Enjoying being lonely in the universe?

“Two possibilities exist: either we are alone in the Universe or we are not. Both are equally terrifying.” Arther Clarke, the great science writer had said once. Most of the times this thought disturbs our mind, what if we are alone in this massive universe? nonetheless, we know that there are billions of galaxies, stars and planets, how come we are the only lucky ones to survive? We should not imagine that we are alone here, but one can find out around the world people are looking for the hints of a more intelligent life outside our planet.

In my point of view, if you feel you are alone here, then obviously you are blessed with peace because there are so many people who are crying to be in that state of mind and we could just convert your loneliness to the enjoying peaceful existence with yourself. It is actually a great opportunity of becoming best friends with yourself. Find something you are passionate like a pursue a hobby. Read lot of books where there are lot of characters you can identify with and then you wont feel as alone.

Living alone has been a regular feature for so many of us who live abroad for study or job purposes and living away from family can cause depression or mental health issues but if you decide to be engaged in some activity or the other then you will never feel lonely. Do not seek people just because you are lonely. It will attract those who can take advantage of you when you are most vulnerable.

Myself personally I don't usually feel lonely anymore, but if I do get bore sometimes making my own dinner every night after work, then I normally go find a new restaurant from a different country culture to explore rather than go to my favorite old restaurant. Even if I go to my regular restaurant I keep trying out new dishes which are exotic and sound interesting to eat, also check with the chef about the recipe. But if you have tried out Japanese Sushi or Korean food they too have lot of variety in their cuisine. I loved Lebanese food as well as Turkish food as it has lot of variety and while in Iran I also loved their Chello Kebab and saffron rice.

I love to go for drives alone and explore new places in the city where I have never driven to before but I take good care to be there in broad daylight and always keep to main streets with traffic and avoid lonely roads or by lanes for security point of view. I love to dance in my room with my favorite music on or even listen to songs that made me feel happy or sync with my mood. Sometimes music is your best friend and is sympathetic with your mood. If you can play some instrument like key board or guitar then you can keep improving your own style of playing to perfection. If can find some one to jam online it is a good idea of jamming with friends online through online meetings and enjoying your orchestration.

There is nothing like reading books and munching your favourite snack or having your favourite drink sitting quietly in your balcony or lounge bar. Housekeeping and keeping your room clean and washing the linen and curtains on weekends keeps me busy living alone. Also washing the dishes after meals and cutting veggies for tomorrow's breakfast or tiffin is a good idea to spend time while watching your favourite TV program or a movie.

Chatting with friends on social media and making new friends is a good hobby provided you like connecting with new people and learning from them about their life in their countries. I also love to chat with strangers provided I find the person reasonably safe to chat with and I don't obviously disclose my personal information with them but just to get to know someone new and finding about their life and sharing some common interest to strike a conversation also keeps you engaged for hours.

Last but not least, you must like to enjoy your being alone and not get claustrophobic feeling of being lonely. It is all up to us after all to keep busy and keep engaged in doing somethings on your own and enjoy the freedom and peace it offers. Stay blessed! #kishoreshintre #possessedbywritingspirit