Emotions

“How are you?”

How often do you hear this same old question? I would guess multiple times every day. And what do you reply? From my observations, it is most likely “ok”, “alright” or “good”.

Of course, when you are in a grocery line you want to keep it short and keep it moving. Not that many of us are fans of a small talk and we also just learned to be polite and that is what you say to a stranger, right?

Ok, what about your work colleagues? What about your parents? What about your partner? What about yourself?

Do you even know what you feel at any given moment?

Do you know why do you feel that way?

You see when you were young you would get excited to see a little bug crawling on a side, and then you get all upset with your diaper being full, and then you would cry because you wanted to eat. And back to happy because you parent was hugging you. You were so intuned with your emotions.

Past forward, you learned how to navigate the world. You found that there were acceptable emotions AKA “positive” emotions and there were emotions not allowed to express AKA “negative” emotions”.

You learned how to compensate, how to suppress, how to avoid, how to pretend it is not important to feel emotion. You maybe even became numb.

And you ask why you don’t have fulfilling life, why it “feels like” there is more to life, like something is missing. You wonder why you never get deep meaningful connections within your family or why these dinner talks with your spouse are kinda surface level.

No brainer, you rejected a half of yourself, you labeled multiple expressions of you as wrong, you locked a significant part of you deep inside for no one (including you) to see.

What if all emotions were created for a reason? What if they are there as guidance, a signal, sometimes a red flag to address, pay attention, or process.

Imagine not judging yourself for feeling upset about a rejection, for feeling anxious because you want to do your best, for feeling sad because you will not see your favorite person for the next 6 months, for being scared because you are afraid to get hurt.

It all starts from accepting all of it.

Then it is practice, practice and a bit more practice.

Let yourself play with a full range (see an extensive list of emotions below) and see what shifts for you in life.

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Next week (if I have access to LinkedIn) I will be writing about more emotions - a new Pixar movie was very impactful and there is more I have to say on this topic.

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