The Easiest Way To Resist Temptation--For Me
Gretchen Rubin
6x NYT Bestselling Author | Host of the "Happier with Gretchen Rubin" Podcast | Order "Life in Five Senses," out now in paperback
“It is not abstinence from pleasures that is best, but mastery over them without even being worsted. ”
— Aristippus, quoted in A History of Ancient Philosophy
This reminds me of one of my favorite lines from Samuel Johnson: “All severity that does not tend to increase good, or prevent evil, is idle.”
This issue comes up a lot with the Strategy of Abstaining, when Abstainers and Moderators debate their approach to resisting a strong temptation.
Abstainers find it easier to resist a strong temptation (chocolate, french fries, Candy Crush) by giving it up altogether; Moderators find it easier to indulge in moderation.
Moderators argue, “Why abstain, why be so absolute, why give up a pleasure altogether?” But for Abstainers — and I say this as an Abstainer myself — abstaining is the way to gain mastery over pleasures. It’s easier to abstain, and it’s a relief. “Abstinence from a pleasure” not for the sake of abstaining, but because it’s easier. I repeat, for us, it's the easiest way to resist temptation!
Are you an Abstainer or a Moderator? Take this Quiz.
In Better Than Before, I have a whole chapter dedicated to the Strategy of Abstaining — but as always, I must emphasize, this is not a strategy that works for everyone! It doesn’t work for Moderators!
And most of us are a mix of both, depending on what temptation we face.
How about you? How do you best master your pleasures?
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Gretchen Rubin is the author of the blockbuster New York Times bestsellers, The Happiness Project and Happier at Home. Her upcoming book, Better Than Before, reveals the secret of how to change habits--really. Read more at gretchenrubin.com. Follow her here by clicking the yellow FOLLOW button, on Twitter, @gretchenrubin, on Facebook, facebook.com/GretchenRubin
Attended Universiti Teknologi MARA
9 年I always thinking about this. Thanks madam.
Intern Public Relations at Time Magazine
9 年Nice art...
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9 年Nice article. I think its all in the mind. Depending on what suits you the best, one can abstain in moderation at will..!
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9 年The nugget in Gretchen's post on abstinence or moderation was her sidebar...get enough sleep.
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9 年Gretchen, I think we have to be smart about our choices in the world. I have a hard time with complete denial, but I believe one can make compromises.