Either you run them down or they run you out

Right now, we are all exposed to Covid-19 situation that is totally new and unknown. And even if we don’t catch the virus, its impacts might be heavily impacting our life. And nobody knows when all of this is going to be over. However, even in the toughest of times, we can choose how we react to difficulties. Yes, we are facing challenges, and yes, there’s a lot of uncertainty going on, but each of us can make a decision: We either freak out and lose our minds, or we stay calm, strengthen our mental health and make the best out of these crazy times.

I’d certainly go for the second option. However, I am using these times to strengthen my mindset, to practice self-reflection, and to work on my business. There’s no point in feeling sorry for ourselves, so let’s make use of this precious time we have and stay positive despite everything that is currently going on. That being said, let’s take a look at ten quotes that can give us a little perspective during such chaotic times as these.

Always be polite. Don’t seek their level of crappiness. When they’re rude, you’re nice. Be sincere. Use your good manners. Kill their negativity with your kindness. Address issues with the person directly. We think conflict is bad. It’s not. Healthy conflict stretches us. It helps us think outside of the box. It gets us to think about things differently. Don’t sweep issues under the rug, where they have the chance to ferment and grow. Address them kindly and to the point.

When you spoke to me last night, it caused a problem because of x, y, and z. What can you do next time to talk to me differently and consider my feelings? Whatever it is, address it to their face, with respect. If they don’t acknowledge your feelings, it’s another way to spot a crappy person. Keep your distance but don’t be afraid to engage. When you deal with these people, they drain you. They suck the life right out of you but you don’t want to be a coward. If they’re crappy to you, engage them in an open conversation.

One day one of my wife's cousins was at lunch with people from work. An employee at the time was being rude. She ordered her meal. He asked her why she didn’t order tacos. “Why would I order tacos?” He said, “you’re Mexican.” “I’m not Mexican. I’m Colombian.” “The same thing,” he concluded. At this point, staying calm is essential. He’s a giant jackass. She didn’t engage, but the guy needs a wake-up call. This should have transpired after his last comment…“Oh, that’s a great observation. You’re so astute. I was wondering why you didn’t wear overalls, as most white trash I know can’t leave home without them.”

Don’t socialize with them beyond your required need. You owe them nothing. To socialize with them will bring you down. They pull you into the gutter they call life. Be polite. Exchange information if the job requires it, but don’t do any more than is necessary. Always speak the truth. Even if it’s hard. Gossip is toxic. If they get upset about minor things, that’s on them. If they screw up, let them know. “Hi Crappy Person, yesterday this item was due, but it shipped to the wrong location. Any reason you did it that way?” Don’t gossip about their screw ups behind their back.

Instead speak to them directly. I had two team members who hated each other. Admittedly, one was a narcissist who pinned people against each other. When management confronted the issue, they both wanted to push the issue under the rug. They didn’t want to confront each other. That was a big mistake. I’ll do it differently next time. When there’s conflict, people must talk it out. Stay focused on your personal vision, mission, and values. You know who you are. You know what’s most important.

Remember that crappy people will pull you away from these. Stay true to your values. Stay calm, upbeat, and happy. Even when things aren’t going your way or when someone is rude, always stay calm. Crack a smile. Be upbeat. The best way to diminish a crappy attitude is with a good one. When you have a great attitude about life, the people with crappy attitudes stick out like a pile of crap. They may even change their ways. Calm is contagious. Cheers!