Emotional Intelligence

What is emotional intelligence

Emotional intelligence (EQ) is the ability to identify and manage your emotions, as well as other people's emotions.

If you're emotionally intelligent you have the ability to:

• Identify what you're feeling
• Know how to interpret your emotions
• Understand how your emotions can impact others
• Regulate your own emotions
• Manage other people's emotions

Some people naturally inherit high EQ but it's a skill that you can practice and develop. By practicing emotionally intelligent behaviors your brain will adapt to make these behaviors automatic and replace less helpful behaviors.

The 5 features of emotional intelligence

Daniel Goleman determined that there are five fundamental features of EQ, each with their own benefits:

1. Self-awareness
2. Self-regulation
3. Empathy
4. Motivation
5. Social skill

1. Self-awareness

Self-awareness is the ability to accurately recognize your: emotions, strengths, limitations, actions, and understand how these affect others around you.

Benefits:

• Increases the likelihood of your handling and using constructive feedback effectively.
• By knowing your strengths and weaknesses you can improve your organization's performance, for example, you may hire individuals who perform well in areas you struggle with.

Improve self-awareness by:

• Keeping a diary of the situations that have triggered disruptive emotions in you, such as anger, and your thoughts and behaviors during those situations. With this information, you can form an understanding of your emotions and reactions and work towards self-regulation.
• Receiving feedback from staff as this can highlight how others perceive you and it also helps you target unhelpful reactions.
• Observing the response others have to your behavior.

2. Self-regulation

Self-regulation allows you to wisely manage your emotions and impulses - you show or restrain certain emotions depending on what is necessary and beneficial for the situation. For example, rather than shouting at your employees when you're stressed, you may decide which tasks can be delegated.

Benefits:

• Self-regulation helps earn the respect and trust of employees.
• Useful when adapting to change.
• It allows you to react rationally.

Improve self-regulation by:

• Taking responsibility if you have made mistakes. Rather than blaming others admit that you are at fault. You'll feel less guilty and your team will respect you for it.
• Responding to situations calmly as your communication is more effective when you're in this state and this feeling will spread to others. Breathing techniques, such as controlled breathing, can be a useful practice.

3. Empathy

To be empathetic means you are able to identify and understand others' emotions i.e. imagining yourself in someone else's position.

Benefits:

• It provides you with an understanding of how an individual feels and why they behave in a certain way. As a result, your compassion and your ability to help someone increases because you respond genuinely to concerns.
• Especially helpful when delivering constructive feedback.
• Being empathetic shows your team that you care. For example, if a manager reacts angrily after finding out that an employee has been arriving to work late because their child is unwell, the team is likely to react negatively towards the manager. It would be more favorable for the manager to be understanding and agree on a plan of action with the employee, such as the employee starting work earlier and finishing later.
• Employees will respect you more and subsequently, job performance will improve.

To develop empathy:

• Imagine yourself in someone else's position. Even if you have not experienced a similar situation, remember a situation where you have felt the same emotion your employee is experiencing.
• Practice listening to your employees without interrupting them.
• Observe your employees and try to gauge how they're feeling.
• Never ignore your employees' emotions, for example, if an employee looks upset don't disregard this - address it.
• Try to understand first rather than form a judgment. For example, you may initially feel annoyed at an employee who seems cold and disinterested. However, after discovering they suffer from social anxiety you may feel more sympathetic.
• To communicate your empathy keep your body language open and regulate your voice to show your sincerity.

4. Motivation

Being self-motivated consists of enjoying what you do, working towards achieving your goals, and not being motivated by money or status.

Benefits:

• Reduces your likelihood of procrastinating
• Increases self-confidence
• Keeps you motivated even if you face setbacks
• Makes you focused on achieving your goals
• Spreads to the team

To increase your motivation:

• Remember why you're doing your job - maybe think about why you wanted it initially.
• Set new goals if you lack them.
• Remain optimistic because to be motivated you must be positive. Even when there is a setback or a challenge to identify one positive factor about it.
• To increase your employees' motivation explain why they are valuable, using example, as this will provide them with a sense of purpose.

5. Social skills

Effective social skills consist of managing relationships in a way that benefits the organization.

Benefits:

• Effective social skills help you to build rapport with your employees and earn their respect and loyalty.
• Employees will trust you which is especially valuable if unwelcomed decisions have been made, such as a rise in performance targets.
• When you interact with your employees you can identify the best way to meet their individual needs and identify how their abilities can be used to achieve the organization's aims.
• Staff will feel comfortable presenting ideas to you and discussing concerns.

Improve social skills by:

• Developing your communication skills. Problems can arise if there is bad communication, such as misunderstandings upsetting employees. Listen to feedback to work out what to target, for example, the manner in which you speak may need work or perhaps your body language.
• Learning how to provide praise and constructive feedback.
• Cooperating and working together with your employees because you are all working towards a shared goal.
• Listening to employees and practicing empathy.
• Building relationships with your employees will assist you in understanding how to manage each individual.
• Resolving conflict by looking at the situation from all the viewpoints involved and try to come to a compromise that benefits everyone.

The 5 features of emotional intelligence can all be improved with the steps outlined in this article. Start working on these today and notice how you’re able to connect with people at a deeper level.