The Enemy of My Friend Might Be a Supervisor

You cannot dislike anyone because they don't like another colleague. Different people have different relationships. Some of the best relationships I had were with people who had bad reputations.

They were nice to me. Some of the "Be kind" crowd has treated me like dirt. One more reason never to use LinkedIn Audio. Regardless of that, a supervisor went after a colleague. Normally she is laid back and seems to be nice to everyone. Except this lady.

This messed up Saturday. The supervisor sent this employee home which she isn't supposed to do. One of my favorite colleagues is her cousin and they both exited together. I was left with extra work and little good to offset the Saturday nonsense.

She was the one who made Saturdays tolerable. Suddenly it was intolerable. Finish the day and know there are less opportunities to work in a loving manner. Some people have backstories you may not know.

At the resort I encountered a supervisor who was nice to me. Take it as it comes. I worked with him peripherally. My favorite bartender did not like him. I am not going to say "This guy is wonderful and you are wrong for not liking him."

The anthem of that job was "Different people have different relationships." When my favorite bartender substituted as a Captain one night- I called him "Captain Ted" which was marginally funny.

The bartenders who normally talked to him felt that wearing a sports jacket instead of his usual vest gave him a swelled head. The power of moving up for one shift showed more about the bartenders who felt he was a different person.

He still deserved to be taken at face value. If he had to maintain order it wasn't a power trip. He wanted to do the job. I was told how he moved up to cover for a Captain another time. The Captain whom I liked and he didn't was not nice nor appreciative. This was before my time so I had to take his word for it.

You never forget how someone makes you feel. He felt alienated. That had nothing to do with the exchanges I had. Sometimes I am told someone did something awful to someone; a betrayal. I proceed with caution. I believe it happened. If that person does not fall into bad habits I cultivate whatever relationship I can.

It is challenging when management is unnecessarily mean to someone. There is little I can do as the works still needs to be completed. Somehow I became the level headed one on this job. I let people express their opinions. Some whom I like others don't and vice versa. There are different reasons.

Most importantly, the work has to be finished. Even if we agree someone is a jerk; it has no bearing on the matter at hand. Some battles are not worth fighting and it is important to make progress.