and even at LinkedIn honestly like which is I would say like a pretty woke like
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culture in terms of very they're very Progressive in terms of um like
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different types of yeah I would say LinkedIn is out of all the companies I've worked at which is probably like 30
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different companies is probably the most Progressive but even they were like hey like slow down like shouldn't be talking
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about that you know and I I had my hands slapped enough times I'm like you know what like I need to go on my my own
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because I need to talk about these like more difficult topics wow I think um a lot of the time well for most people our
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identity is just stuck to our what we do for a living our profession it's so much
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a part of who you live and this is just speaking to you now it's come to mind about um all the times I got sacked like
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when I was in my 20s I I came to Barcelona with 400 euros on a night train you know it was a real adventure
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and I got the worst job of the world I was knocking on doors selling Fiber Optic internet and I could barely speak
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Spanish and I got sck oh my God five weeks I mean I laugh now but it wasn't funny I was eating once a day and then I
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kind of got another job on a help desk for General Electric on the French team and that I got sacked there as well and
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then I got an um a job as a export um assistant which I loved because I was
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you know I really wanted to get into exports and then after a while um they brought just I was kind of giving
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support admin support to all the export sales people and then some commercial director comes in and says all of the
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sales people must do their own admin so they were going to put me in the reception and that for the same money
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but it was just like there was no internet on the on the computer so I was just like accepting packages all day and
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it was just like mental torture it was so bad but it just felt like you know
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constantly constant bad luck and I was just feeling like undervalued and it's just a horrible feeling just to you know
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when you've been sacked that happened in the time of a year so I always had this paranoia of going to work and finding an
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envelope on my desk you know it was so awful yeah it made me a bit of a workaholic and a bit
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paranoid yeah I think especially in the US culture that I think America is like
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notorious for that where at least in Europe like people when you talk to people they don't always ask like hey
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what do you do for living right like what do you do for work who are America
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yeah that's and in America that's what the first thing everyone always asks is like what do you do you know and and
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it's it's I I think it's starting to change with the new generation but I
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think we have a long way to go but also I find that when people who are very much in that kind of LinkedIn space or
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that you know professional corporate space when they talk about friends or people they know then they'll say this
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uh this guy who's a who's are this you know it's like have a very good friend Actually I
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don't even still don't know what she does I I've asked a few times but we never talk about that we just talk about
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spirituality and love and things like that but it's um it's interesting how some just you know that's the label it's
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like oh this guy and he's a this and that guy she's this yeah yeah yeah especially at LinkedIn that's
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one of the reasons like in some ways the LinkedIn experience was very confronting because it it forced me to really
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grapple with like what is my identity because I was spending basically I think I got into the office at like 7 a.m. and
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then I left at like 800 p.m. every day but it but LinkedIn made it fun like there were like always events and panel
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events and there was always like networking with other Tech organizations so it wasn't all like work right but and
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then we we worked in Empire State Building and I was I was forced to like being an Empire State Building in the
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middle of one of the busiest cities in the world right to like the pandemic and then being forced to just work remotely
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where there was less intimacy right and that really blew my like that really
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was confronting because I I had no identity I was like oh who am I if I'm not like the mayor of Lon you know so
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that I think that forced me to really find myself and in in isolation like I'm able to be like you know what like I
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don't need to be like the guy that's mcing every event or that's being able to throw all these crazy events where
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like hundreds of people are showing up right and then that's when I started to realize like okay like I'm okay with
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myself I don't need to be successful in order to to like love myself and that's
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what started the whole journey so it was very confronting but it was I would say LinkedIn kind of helped me realize that
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because I was just investing way too much energy that my marriage was neglected like every you know like I
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stopped talking to my family like I was just so focused on like moving up and making more and networking and all this
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stuff I think it's fair to say that um stages and achievement would be value or
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how people value success success or how they think of success but what do you think of success what is success for you
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right now after this journey drawing this journey that you've made I think it's like interacting with
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interesting people like yourself like I do think um I I I'm a firm believer I
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like variety so I do like trying different things and experiencing different things whether that's travel or just anything new like if you've
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never been to meditation r Treat like try that if you haven't been to a different country try that right so um I
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personally think it's being able to pursue the passions and hobbies that
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that you have and uh to be able to have a deep and Rich meaningful relationships
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with people and yourself okay so so tell me about this um speaking to 150 strangers in London
