Emotional Freedom and a New Way of Living

It’s a fact of modern life that everyone feels that they’re uniquely sensitive. After all, it’s so easy to be upset by other people’s comments and behaviour, isn’t it? If you’re looking for relevant examples, just take a moment to think about your own experiences. Have you ever been hurt by someone’s comments? Do other people’s judgements sometimes hurt your feelings? Have you ever felt crushed by criticism?

Sensitivity can be a gift in terms of understanding the intricacies of human behaviour but what happens when our sensitivity makes us vulnerable to those emotional outbursts that can leave us shocked, exhausted or confused? Reacting to other people’s behaviour can lead us to believe that the problem’s based on the way other people treat us. But that isn’t strictly true.

This is a perfect time for us to overhaul this limiting and often damaging belief that other people can somehow determine how we feel. It’s time to install a new set of helpful and positive attitudes that will help you to free yourself from the burden of other people’s judgements.

Let’s start by asking ourselves where the problem comes from.

It's simple. We’re all heavily conditioned from early childhood to respond to other people’s judgements and opinions, even though those comments might be far from useful, accurate or helpful.

And it all begins when we’re told that we can make other people feel things. It’s a familiar message that’s repeated throughout our lives. For example, I’m sure you’ve heard:

“You’ll upset your mother.”

“You’ll make your father very angry.’

“Now you’re making me mad.”

Even from a very early age, we learn to believe that we possess an amazing power to make all kinds of people, including complete strangers, feel an extraordinary array of emotions.

So, quite naturally, we accept that other people can make us feel things too. Right? It makes perfect sense, doesn’t it? It often develops into a profound sense of responsibility for other people’s feelings. We can even develop the belief that we’re responsible for other people’s happiness.

But this is not really true. In fact, this is the pathway to a great deal of confusion. This is quite delusional and makes us vulnerable to the limiting attitudes, judgements and beliefs of others.

The reality is that you cannot make anyone feel an emotional reaction - without their permission.

This might strike you as a very controversial suggestion because our conditioning has persuaded us that we all have the ability to produce instant emotional reactions in the people around us.

Yet, if you learn to pause for a moment when someone says something unpleasant about you, you can use that brief moment of reflection to ask yourself whether the comment is true. Or not. Frankly, if it’s true, why would you be upset? And if it isn’t true, then the comment reveals far more about the person making the statement than it reveals about you. This subtle shift in your behaviour can produce far-reaching changes in the way you react to other people’s attitudes and actions.

It’s also worth remembering that the way people talk to you and the way they talk about you can tell you a great deal about what’s going on in their hearts and minds. In most cases, the comments aren’t about you at all. They’re a projection of whatever’s going on in the other person’s emotional foundations. It provides you with a deeply revealing insight into their feelings and beliefs.

You might like to read through that suggestion one more time. It’s a discrete gateway into some extraordinary insights about human behaviour.

In conclusion, we are all responsible for what we think and feel and we’re all equally responsible for the way we react to other people’s comments.

Learning to pause before you engage your old, familiar reactions provides a wonderful opportunity for you to consider how you’d prefer to feel. You can learn to choose a reaction that supports your confidence, your wellbeing and your state of inner calm. You can practise the art of detachment that secures you from the darts and barbs of other people’s unfortunate behaviour.?

This is a beautifully simple yet powerfully effective way to free yourself from the trap of other people’s negativity. This is an invitation for you to make a clear decision right now that you – and only you – can determine how you are going to think and feel from this moment onwards. It’s also an invitation for you to celebrate your new sense of personal freedom.

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