Emotion
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We know, today, that every thought we have and every decision we make stems from an emotional response to a perceived (and occasionally imperceptible) environmental stimulus. The ‘environment’ in this case is as much man-made as it is natural, as much tangible as it is intangible (like perceptions of balance and justice in the world and a sense that order exists in the universe).
Now, imagine, what would happen should we engineer an environment where emotion was filtered out or suppressed so we could focus on work. My assumption is that there would be a lot of ‘work’ done without anything of note being ever achieved.
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When every decision we make is emotional then decision-making becomes a process through which we regulate the emotions we experience in order to achieve the logical outcomes we seek.
The late Bruce Lee called this “emotional content” and used it one of the first frames of Enter The Dragon, his 1973 breakthrough film, because emotional regulation was such a key part of his philosophy.
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It sounds easy. It isn’t obviously, otherwise work itself would be easy or at the very least easier than it is right now. So, what’s the answer? What should we do? I frequently say “learn to be OK with being vulnerable” but that requires trust. And that is the subject of another post, already.
We rehash the same territory, like jilted lovers stirring the same tea leaves looking for a different answer each time, for precisely the same reason jilted lovers are prone to such behavior. Namely there is no ‘solution’ we can arrive at that is permanent and fixed and certainly the ones we do get to require more artistry than computational power.
Relationship management is an NPC problem (nondeterministic polynomial time completeness problem, for the math fans) which requires informed, intuitive guesswork and the willingness to act on informed guesses as opposed to hard facts.
Internal relationships at work are indeed complicated precisely because our internal world, as individuals, is complex. At the same time, a work environment can be bounded sufficiently to help create guard rails, guidelines and healthy boundaries and that, in turn, allows us to flourish.
Problem is most work environments lack some or all of this. How about yours? How are you doing in your workplace or company?
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1 年I thnk the story we tell ourselves about a situation, ourselves, and other people dramatically affects our ability to regulate our emotions. If you feel intimidated by a co-worker, then you are telling yourself a sabotaging story of not being good enough. If you think someone is an asshole, then you are telling yourself a sabotaging story about another person's character and motivation (even if the behaviour is reprehensible). When you thnk a thought that doesn't feel good, it is important to ask yourself how this thought is serving your sense of well-being. Then you need to ask yourself what you can do about your thinking so that your thoughts are serving you better. Getting hung up on the fact that your boss is a jerk or that Gary from accounting is a womanizer, doesn't make your day go better and it is likely not your job to change people. By bringing your best self to work, and focussing on what is right in your environment, you can become oblivious to the BS that surrounds you and actually bring out the best in others. The only thing you can control are your own thoughts and behaviours. Set the tone for the kind of place you want to work in and let others follow you. ??