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what was the purpose of that and have you been doing that for a long time is that something you do generally try to
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speak to strangers yeah I would say
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yes and no so I I have this mission called The 100 million lives movement
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where I want to inspire people to I want to be able to impact 100 million lives so that's combination of social media
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and um I guess I was just trying to prove that you never know who you're going to meet so I just go up to random
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ke just ask them deep questions about their lives and there was always there was like one person who I didn't fall in
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love with like when I got to know them like like a random stranger so I was
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just helping people see like the beauty and Humanity instead of like all the negative like social media is like can
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be very triggering right it's like okay let me let me pray on people's um
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emotions that are usually in a negative way right it's like fear or hatred or racism or whatever it is so I wanted to
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portray like a more like I want people to look at social media and feel uplifted and feel inspired instead of
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feel like some sort of negative energy so that that was the purpose of that
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amazing it's interesting how we can um have a depth when with someone you don't really know it's a yeah yeah I have a
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socialized group here in Barcelona called Barcelona conscious connections and we have dinners and we have these
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Icebreaker questions on the table to kind of you know so we're not talking about what do you do how long have you
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been here the kind of they're quite deep one of the one of them one of the most
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successful conversations we had lately was what was the last thing you gave up I thought that was a really cool question that had a lot of interest one
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of them was talking about a toxic relationship I gave up make wearing makeup so it was really deep what about you what was the last last thing you
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gave up so did you just reminded me of
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something that was that was so I crowdsource a lot of the questions from my community I'll be like hey I'm in I'm
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in you know City Hall today or I'm in Wall Street today like what should I ask people right or in that case I'm in
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London like what should I ask random people random londoners and um so that yeah that same
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question that you asked did get like a lot of good responses um for
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me uh I would say like giving up like knowing like having having someone
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having read so many books listen to so many podcasts so many gurus I I I feel
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like it's sometimes hard for me to give up like knowledge to just be with someone and start fresh instead of like
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the stuff that I've learned from whatever training I've done that that's been very difficult for
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me okay so you say you help Humble High Achievers conquer their impostor
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syndrome when I when I see that phrase I think about do high Achievers really have impostor
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syndrome I do think the highest Achievers actually are the most insecure actually because because we and all of
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us we we need achievement in order to
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feel respected to feel wanted so I do think that people that
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aren't out there changing the world and like making things happen are actually more secure than than folks who um
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perceive or portray or project like this image of success interesting and how do you help
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them with the how do we get over imposter syndrome um there's the framework that I
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used is like there's there's like three things one thing is like bring levity to
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name all of our like insecurities so I was able to name and then I go through the the steps but I was able to name my
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insecurities my my survival or fight ORF flight mode uh judgmental Guru big hero
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no and optimistic orphan so that's when I'm when I'm triggered so I help people
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be able to find what those three words and then we'll name it together so we'll be able to like bring levity to
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something that's like otherwise like pretty confronting and then I help them find their uniqueness or their their unfair
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advantage of their their seet sauce so everyone has so there's like a bunch of exercises I do to help people realize
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that and um the last part is just like making amends like just healing of the
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past and that usually like do a bunch of exercises that help people be able to see oh this is the there's usually like
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a teenage moment a child moment and an adult moment and once they have insights into those three moments
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um they won't let the unconscious like consume them and run their run their but
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they're able to choose consciously instead of like um a lot of the unconscious ways of
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deing so apart from coaching what else are you doing so you you've uh written two books um you you a speaker now as
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well what else do what do you do what what is your um what do you do at the moment for for work as asart from
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coaching yeah um yeah I have I have Mastermind so like yesterday we wrote
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like the exercise we did was writing our eulogy so that was interesting that was like very eye opening for some people
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who just focus yeah like so that that was fun so I do like exercises like that I'll do
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inperson workshops as well like how to build more authentic um relationships to
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vulnerability it's a topic that I I I facilitate and then I help uh CLS as
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well with um more of like like the team bonding and like morale boosting
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employee morale for like tech companies that are like burnt out from just trying to make the stock prices go up orever
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it's so I help with a lot of those as well so everything you everything you do
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what do you enjoy the most I think going up to random strangers is the most
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fun a hobby and that's a hobby yeah I don't know how I'm able to be able to
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monetize that but and hopefully you know make people by just people really
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connecting with the content I'll be able to make money as a you know YouTube and all these platforms to be able to but I
