Embracing Success: A Personal Journey from Self-Doubt to Empowerment

What is 'Success'?

Recently I've been bombarded with direct messages from people who want to increase my social media status or can help me make a ‘six figures’.

I was messaged and, after back and forth messages, asked why didn't I want thousands of followers? People who are not talented needed them.? I replied, firstly, are you saying I'm not talented and secondly, I want quality not quantity in terms of followers. I want to communicate with people who need help, have the same ethos as me, who have values, who want to share experiences to help others,?that I didn't want to spend all my time on social media.?

This person could not understand still why I did not want thousands of followers and said, but that's what social media is about.? Using people to make money. Yes, they actually said this!?

This was completely against my values. This isn't why I'm on social media. Most of us want to make a positive difference in people lives.?

Life can be hard.? Why not share your experiences, which may be something that may help someone else.?

It made me reflect and also over a conversation I had with a client this week. For that person to reflect back on how far they had come.? How inspiring they were. This person felt they were going backwards, not forwards.? It’s about perception.

I reminisced about my background.? I grew up as part of a one parent family.? I had to grow up quickly.? I never felt good enough.? It wasn't that my mum made me feel like that, but I just felt I was not worth it. Yet my mum always said I could do anything I put my mind to. I didn't believe her.

Many years ago, I bumped into a girl from school who said she thought I had done amazing, so successful with my career, always saw pictures of me in the paper. I was working within the NHS working with people who wanted to get back to work and were struggling in one way or another.? I loved helping people who needed help to move forward.? Yet, I was surprised by her comments, as I didn't feel successful.?

Lack of self-confidence, although some people would say I'm confident.? Anxiety and that feeling in the pit of my stomach having to stand up in front of new starters at induction, yet they didn't see it. Imposter Syndrome, never feeling good enough, that I would be found out that I was rubbish.

Working so hard, it made me ill, because I didn't want to let people down.? For what?

So after years of experience, I see this in others.? They don't realise how far they've come.? I've achieved stuff I never thought I would.? I even created a website, yes me, I did it. The one thing holding me back to start my coaching company. I surprised myself.?

So, when I think back when my mum said I can do anything I put my mind to, I think yes, I can. I might feel scared, but once I put my mind to something, I eventually get there.??

Stop being scared.? What's the worst thing that can happen? It may not work out, but it's not the end of the world. We are always learning.?

I continue to help those around me, I see that they are capable of so much more, because I know I am still capable of so much more.? As I know all of you reading this are capable of so much more.? It’s within your gift to do so.

I love my job, I love the people I work with, I have a handful of friends who I know would do anything for me, as I would for them and most importantly, I have a wonderful family, a kind husband and a son who is kind, sensitive, loving and wanting to learn.? This is success.?

Feel the fear and do it anyway.? Reach for the stars - you just never know where it will take you.? Whatever happens, you are successful.?

What is success to you?

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