Emotions Management...
Danijela Jerkovi?
Ba.Sci., CA Certified Accountant, CIA Certified Internal Auditor | Managing Director at Danijela Jerkovic's Services
Master Your Emotions!
Don’t be a slave to your emotions. Control them.
Emotions?are?mental states?brought on by?neurophysiological?changes, variously associated with thoughts, feelings, behavioral responses, and a degree of?pleasure?or?displeasure.
There is currently no?scientific consensus?on a definition. Emotions are often?intertwined?with?mood,?temperament,?personality,?disposition, or?creativity.
Control your emotions or be consumed by them.
Research on emotion has increased over the past two decades with many fields contributing including?psychology,?medicine,?history,?sociology of emotions, and?computer science. The numerous theories that attempt to explain the origin,?function,?and other aspects of emotions have fostered more intense research on this topic.
Current areas of research in the concept of emotion include the development of materials that stimulate and elicit emotion. In addition,?PET?scans and?fMRI?scans help study the?affective picture?processes in the brain.
It is not necessary to react to everything you notice.
From a mechanistic perspective, emotions can be defined as "a positive or negative experience that is associated with a particular pattern of physiological activity." Emotions produce different physiological, behavioral, and cognitive changes. The original role of emotions was to motivate adaptive behaviors that in the past would have contributed to the passing on of genes through survival, reproduction, and kin selection.
In some theories,?cognition?is an important aspect of emotion. Other theories, however, claim that emotion is separate from and can precede cognition.
Consciously experiencing an emotion is exhibiting a mental representation of that emotion from a past or hypothetical experience, which is linked back to a content state of pleasure or displeasure.?The content states are established by verbal explanations of experiences, describing an internal state.
Emotions are complex.
There are various theories on the question of whether or not emotions cause changes in our behavior.?On the one hand, the?physiology?of emotion is closely linked to?the arousal?of the?nervous system. Emotion is also linked to behavioral tendency. Extroverted people are more likely to be social and express their emotions, while introverted people are more likely to be more socially withdrawn and conceal their emotions. Emotion is often the driving force behind?motivation.?On the other hand, emotions are not causal forces but simply syndromes of components, which might include motivation, feeling, behavior, and physiological changes, but none of these components is the emotion. Nor is the emotion an entity that causes these components.
Never let your emotions overpower your intelligence.
Emotions involve different components, such as subjective experience,?cognitive processes, expressive behavior, psychophysiological changes, and instrumental behavior.
At one time, academics attempted to identify the emotion with one of the components:? William James?with a subjective experience,?behaviorists?with instrumental behavior,?psychophysiologists?with physiological changes, and so on. More recently, emotion is said to consist of all the components. The different components of emotion are categorized somewhat differently depending on the academic discipline.
In?psychology?and?philosophy, emotion typically includes a?subjective,? conscious? experience?characterized primarily by?psychophysiological?expressions,?biological reactions, and?mental states. A similar multi-componential description of emotion is found in?sociology.
For example, Peggy Thoits described emotions as involving physiological components, cultural or emotional labels (anger, surprise, etc.), expressive body actions, and the appraisal of situations and contexts.
“Any person capable of angering you becomes your master.” ~Epictetus
We can learn important information from studying exactly what an emotional response may be telling us.
Learn to see the value of emotions so they can help you to learn and grow!
When we learn to see the value of emotions, they can help us learn and grow.
The function of emotions...
Emotions – even those that feel unpleasant or seem negative – have a few important uses:
In each of these cases, ignoring or suppressing our emotional response keeps us from learning and taking action.
This means we may keep negative emotions around longer because we don’t see how they can be useful and learn from them.
Learn to master your emotions.
Emotional reactivity (ER) short-circuits a person’s capacity to think clearly and act rationally.
The main requirement in mastering one’s emotions is to overcome emotional reactivity.
Emotions?...
In every moment of our lives, there is always a conversation that takes place in our minds.
It is usually one of the most integral conversations we could ever see ourselves engaging in. this conversation is usually a silent, mostly subconscious, and limitless conversation based on emotional signals between the brain and the heart.
The motive behind this conversation is usually quite imperative as the emotional signal sent from the heart to the brain determines the type of chemicals that get released into our bodies.
The moment we feel emotions that we typically term as negative such as anger, jealousy, rage, and hate, the heart quickly sends to the brain a signal that expresses our feelings.
These types of emotions can be chaotic and irregular and this is clearly shown in the signal patterns received by the brain from the heart.
You are in control of your life when you refuse to be provoked. ~ Lailah Gifty Akita
Handle Your Emotions In Relationships...
You may be aware of certain situations that cause you to feel more negative emotions than positive ones. You may be aware of a certain circumstance under which it seems like, no matter how hard you try, you can’t keep yourself from feeling negatively in it.
Some of the steps you can utilize to help you to take control:
Don’t promise when you are happy, don’t reply when you are angry, and don’t decide when you are sad.
Methods for Mastering Your Emotions...
Understanding your emotions-behavior, feelings, physiology, and thoughts- -will assist you to set up ways to vary them.
First, do not forget that strategies that specialize in the behavior of changing the surroundings can even cut back on unpleasant emotion, e.g. cut back your worry by golf stroke higher locks on the doors or by avoiding somebody you're mad at.?
Second, do not forget that our thoughts powerfully influence our emotions. And, since we are able to generally amendment our thoughts and since scientific discipline is during a "cognitive" era, there's nice stress on cognitive strategies at now.
The strategies that alter basic raw emotions: anxiety or fears, anger, and unhappiness:
You have got to control your fear, get in control of your emotions. ~ Joe Teti
Embracing Our Feelings...
Feeling an Emotion...
Learning to Soothe Ourselves...