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as you know like a lot of these platforms it's like there's like a formula that works right so this is a little different so I think I just have
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to get better at it as well I think I'm still trying to figure out like what works and what doesn't work so it's a
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lot of CH are so I said I've seen You' written a book called redefining
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masculinity why do we need to redefine
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masculinity I think a lot of men don't have a safe space to process a lot of
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these like more difficult emotions so I created the book to to help people feel
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like men feel like they're not alone in healing a lot of these like discomforts or just a lot of their insecurities so I
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was able to share a lot of stories about like what it's like to be bisexual or biracial or to be scared of being a
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father and and just created with my men's group they inspired me to just share a little bit about you know how to
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deal with grief like how to process how to have a healthier way to deal with anger and and sadness so it's just like
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it's just a lot a collection of stories of men just dealing with life and um
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just a normaliz it okay so you have a men's group as
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well um can you tell us about that yeah yeah it's it's so similar I I
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noticed that a lot of guys like at least maybe because I'm in New York City a lot
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of the men were just like on the hamster wheel like just chasing that promotion like I got to move up at JP Morgan and
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Fidelity and see Santan there and like all these different organizations and I
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would meet with them and I could see like there's like an angst like that like a sense of like you know and there
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there wasn't like a space so this started during the pandemic so a lot of it was like out of a need like we were all just lonely and we just were like
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craving like intimacy so I would create these spaces where um men would just be
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able to cry and just like share like hey like you know my my mom just passed away and like it's been really difficult for
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me and just you know and then I would facilitate that so through like kind of
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like group coaching and then all the men would be able to offer support and to share about like how they were able to
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process like their parents steps and stuff like that so that that's been super rewarding and uh probably one of
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my proudest achievements I think in life right now amazing what about the great
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pause yeah yeah that that was difficult because uh being someone in New York
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City like go go yeah so the pa the POS was in
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relation to like the pandemic and like okay let's slow down be with ourselves and and like grow our spiritual practice
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and how can we be able to reflect and use introspection to learn and grow from this experience instead of relating to
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it as like a like a traumatic event I mean it still is traumatic right like not to downplay that but how can we use
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this as a opportunity to be a little bit more intentional moving forward instead of just like grinding all the time and
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just like going after the next paycheck and the next commission check great so I I ask all of my guests
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um what's the book that changed your life you've read so many books is it 600 books or
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something yeah I know a little too much I I saw the picture on your website
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because you've got um two books that I've read that letting go and the eight rules of love I saw Jetty
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a I really love that book actually it was very it was a good book I'm Letting
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Go I love that I do I would say have you read shoe dog before shoe
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dog yeah the founder of Nike no I think I've heard of that one I think someone
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else has mentioned it I didn't know the name of it but it rings a bell it's it's a story about like self-discovery and
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just like finding yourself and how he was able to just the he was very open
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about his insecurities and how he would go to Japan and he was sit on a boardroom in front of these Bank
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Executives and and how he was able to get the licensing agreement to sell like Japanese shoes but I just loved like the
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vulner ability and just like he would just share stories about how he was like surfing Hawaii and this like it was a
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very like um the hero's journey right it was like very much like the hero's
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journey but it was just interesting to see someone who's that public of a figure like CEO of Nike be so open and
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so honest about 100 ways of when she fa he failed all insecurity so it's like
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kind of like I like how you're able to go really deep into his mind and it's like it was like you're living at him
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while reading the book yeah any other gurus that you appreciate a lot or in the personal
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devel I like I like Ram do or well way Dyer I would say Wayne Dyer is probably my favorite he's really
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good definitely what you reading at the moment so this is funny I think this is
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like the first time this year was like I think the first year where I'm not reading a ton which is nice um I think I
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finally realized was like let me just chill out and just be with my wife and
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I'm try to like have to get better every second of my life I think the last book I read was
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um this is funny because like the opposite of what I'm saying it's like Russell Brunson have you heard of him
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yeah yeah yeah so I've read like Russell brunson's books his three books were the
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last three books I read this year I think earlier in January and early February
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any of the genres that you like you like relationships as well I imagine if you like the eight rules of love I love I
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love biographies i' I've read probably 100 biographies now yeah I love biographies too I just
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um love dedication to an idea and then seeing how the growth yeah it's amazing
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do you have any uh any phrase or quote or affirmation that you live
