Ego is a 3 letter word that destroys 12 letter word 'relationship'

Ego is such a hazardous word that can ruin years of friendships and put a wedge between family members, too. If you have had a string of unsuccessful relationships, you need to let go of your ego and take a step forward toward true happiness. Ego has a role in spoiling many relationships, and it's not just a problem with people who are dating but it also affects your relationships with your team members and superiors too at work!

It is always better to think twice before saying a hurtful word to anyone. Let us consider this as situation No. 1: Even if you say something out of your stupid ego, take some time to think over the entire episode you had with your friend/lover/anyone close to you. Think if the reason is really worth ending your long and fruitful relation. Then, if your ego permits, make amends, make peace. There is nothing that a few true heart-felt words can’t set right. And if you really mean what you are saying, your friend will understand you.

Now take situation No. 2: It could be something that the other person did/said to you which might have hurt you at that particular moment. But if you retrospect, his/her unexpected behaviour might not have anything to do with his/her feelings towards you. You might think that you don’t need one or two of them in your life. But if you start putting an end to your relationships one by one, you will finally end up all alone.

Let me remind you, even if you get back with your estranged friends you can never bring back the cordiality and love which was once there in your relationship. You start feeling uncomfortable in their presence. You speak to the other person without looking at their faces and laugh awkwardly at some joke cracked by someone else in your group. You start keeping up appearances just to show the world whereas the old feeling of camaraderie disappears. The worse part is you think everything will be over once you end the relationship.

Tell me why would you destroy your relationship for a false sense of pride. If you are in a relationship , just think of how much effort you have put up to get into that relationship and the effort you put everyday to just keep it going. And imagine if you broke that off because because of you ego your all effort will go in vain.

All it takes lot and lots of effort to get into a healthy relationship but it just takes a wrong decision which can destroy everything you have. I myself have been in that phase and no one was there to tell me this and the result was very bad for me . So giving advice from my life experience don’t do it. Treasure what you have and try to keep your relationship. But after putting everything , if you still feel that you need to get out then you can walk out of it.

Whereas ego changes from this second to next this hour to next hour this day to next day. and if something that fickle is letting your boat turn upside down, it is no good, not wise either. And if you want to end relation just end it, but do not make yourself and the other person hurt. do not play mind games. and what is the need of this question. when you know the answer very well.

We need to just sit, relax and analyse and you will find answers to the below questions. Is the ego spoiling my relationship with him/her? Is it that my self respect being hurt?..If the answer to the first question is “yes” then its time for you to save your relation from further wounds. But if the answer for the second question is “yes” then its time to “move on”. People who really love you will never hurt your self respect. Even sometimes if they do , they don't have any such intentions to hurt you its only motivate you so think infinity times before you decide.

In case you want to end a relation but you want to hold someone accountable for it. if i say yes you are going to end it and say to your self that that guy told me to do so. ego will be fulfilled. It is better to become a flower of love, compassion and try to maintain it as the only weapon to kill your ego. if you can do it, relationship your all relationships are going to blossom. not just the one from which you are running. Cheers!