Energy Drainers vs. Energy Givers: Why Protecting Your Energy Matters

We've all met them. Those people that you literally feel like you've run a marathon after seeing them for only five minutes, and cannot quite explain why. The other, they energize you and inspire and make you feel like a superhero who can conquer everything in life. These are your energy drainers and energy givers.

Energy Vampires - Who Are they

You know who I'm talking about – those people that you come away from feeling flat tired and empty in your heart, head, or stomach. This can be coworkers, friends and family, or even random people you deal with day to day. Energy drainers might include:

• The complainer who always sees the negative and rarely the positive
• The gossiper that thrives on drama or negativity
• People are forever lending in your direction but never reciprocating back — also known as loaners
• That critical friend, colleague, or family member who questions you at every opportunity

These people can be energy sappers to our battery life so it's important for our well-being we accept them for what they offer (negative feedback times with a smile) then set some boundaries.

You can easily get absorbed in their drama or negativity you become a part of them. But remember, your energy is priceless.

How to find the energy drainers in your life

We just need to focus on how we feel and our interaction with others. Signs You Have an Energy Drainer:

Take Note of How they make you Feel:

• Do you feel drained/overwhelmed and super stressed out after hanging with this person??
• Do you cringe at the thought of being with them? This is a powerful sign of an energy drainer.
• Does walking on eggshells around them keep you safe? This is an unhealthy dynamic.

Observe Their Behavior

Emotional Responses

• Feeling Drained: You feel tired after being with this person.
• More Stress: You find yourself with increased stress or anxiety from being around particular people (sandpaper).

The Negativity in Communication Patterns:

• Complaining: They often have a lot to complain about, criticize or shed light only on the negative sides of things.
• Unsupportive: They are not congratulating you or seem uninterested in what brings joy and success to your life.

Feels Like You Are Giving More Than What the Partner Does:

• The give-and-take exchange is skewed, where you do your best to fulfill all their needs as opposed to having yours met.
• Constant Drama : They always have some unnecessary drama or conflict in your life.

Behavioral traits

• Victim attitude: They always like to play a victim-part and make you guilty if you don't support them every time.
• Controlling Manipulative Behavior: They might not respect your boundaries and keep making you feel like it is compulsory for you to always be at their beck and call.

Some Physical Reactions

• Depletion of Energy Levels: This is evident by the fact that you are exhausted around them.
• Physical side effects: Headache, belly pain, or anxiousness after engaging with them.

Intuition:

• Trust your Gut Feeling: There are those instances when you feel something is off or that gut feeling other times where there is just a huge resistance of spirit whenever in the vicinity of someone.

Are You Hanging Out with the Right People?

The people you are hanging out with have a huge say in what they can do for your energy's percentage. Cut your time spent with energy leeches: learn to say no.?

Being around positive people can help you to be excited, motivated, and inspired as well as make you feel good about yourself.

The Power of Positive Vibes

Now onto the energy givers. The ones who are there for you, supporting and encouraging your every step. They can be:

• Passionate and Eager : They are so passionate about what they do their zeal is infectious. Likewise encouraging and at full confidence that you can do it.
• They are positive and optimistic, the glass is half full.

You will feel that difference in your life the moment you are around them. Let me know in the comment below how you protect your energy from being drained.

Boundaries:

• Learn to say no to the energy drainers and set clear boundaries in order for you to protect your own energy.

Givers Attract Givers:

• Surround yourself with people that give to you — by way of motivation, indirectly attitude…Creating a vibrant network.

Take Care of Your Mental & Physical Health:

• Surround yourself with things you enjoy doing and that make your spirit feel fulfilled.

Re-Asses Your Circle:

• Look deeply at your relationships and think "Is this person taking from me, or giving?

Energy Drainers in the Workplace

Being around energy drainers at work is difficult. Tips for Protecting Your Energy:

• Communicate effectively
• Build a support system
• Focus on your own work
• Seek professional help if needed

Why is it Important to Do This

So, why should we protect our energy from drainers and build alliances with givers?

• Increased Productivity: When you are around givers of energy, it is more likely to get motivated and focused so that results in greater productivity (and accomplishment)_eta...
• Improved Mental Health: By surrounding yourself with positive, encouraging people you can diminish stress and reduce the chances of suffering from depression or anxiety.
• Better Relationships: When you let go of energy drainers, it calls in more positive and healthy relationships into your life.
• Boosted Confidence: Energy givers can empower you and give you the confidence to take risks, step out of your comfort zone and go after what it is that makes your heart sing.

After thinking about all this, do you wish to become an energy giver?

Base method to help you be an energy giver:

• Practice Gratitude: Notice the positive things in your life.
• Supporting and committing: Give words of support to others.
• Practice what you preach: Encourage people by being a role model for optimism.
• Strengthen relationships: Connect with positive people who renew you.

If we can understand the difference between energy drainers and energy givers, then it will help us prioritize where to spend our time and thoughts. By doing so, you help protect your own energy and wellness while simultaneously promoting a more positive atmosphere for others around you.

So, the next time you find your energy being leeched- assess whether it is a count to change scenery. Guard your energy like a precious thing!

?Just a reminder that being an energy giver doesn't make you perfect; it just means that your thoughts about motivating energies are deliberately directed outwards.

What is your stance on energy drainers and givers? Find your own way to in the comments Left.