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Steps for Embracing Our Feelings:
By staying with the feeling and experiencing it in our bodies, we contain it and own it. It does not own us. Knowing that feelings are sensations in our bodies allows us to form a container around them. Awareness is the container that surrounds the emotion and it is larger than the emotion.?
Awareness contains everything that we are experiencing in the moment: sights, sounds, thoughts, sensations in our bodies. We may be feeling extreme anger in every cell of our bodies, yet our awareness is greater. We can see the trees and the sky, and they have nothing to do with our anger. Instead of seeing anger as a force that sweeps us away, reduce the anger to its true size.
Notice how the emotion appears in your body whenever a strong emotion occurs.
As we learn to embrace and experience feelings, a significant transformation takes place-the feelings to change. Our feelings have one basic need — to be felt. When we receive this message, it fulfills its task. The feeling may then move to calmness or some other more positive emotion as long as there is no distorted thinking to support its continuance.
Another thing that takes place as we embrace feeling is a change in our deep belief structure. Negative beliefs about experiencing intense feelings fade.
We realize that we have embraced the most intense feelings, yet nothing horrible has happened to us, and this helps us break the deep associative ties between these feelings and previous experiences of abuse and distress. We learn that by feeling the feelings, we may soothe ourselves and calm ourselves down.
Embracing our feelings now leads to a positive and healing outcome.
This is a key method of healing faulty emotional learning that occurs during abusive situations and comes to the surface when we are emotionally reactive.?
Mindfulness?...
A technique that is helpful in embracing emotions is mindfulness.
This is a Buddhist practice that is used to enhance and develop awareness. A Buddhist monk may practice mindfulness while he is cooking dinner or washing dishes.
It is a helpful technique for spiritual development that is well-suited to busy Western lifestyles. It is also a great practice for anyone who would like to be able to handle their feelings more effectively.
Our point of attention is usually focused on the content of our thinking. We think all day long and are absorbed in this thinking.
Most of the time, we are not even aware we are thinking. The problem is that the content of our thinking is the source of our problems, at least psychologically.
Ego-centered thoughts are what create suffering for us.
This type of thinking causes pain, creates stress in the body, and reinforces the separation between us and the world.
Mindfulness is a method to diminish this thinking and to focus our attention on something besides the stream of incessant thoughts that go through our minds all day long, causing us stress. The technique teaches us to attend to?other areas of our experience.
One of these areas is our sensations.
Another helpful area to become mindful of is our breath.
Mindfulness of sensations can be practiced anytime and anywhere — whenever your mind is not engaged in activities that need all of your attention. A good time to practice mindfulness is when there is nothing else to do and you would like to do something productive.
By mindfulness of sensations, we become more aware of our bodies. This awareness prepares us to be more in touch with our feelings when they occur since feelings are made up of sensations occurring in our bodies.
If you take control of your behavior, your emotions will fall into place. ~ John C Maxwell
The Benefits of Emotional Intelligence...
Emotional intelligence is believed to be one of the fastest-growing job skills, and for a reason.
Those with high emotional intelligence have an advantage over others in the workplace mainly because they cope better under pressure, find it easier to work in multicultural environments, are good listeners, make emphatic colleagues, and are potentially great leaders. Therefore, developing emotional intelligence makes it easier to cope with the demands of the stressful and fast-paced life of the 21st century.
10 main benefits of having high emotional intelligence:
People with high emotional intelligence are associated with the following:
Thoughts create emotions!?
Building emotional intelligence is a great way to improve your relationship with others – it can be a tough task, but it is doable.
How do you build your emotional intelligence?
It is crucial to understand that emotional intelligence plays a major role in every part of your life – it helps dictate a range of things, from a successful career to a contented personal relationship.
For some people, emotional intelligence is naturally high while for some it is low. If you feel you have low EQ, don’t hesitate to take steps to work on improving it.
Self-improvement is a necessity in everything!
Mindfulness is the basis for emotions – try meditating or getting into yoga sessions to improve your mindfulness.?
The following simple steps will help you work towards improving your emotional quotient:
Strategies to Improve Emotional Intelligence...
Emotional intelligence is necessary to turn your intentions into action. If you want to make important decisions on things that matter to you the most, you must do it with utmost care. Connect with people, nurture your feelings, react after thinking, and most important of all, empathize!?
When you control your thoughts and emotions, you control everything. ~ Marshall Sylver
Secrets of Building Healthy Social Relationships...
Yes, when you listen keenly to people, empathize with them, and try to understand things from their perspective, it paves the way for healthier and more rewarding relationships.
A few tips for using the power of emotional intelligence to build healthy relationships:
Setting boundaries in relationships is also a huge component of emotional intelligence. It isn’t restricted to being empathetic and being nice to others. Emotional intelligence is also about being fair to yourself.
Set clear boundaries so others can know more about your position which leads to lesser misunderstandings in relationships. This can include anything from disagreeing with someone about establishing priorities, to saying no, to protecting yourself from physical harm or mental duress.??
You’ll become happy when you stop reacting and start controlling your emotions.
Your emotions are here to guide you.
Learn as much as you can from them, and then let them go. Don’t cling to them as if your existence depends on them. It doesn’t. Don’t identify with them as though they define you. They don’t. Instead, use your emotions to grow and remember, you are beyond emotions. How could you not be? They come and go, but you stay. Always.
When you react, you let others control you. When you respond, you are in control. ~Bohdi Sanders
We associate our emotions – positive or negative – with the ways we think about ourselves, how we behave and how we perceive others and the world.
When we recognize that all human behavior is an attempt to meet a perceived or actual need, we can choose to look beyond the behavior and become curious about the need someone’s trying to meet.
Behaviors are like the tip of an iceberg – the larger submerged part is the need that drives the behavior.
If you do not have control over your mouth, you will not have control over your future. ~ Germany Kent