Embracing Feelings: Rewiring Our Relationship with the Uncomfortable

In our fast-paced lives, it is natural to want to avoid or suppress our negative emotions. We often find ourselves running away from the things that make us uncomfortable, hoping that they will disappear on their own. But here's the catch: sometimes, the very things we try to escape end up chasing us, coming back even stronger, and as a result, our world shrinks.

I have had the opportunity to work with a wide range of clients who have moved from one job or relationship to another, only to find themselves experiencing similar challenges with different individuals. It begs the question, what is the common denominator in these recurring situations?

Is it a lack of self-awareness, consciousness, or a better understanding of what's creating this pattern?

Delving deeper into these patterns can offer valuable insights and opportunities for growth and change. By exploring the underlying factors contributing to these repetitive experiences, clients gain a greater understanding of themselves and their relationships, ultimately leading to more fulfilling and successful outcomes.

There is great power in sitting with our feelings, embracing them, understanding them, being at peace with them, for they are just thoughts, not real, just energy passing by, and if we don't wrestle with them, they pass like clouds in the sky. By doing so, we can find a newfound sense of peace and growth.

Sometimes the things we run away from chases us.

Have you ever noticed that the more you try to avoid something, the more it seems to haunt you? It's as if the universe (or whatever you believe in) is trying to teach us a valuable lesson about facing our fears and discomfort head-on, learning by going through them. Whether it's a difficult conversation, habits, or a fear of failure, running away only prolongs the inevitable. Instead, we can choose to confront these challenges with courage and vulnerability. (best with the support of someone like me)

The things we resist or avoid come around stronger.

When we resist or avoid uncomfortable feelings, they tend to grow stronger over time. It's like attempting to push a giant pool ball under water - the more we push them down, the larger more violet they become. By acknowledging, understanding and accepting our emotions, we can prevent them from gaining power over us. It's important to remember that discomfort is a part of life, and by embracing it, we are better equipped to handle whatever comes our way.

By not running, hiding, avoiding, suppressing, fearing, etc., by actually sitting with it, feeling it, and reassuring your brain and nervous system it is ok.

So, how can we stop running and start facing our emotions? The key lies in allowing ourselves to sit with our discomfort. Rather than suppressing or avoiding it, we can create a safe space for ourselves to feel and acknowledge what we are experiencing. By doing so, we send signals to our brain and nervous system that it is okay to feel this way. This reassurance helps to calm our fight-or-flight response and allows us to process our emotions in a healthier manner.

You're now able to rewire how you relate to that person, place, thing, situation or circumstance.

By embracing our feelings, we unlock the power to rewire how we relate to the people, places, things, situations or circumstances that trigger us. Remember a trigger is for you to work on, it's not that external thing causing you suffering. This shift in mindset and approach can lead to healthier relationships, improved problem-solving skills, and a greater sense of self-awareness.

Conclusion..

Running away from our feelings may seem like the easiest path, but it's often not the most beneficial one. By sitting with our discomfort, we allow ourselves the opportunity to grow and evolve. Embracing our emotions, understanding them enables us to rewire our relationship with the challenging aspects of our lives, leading to personal growth, improved relationships, and a more fulfilling existence overall.

The next time you find yourself wanting to run, take a deep breath, embrace the discomfort, and watch as your resilience and inner strength grows.

Ask yourself how you want to feel, articulate it using ten or more powerful positive words and take action from the energy, the unique meaning they hold for you, and celebrate how good it feels to take your power back.

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