Emotional Burnout. How to cope with fatigue, avoid burnout and stress.
Emotional Burnout. How to cope with fatigue, avoid burnout and stress. Syndrome of emotional burnout is a scourge of modern man. We have so many cases and responsibilities that need to be done right now or even yesterday, that sooner or later we can not stand it. The result is stress, anxiety, depression, fatigue, apathy and even a serious physical ailment.
The phrase "burned at work" does not seem to be someone's joke: many of us perfectly know how it is. Fortunately, the syndrome of emotional burnout can be noticed in time and prevent him from seizing power. How? We tell.
The rabid rhythm of life is the cause of trouble
People were not created to live immediately in the 21st century. However, we perfectly adapted, but it got expensive. In the past, people lived in small villages and knew each other well - even the appearance of an occasional traveler or fair was a big event. Everyone knew who would become when he grew up, because everyone, as a rule, continued the work of his fathers and mothers. They went to bed with the onset of darkness and got up at dawn. Life was predictable.
Now, humanity is in a state of permanent stress due to fundamental changes.
Too much stimulation. We are attacked by a stream of information: from television, the Internet, our mobile phones, magazines and newspapers. We constantly make choices and make decisions that depletes willpower.
Inadequate security. Life is absolutely unpredictable. Work, home, family, intimate relations, patriotism, freedom - over the past decade, these concepts have changed radically.
The crisis of the meaning of life. Previously, we knew what to draw on the meaning of being. We believed that if a person lives a righteous life, then God will reward him and send him to heaven. Now we do not really know why living a righteous life, even if we can not understand what that means.
The millennia of this life formed our brain, our ideas and reaction to stress. While we are young, everything is fine. But as soon as we get older, the situation worsens. We are faced with the syndrome of emotional burnout.
Where does the energy go?
If you lower the energy only so that you do not get stuck at work and manage with the affairs of the house, there will be an imbalance. It in turn leads to burnout. Burnout comes when we do the same day by day and do not feel progress.
Because of stress, health deteriorates. We make impulsive purchases in order to please ourselves a little. Or lose revenue, because because of a lack of ambition work worse. We break relations with people. We fix ourselves on what prevents us from relaxing, and, of course, we always find a lot of such obstacles. Controlling consciousness at times of stress is a paradoxical process: when we try too hard to relax, or to be happy, or not to think about something, we inevitably suffer defeat.
And the more the mind tries to control what should be involuntary, the worse it becomes for us (when next time you go for a walk, try to think about how you rearrange your legs): "It usually happens that the one who craves more happiness falls into in depression, and the one who most wanted to calm down becomes anxious. "
The answer to the question, how not to decay completely, is to let the success into your life. The pursuit of success will relieve the sense of running on the spot. There will be a balance and everything will be on its own.
Is there a balance?
The problem of balance is not intended. Steve McCulty in the book "From urgent to important" cites a study according to which 88% of people find it difficult to choose between work and personal life, 57% consider this a serious problem, and 64% say that after work they feel physically exhausted.
In this case, we are forced to appreciate the work. The phrases "record unemployment" and "how to survive the crisis" ring around. We have to take more responsibilities, just to stay in the same position. The days turned into a race: to have time to delete the cases from the daily list for the sake of excusing other people's expectations. But this is not a search for balance. It's the search for a way to survive.
Distribution of a certain number of hours between work and personal life, too, will not bring balance. Stress, which accumulated during working hours, will not disappear if you spend half the day in the office, and the second half of the day at home. Balance is an immeasurable amount.
Those who work 60 hours a week in high-paying positions, admit to their love of work. So because they pursue success every day. The pursuit of success helps them survive exhausting working hours and heightened demands.
Success is not necessarily better or more. Sense in motion towards the goal. Effective way to defeat burnout - do not stop looking for the development of life aspects.
We are selected from the paws of fatigue, or Prevention of burnout
The main thing in the fight against stress, chronic fatigue and frustration is to pull yourself together and give life a new meaning. Let's say you set unattainable goals or were too hasty. The circle is closed. But whatever way we struggle with the vicious circle of stress, we always have a chance to break it. Recognizing the problems, we are already winning half the battle.
1. Get ready for stress
Learn to relax exercises, meditation, breathing practices. And try to come to the realization of your emotions. As soon as you realize that now everything will fly to the tartaras, turn to the saving techniques that you learned.
2. Do not give in to immediate desires
Some of our most deplorable acts are dictated by the desire to get rid of the hard-to-bear experiences. However, these actions still did not help to solve the problem or alleviate stress. Great temptation to take medicine or look at the bar around the corner, break into a scream and say offensive words when the mood is at zero. Do not hurry! Analyze your judgments and desires. If the situation requires your intervention, wait until you can control yourself.
3. Do not forget about the main thing
Remember the fundamental values and act accordingly. What is more important - to let off steam or keep a relationship with your loved one? Do not forget your main values and act accordingly.
4. Start a pet
The presence of an animal in the house will help to survive stress, and walking with a dog will open new opportunities for communicating with people. When we face complex psychological decisions, pets help to lower high blood pressure better than any beta-blockers.
5. Pay attention to the state of your body
If you are too worried, angry or frightened, first calm down, and to do this, perform relaxing exercises. Go to the gym and do aerobics - this will help relieve tension. Take up physical labor, it helps to get out of the situation. A long walk is also an excellent therapy.
6. Tell yourself "Stop"
STOP - this abbreviation was invented by the "Society of Anonymous Alcoholics": never make decisions when you are angry, anxious, lonely or depressed. First, take care of your own needs.
7. Decide
If you have a really serious problem, you need to do something about it. Hard work? Look for a new one. Relationship with a partner at a dead end? Maybe you should leave (but just think it over carefully). Sometimes we need an escape plan.
For example, the most common problem: if the work is too time-consuming (irregular day, lack of help, great pressure), start developing an escape plan. Do not waste money, do not buy a new house or a new car, do not make any expensive investments that can permanently tie you to this job. Save your money. Think about a job that will suit you more, and look for options.
Even if you can not immediately change something, the very fact of the existence of your plan can alleviate stress.
"I do not control my life!"
You probably know people (or yourself they belong to) that have so badly managed their own lives, that now they hate everything in themselves? They feel locked in an incessant cycle of unpleasant work situations, pressing debts, a lot of duties and deeds, broken relationships and even health problems due to stress and fatigue.
People feel that everything around them is an obligation, and they themselves do not have control. Burnout and stress control their lives, and they are at the lowest point of motivation and productivity.
Control over your duties, time and results ... How does it sound? Peace? Calm? Productivity? Maybe even a triumph?
We will not be able to experience all the tremendous opportunities that life offers if we are constantly busy with business and are in a state of stress. But you do not deserve more. Is not it? Learn to notice signs of emotional burnout on time and take action. Then every day will be filled with happiness and joy.
By Alena Lepilina. Publisher Mann,Ivanov and Ferber.