Effective Parenting Tips

 “Children have never been very good at listening to their elders, but they have never failed to imitate them.”  James Baldwin

Since children learn best by observing and listening, as  parents, our actions & speech  in front of them is of prime importance.

*Be aware of your speech and actions

Ask yourself as parents – what messages are we conveying to our children with respect to Values, Relationships, Money and Success. It is these very messages that mould their success stories. The parent child equation keeps changing as they keep growing through different developmental phases – for a child from total dependency to becoming independent. Parents need to understand that sometimes one has to be less of a parent more of a mentor, a guide and sometimes a friend.

*Know when to shift your role from a parent to mentor, guide or friend. Step out of the parenting role to get a better perspective on the problem

When it comes to childhood messages, one also needs to focus on what messages we communicate to our children about themselves – for example - “ What butter fingers you have – can’t do one work properly” Such statements remain with the child as adults and reflects in any task they do. They believe of themselves what they have heard about the self. Encourage and motivate to create positive impact.

* As parents instill health self confidence and self esteem in your children.

Lastly, please know there is no thumb rule for parenting, there is nothing like a perfect parent either. Just be yourselves and allow your children to be themselves too.

*There is perfection in imperfection, order in disorder.

Love Your Children Unconditionally and Accept them totally.

Kahlil Gibran had said –

“Your children are not your children.

They are sons and daughters of Life's longing for itself. 

They come through you but not from you.

And though they are with you yet they belong not to you.

You may give them your love but not your thoughts,

For they have their own thoughts.”

Happy Parenting......