The envy effect.
Ashleigh Tennent
Founder of More Happi. Coach and writer. Follow for insights on building a high performing coaching culture as you scale.
“Comparison is the root cause of all evil.”
Or is it?
Have you ever felt intimidated by another human’s success?
???The founder with a million followers on social media. The one who pitched their idea (zero traction) that’s just secured ￡￡￡￡￡￡￡’s of investment?
??The co-worker who just got promoted?
???Your friend who seems to have it all (without even trying)?
That’s envy rearing its ugly head.
At first, you feel angry that you’re not getting the same shot at life. You might tell yourself, “Good things never happen to people like me” or kid yourself that you never really wanted what they have anyway.
Over time, this snowballs into irritation, disappointment, and hard feelings.
Envy is a silent emotion. When it manifests itself internally, it usually does so through negative self-talk.
“I’ll never get there…”
“I’m not one of the lucky ones…”
It gets a bad rep but along with the bitterness, there’s beauty in envy.
A code just waiting to be cracked.
Here you’ll find hidden messages that point you to what’s important.
Things we want (like progression, growth, learning…) get a lot easier if we fully understand what we want and why.
Spending time amplifying envious emotions is time well spent.
Here’s how to do it:
Sketch out a table (or create one virtually - we ?? Notion ) with the following columns and self-coaching questions:
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Use your learnings from this exercise to create 2-3 SMART goals, allowing you to utilise your green-eyed monster energy for good.
Coach lab questions for your fortnight:
So, over to you. How will you use envy to go out there and get what YOU want?
A little bit about me (your guide)
For those of you I haven't met yet, I'm Ashleigh, founder of More Happi :) Nice to meet you! ??
I’ve worked across 9 industry start-up sectors, ranging from fashion trend forecasting, to wool, tampons, sustainable lightbulbs and more.
I trained to be a coach in 2020, after over 20 years in Product, Marketing and Leadership roles.
I noticed something that irked me.
Coaching is transformational for people’s life and career.
But the coaching industry was broken. ??
Due to high costs, only the usual suspects at the top of organisations were able to benefit from the superpowers that professional coaching brings — fuelling a vicious circle of privilege that sustains the status quo and leaves everyone else behind.
It wasn’t fair. So I’m fixing it. And so far, thousands have benefitted.
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