The Easiest Way to Win With a Woman

Let's face it... the dating world has changed a lot in the last 20+ years.?

For men it went from asking a girl on a date by passing her a note or asking for her number, to sending hundreds of messages on the dating apps that foster no response, because you're competing with all the 6'2" bros with biceps out there.? And then there's the "Me To" movement and the shift towards gender-equality that has you guessing if you should even call a woman, because it might be too forward.?

For women it went from guys who take the initiative and ask us out on a date, to filtering through all the weirdos on the dating apps... hoping to meet a guy who is normal, then deciding that it's easier to just be single.?

I'm Megan Wessels and in addition to being single myself, I've interviewed hundreds of intelligent, single women over 40 who are looking for a great guy.? I've listened to their struggles, and have been on many dates where it seems like there's a disconnect.

For the men out there who were raised to be the provider and open car doors for women... it's a very confusing time.

I'm starting this newsletter to help clear up this confusion so you can better understand how to connect with women.? Every week I'll break down another strategy for you, so you can crush it in the dating world too.

The Easiest Way to Win With A Woman

Ask her questions, listen and respond.?

It sounds so simple, but I have been on several dates where I asked all the questions and it doesn't feel good. I hear the same thing from other women too.

If there's a woman you're interested in, asking her questions and then holding the space for her to share her answers, is a surefire way to build a connection.? This shows women that you're interested in them and it creates a sense of safety with you.?

Early on it can be tempting to want to talk about yourself... to share what you're proud of so she can see you as someone who's accomplished (a provider).? I promise you, if she's the right girl, there will be plenty of time for that.? She will actually see you as more interesting because you're asking her questions.

Today, women value a sense of emotional safety over accomplishment and financial stability from men.? If you can hold space for her to open up and be vulnerable with you... you've already won.?

Share that you'd really like to get to know her more, and then ask one of the questions below. When she answers, respond to her answer before asking another question. It shows that you heard her, it helps the conversation flow so it doesn't feel like an interview, and it will begin to build a sense of safety between you. You'll also learn some pretty cool things that will help you determine if you want to spend more time with her.

Here's a few questions to ask once you get her number...

Do you mind if I ask you some fun questions? I think it would be a great way for us to get to know each other.

What lights you up?? What are you passionate about?

What are some things you still want to experience in life?

What makes you feel fulfilled?

What is your favorite childhood memory, and why?

What’s something you got away with as a kid that still surprises you?

What was the last book you read?

What is your favorite podcast, and why?

Did you set any goals for yourself this year? How is it going?

What are some of your hobbies?

If you could travel to any place in the world right now, where would you go and why?

Here's a few questions to ask on the first few dates...

What are some family traditions that you still follow?

Who was your first celebrity crush?

What was one of your childhood obsessions?

What are your thoughts on spirituality, religion, politics?

Have you ever been in love?? If so, what did you learn about yourself from that experience?

What is important to you in relationship?

What do you visualize for your future?

What things are important to you that money can’t buy?

What is your proudest moment?

What is your greatest fear?

What has been your greatest challenge in life and what have you learned from it?

What are your priorities in life?

Do you like the pace that we’re going at?

If you're already in a relationship or married, here are some questions you can ask your wife/girlfriend that will help you connect and get those sparks flying again :)

When do you feel most loved by me?

What personality traits do you think I most admire about you?

What personality traits do you admire most about me?

Name three things that make you proud of me.

What do you think I most appreciate about you?

I have an amazing community of beautiful, fun, intelligent, single women who need great men like you. Join us at one of my Throwback Dating events in Chicago - a fun, no-pressure way to meet women and connect. They will quickly become your favorite social events to attend.

Cheering you on,

? Megan