IT IS NOT THE END

You must be wondering what is not the end? and which kind of end am I talking about . the end that I'm pointing towards is the end of life and DIVORCE is not the end at all, on the other hand, it is a fresh beginning of a new phase in life.

today's topic is somehow related to both genders, no matter you are a male or a female you must have heard about divorce, you must have experienced divorce, or must have had someone near you or someone you know divorced .

divorce is a small simple word but a very devastating, heartbreaking word . it is one of the words that people try to avoid in life but for some, it eventually occurs in their life . it is not a shameful thing no matter how much we don't like it and we don't want to accept it but at some times it is the best decision for life to move on.

many people have different aspects about divorce, I have my own opinion about it from different angles. As a girl who has been raised with the hands of a divorced mother, I can gladly say I had the best days my mother covered both mother and father slots in my life, she gave us the best upbringing she can, and I can proudly stand and say that she was divorced but she never left hoping and doing her best in order to raise us in the best possible way.

sometimes some situations just force you to ask yourself why didn't I get the chance to live those moments with my father, why didn't I get the chance to call someone dad? but at the end of the day I realized that if a person is not willing to stay in my life, all I can do is pray for their betterment. his parting ways from us was his own choice, he could've asked and he could've made things different even after divorce, he could've kept in contact with us or even paid for our school or anything like any normal father will do, but he chose not to and I chose not to hurt my self thinking about it. the almighty knows his reasons. it's hard to speak about this thing .. but it is never a shame.

when I think about it now, the way my mother was left suddenly made me realize that I need to work for my future and my children's future because in this world you can trust no one, and I really mean it no one at all other than your own self. god forbid in the future your husband dies or he decided to disappear one day or anything can happen at any time you should be able to fight everything by yourself, raise your children and give them a good future.

things like this occur almost all the time, and people end their lives or think of suicide due to it. they might get into severe depression and might also shut their selves up. but what they don't think about is the people who surround them, those who love them and want to see them in the best positions in life. relationships are a hit or a miss, you decide whether you want to give it another shot after the first failure or you decide to just let this small thing control your whole life and drag it down.

dear men, I'm not blaming all of you and I'm not blaming all the women, we all know that divorce is something both women and men go through, sometimes the woman is the one to blame sometimes it's the man. if you are a man or woman thinking about divorce but staying in the relationship just because of the kids remember then your kids need to be in an environment where the mother and the father look at each other with love not like they will kill each other, a happy mother and a happy father will raise a happy kid. if you feel like you need to speak to someone about it to fix things do it immediately, therapy is a very important key to the success of relationships.

divorce should be the last option when you have tried everything but nothing seems to work out, but be careful don't give yourself depression and anxiety in the process of finding reasons to work it out .

and as SONIA RICOTTI says " accept what it is, let go of what it was and have faith in what it will be ".