Emotional Intelligence
“No doubt emotional intelligence is more rare than book smarts, but my experience says it is actually more important in the making of a leader. You just can’t ignore it.” ? –Jack Welch
Emotions are present in everything you think, do, and say each day on the job, in your career, and throughout your life. Emotional intelligence (EQ) is how you handle yourself and others. Your EQ taps into a fundamental element of human behavior that is distinct from your intellect and personality. It affects how you manage your behavior, navigate social complexities, and make personal decisions that achieve positive results.
People who develop their emotional intelligence communicate more effectively, handle stress and conflict productively, are better team players, are able to navigate change, and also perform at a higher level.
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11 Behaviors that show signs of low emotional intelligence:
Jari Jokela:
Numbers are important? Anyone who understands business economics also understands ROI, EBITDA, profit, etc. Also situations where it would be good to consider the alternatives.
I've been told: You can't be caught or I can not get a hold of you. I know and I do it because manipulation is out of place. A person who does not tell the interviewee "important" things. State of the company, most important people for the author, personality.
I don't want to hear these words:
"What does it matter" of course, people live in such a way that they have decided "what does it matter" about this, this and that.
The above does not belong to the vocabulary of a good company and does not belong to the atmosphere.
"What about you..." Hmmm? You're right, it doesn't matter. We are different.
Of course not, because it is not part of the area of responsibility. Nevertheless, it shows.
"You are exaggerating" Of course, it can also be the case that the person does not know how to understand the subject
Situation review. There is no time to deal with problems. The problems are growing. In the end we wonder why it happened like this?
You still have time:
So if you want to know if you’re emotionally intelligent, simply check the list below.
1. You think about your reactions
Emotional intelligence can mean the difference between a good reaction and a bad reaction to circumstances. Emotions can contain important information that can be useful to personal and social functioning – but sometimes these emotions can also overwhelm us, and make us act in ways we would rather not.
People who lack emotional intelligence are more likely to just react, without giving themselves the time to weigh up the pros and cons of a situation and really thinking things through.
People who are less able to regulate their negative feelings are also more likely to have difficulty functioning socially – which can exacerbate depressive feelings.
People with major depression have been shown to have difficulties understanding and managing their emotions. And research has also shown that more depressive symptoms are present in people with lower emotional intelligence – even if they are not clinically depressed.
2. You see situations as a challenge
If you are able to recognise negative emotions in yourself and see difficult situations as a challenge – focusing on the positives and persevering – chances are that you’ve got high emotional intelligence.
Imagine for a moment you lost your job. An emotionally intelligent person might perceive their emotions as cues to take action, both to deal with the challenges and to control their thoughts and feelings.
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But someone with poor emotional skills might ruminate on their job loss, come to think of themselves as hopelessly unemployable, and spiral into depression.
3. You can modify your emotions
Of course, there are times when your feelings can get the better of you, but if you are an emotionally intelligent person, it is likely that when this happens you have the skills needed to modify your emotions.
For example, while average levels of anxiety can improve cognitive performance – probably by increasing focus and motivation – too much anxiety can block cognitive achievement.
So knowing how to find the sweet spot, between too much and too little anxiety, can be a useful tool.
It is clear that moderation is the key when it comes to managing our emotions. Emotionally intelligent people know this and have the skills to modify their emotions appropriately.
And this is probably why emotional intelligence has been shown to be related to lower levels of anxiety.
4. You can put yourself in other people’s shoes
If you are able to extend these skills beyond your own personal functioning, then that’s another sign that you have high levels of emotional intelligence.
Emotional intelligence can be particularly important in workplaces that require heavy “emotional labour” – where workers must manage their emotions according to organisational rules.
This can include customer service jobs, where workers may need to sympathise with customers – despite the fact that customers may be yelling at them.
This is why workplace emotional intelligence training is now common – with the most effective training focusing on management and expression of emotions, which are directly linked to communication and job performance.
It’s also worth pointing out that emotional intelligence is a cognitive ability that can improve across your lifespan. So if you haven’t recognised much of yourself in the traits listed above, fear not, there’s still time for you to work on your emotional intelligence.
Jari Jokela:
We were at the campsite:
My father was drunk. The other members of the family ran to hide in the forest to wait for him to calm down and fall asleep.
I have dozens of stories similar or worse like above.
I was in 2nd grade:
Situation (cause) unknown. The tough guy in the class (the problem was between his ears) wanted to tease. Classmates threw snowballs at the 1st grader. Who could this be? The teacher saw but did nothing.
I was in 6th or 7th grade:
The person behind the back was annoying "for a long time". Not the only time. Study peace. *The teacher did not react. There was no reaction at that time. That's no explanation. I turned around, I grabbed the person by the coat (chest area) and pushed 10 m backwards into the back wall with power of my hands and legs. That's it. Teasing ended.
Enough of these stories. Others have more and this is only a part. Not the worst from me.
The same applies to the working community. You may have paid attention to the K-chain's (in Finland) "bullying-free zone". The world is now at the point where you have to react.
The world is the way it is because it is made and created.
The world is not as it is (generally) accepted.