End Relationship Drama

Have you ever noticed how women sometimes launch into relationship drama, picking a fight for no logical reason at all… and how even their arguments themselves are completely devoid of logic?

Or how women sometimes try to boss you around, just to see how much they can get away with?

And with 80% of guys, a woman can get away with a LOT… until she completely owns him and walks all over his dignity.

But why do women do this?

What’s the deal with woman and drama?

We all know they don’t want a weak guy… so why are they undermining his strength and masculinity?

And what’s the best way to deal with it?

You may have read before that women test men because they NEED to make sure their man is strong – so that’s one reason why they put his masculinity to the fire. But if you give a girl too much rope, she’ll hang you with it.

Another reason for drama, however, is one of the more insidious tricks of Mother Nature… women also need to gain a certain amount of relationship control over their men. If she’s not in charge, he might leave once she’s pregnant… she needs to be sure that she can access his resources, both for herself and for their offspring.

If she starts to hold TOO much control in the situation though, she will see that you’re not strong enough and lose all interest in you. On the other hand, if you hold too much control, you will probably lose interest in her – that’s the essence of the passion trap.

The secret is to strike the right balance… and to do that, you will sometimes have to disarm one of her tests.

Reasons for Relationship Drama

Here are a couple of things to realize about a woman’s tests:

Tests never let up. Ever. Even if you’ve been married for years or decades, your woman will always test you, to make sure you’re still congruent with yourself, aligned with your masculinity and in touch with your own power.

This can be tough, because you will feel weak sometimes, and you will probably want to look to your woman for emotional strength during those times. And that’s fine… just make sure you don’t go overboard with it.

Open up to her sometimes, talk about your problems, and if you’ve done the qualification bit right, she will give you encouragement and strength. But then pull your act together and get back in the driver’s seat and stay there… that’s what SHE needs from YOU.

Something else about this point that I found very interesting when I first heard about it: a woman’s tests actually INCREASE over time. Once she goes through menopause, she will suddenly have a lot more testosterone.

At the same time, a man’s testosterone levels gradually start to decrease… and that’s how come you often see these power women in their fifties who kick their careers into the next gear or even take on entire corporations as the female CEO… while their husbands are henpecked and a mere shadow of their former selves

Second… realize that women are more emotional than men, period. They are more in touch with their feelings, and in turn their emotions have a greater level of control over them.

This also means that a woman often might change their mind about things quickly – as all decisions are truly emotionally based, and emotions are fleeting, transient states that can fluctuate and change quickly, so will your woman almost seem unstable to you at times.

It’s okay… weather her storms, and be the rock in the sea of her emotions… don’t be the ship.

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 Thank you …It gets greatly amplified during the time of her monthly cycle. This may sound silly, but even if you aren’t using natural birth control methods, it may be good to keep her menstrual cycle in mind – and if she’s blowing off steam while she’s PMS-ing, treat it accordingly and don’t take it too seriously “Hey… I have my periods…”

That was her way of apologizing, and she said yes. Now that’s a quality girl, not afraid to admit where she went wrong and apologize for it. YOU should do the same with HER… if you mess up, own it, apologize and move on.

Pride has ruined many a great relationship.

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Another reason why women create relationship drama is that wanting to draw a negative emotional reaction out of you. This usually happens in one of two scenarios… the first one is when you neglect her.

 If you don’t give her any positive emotional attention, she may often throw a tantrum, simply because negative attention is better than no attention at all. If this is the case in your relationship, then the drama is merely a symptom… and you have deeper issues to work on.

The second scenario in which a woman would start a fight in order to get a negative emotional response out of you is if she has low self-esteem and doesn’t believe she deserves the positive attention that she really craves.

 Love does not match her blueprint, but arguments do… and both are a form of attention.

So she’ll take what she can get… or rather, what she believes she can get. This, too, is a matter of selection. Rather than fixing this problem, you want to screen your girls right when you first meet them, and avoid getting into this situation in the first place.

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Some women / girls will create drama just to spice things up. To most guys, this sounds absolutely crazy.

 Why would you not want your relationship to be smooth sailing?

Men tend to be more logical and linear in their thinking, and if everything is going smoothly, that’s just fine.

Women, however, ARE more emotional, and as such, do require more emotional variety… this is doubly true if your relationship has gone a bit stale.

Maybe to you, that’s comfortable… but she wants to be entertained. A fight is entertainment to many women… they can even watch OTHER couples fighting on the soap operas all night long!

Women also create drama to gain dominance in the relationship. This ties in with what we’ve discussed previously about her natural nesting instinct of finding a provider, getting him under her control and tying him down.

If she thinks a breakup is imminent, she may start to create a lot of drama simply as a way of EASING into a breakup. Both men and women do this unconsciously - you may find yourself doing it too if you want to break up with a woman.

If she feels trapped in the relationship and wants out, she may suddenly start fights for no apparent reason whatsoever.

It creates a “justification” for a breakup, and also pushes the positive memories in the background… because those memories are a big part of what makes breaking up so hard to do, as the song goes. Maybe she’s been with you for a few years, and isn’t really in love anymore.

Maybe she wants her freedom back… or she just doesn’t see herself with you long-term.

Again, if this is the cause of the drama you’re seeing from her, you have bigger underlying issues to fix.

In some cases, women may also do this “create drama to ease into a breakup” thing because they are afraid of losing YOU… and they’d rather replace all the good memories with bad ones while there is still time. This, too, if usually unconscious.