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by uh I would say I mean this this sounds
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corny but I think it's like until we like love ourselves like nothing else
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matters so I would say like self-acceptance is like my f the first step in the path of
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Enlightenment that's a good that's a good thing to live by definitely so what's next for you then what you what's
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your next goal um it it's funny because people
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have been asking me a lot about like LinkedIn thought leadership so I'm I'm in the process of reporting a course on
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like how to communicate more authentically on LinkedIn and and and just building um and by doing that
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you'll be able to have a lot more career opportunities and you'll be able to meet like very interesting people so that's
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going to be like a $100 like low ticket course and I'm just gonna like just share everything I've learned from how I
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was able to grow my my link in following and just like do sharing through some of the mistakes I've made and do sharing
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like what didn't work hopefully people will find it to be funny and then people will also be able to be inspired to post
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more often and just post more um more openly share more openly about
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themselves and and what they're going through yeah I think I I'm going to try after speaking to you to get more
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vulnerable in my postings let's see how it goes um so how can people find you
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where can people find you I'm biased because used to work at LinkedIn so I do think LinkedIn is the
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best way for people to get in touch with me I'm super active on there but I'm also
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pretty um active on all the social media platforms pretty much so you can just
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type my name d and you'll find me across every platform at this point it's it feels like every
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platform you on Tik Tok as well yeah Tik Tok is like I feel like
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the younger generation love like when I go up to random strangers that are any anyone who's younger
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than 30 I feel like it's all about Tik Tok where when I go up to them and then
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I interview them they're like are you gonna be posting this on Tik Tok so it's it's like I feel like I have to get good
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at Tik Tok because it just seems like that's where everyone or a decent chunk of the younger generation is has focused
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so much energy on that platform definitely and I like the fact that it's just the video and not a caption really
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from like yeah it's quite um so thank you so much for joining us
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today on the orgasmic lifestyle podcast it's been a real
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pleasure yeah likewise thank you so much Venus I appreciate what you're doing and can't wait to support you in your post
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on LinkedIn and yeah I mean it takes I mean it's it's hard to be that
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consistent where you've had this many episodes right I've done I 300 podcast
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episodes total and it it wasn't easy but it was fun like you said like it's like it doesn't feel like work great like this is enjoyable so creating the space
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so you have done um yourself produced yourself 300 yeah yes it's been a journey um I I
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I started doing it because like I was meeting interesting people like yourself and I was like I was like oh I would love to share you with the world you
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know and then I kept meeting interesting people wherever I went and then people would introduced me to their their and
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then it started growing and in LinkedIn I think was when it really took g off because I would I would interview like a
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lot of the the most interesting people at LinkedIn that were winning all the awards and then I noticed that even
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though on the outside like they were this like they were these like high Achievers they would after the interview
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they would say like oh man like was it good it was if it wasn't good like you can delete this episode and that blew my
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mind because I'm like what you what do you mean you like rocked it you crushed it so I think that's what made me realize like oh actually the higher
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Achievers I it feels like there actually something the most insecure right that's why they're trying so hard to like win
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every award and and and and then speaking for myself like I was one of those people so I was like okay like I I
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could see where they're coming from that's that's why I wanted to get you know do 300 podcast episodes because I wanted to be liked and appreciated by
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everyone and then now I do less but I still do it because I just love you know sharing people with the world yeah I
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mean that's a great philosophy I mean I I have amazing guests on this podcast and um
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every every podcast interview for me is like my own personal coaching um session
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and I feel sometimes with the time difference sometime I'm just looking at the wall after just like wow because I'm
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kind of a bit star struct or I kind of it gives me a new way of thinking about something like with you now I think I'm
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thinking more about vulnerability and having a more holistic approach to to the space Link in or just in my to my
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content in in general because I sometimes feel like I shouldn't be ex aggressive because it's a Tabo topic I'm
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thinking oh I don't offend anyone but really I need to come out more and just kind of do it anyway yeah I I think
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you'll get actually more engagement just because you are that is so different than the average LinkedIn so you'll
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actually more likely to go viral in my opinion just because it is much different than than what people expect
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and people like people like Variety in my in my opinion like people like controversy like I do think it's like a
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human you know people like P lising topics so I think you'll you'll be surprised at how viral I think these
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topics will will be for you amazing I'm G to make a list of all the uh crisis points of my career and then try some
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contents content from there yeah yeah oh yeah you'll get so much engagement people love that stuff like especially
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on LinkedIn like H it's it's like yeah you'll get so much engagement I'm curious to see what you write what you
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put up there amazing well thank you so much and uh thank you so much