The dualities of Life or is there more to Life…

How much reliant we are on this one aspect of life “winning” and with winning there is a mad rush. A rush to be number one …a rush to make it first …a rush to be on the top spot and many more hopelessly false aspirations which humans cling on to.
When do we realise that all this winning and running after and chasing is meaningless…it is in that one weak moment of truth when your energy to run around has withered away and you are forced to hear that inner voice in that pause which is suppressed by the outside humdrum…u realise the profoundness of standing still.

If winning is life and then sulking on losses is also life then we missed the whole point as in between is Life. The path on which we walk to achieve the desired outcome is equally important and our focus on this path is a fleeting glance…we are in a hurry to reach somewhere.. In reality there is nowhere to reach but however we see this the outside glitter and glamour throws us into that circus of chasing our (read : borrowed from outside) dreams ..our(read : borrowed from outside) goals and making it big like someone…somebody…etc.

Happiness with “win” and sulking with “losses” are common but this is not all and there is more to Life. Since the time we became aware we have been habitual and conditioned to do the right thing and achieve the expected/desired results but little did anyone tell us who decided this “right” or this “expected outcome”. The best part is we have already accepted these “rights” and these “desired goals” and whoever deflects is either “weird” or “gone too much out of the way”. These dualities “right” and “wrong” and followed by these expectations are just a way to trap us in this vicious cycle and the mounting pressure to give in to these rights and wrongs is humongous which we realise at the fag end of life. That too if we are awake else be the blinkered horse conditioned by society.

Uncertainties cannot be discounted which is a result of rapid disruption of technology, natural calamity and at times it’s the inexperience towards handling new emerging situations all this and more lead us to stick to the rights /wrongs/desires. When handling these unexpected turn of events becomes challenging the result is failing mental health, depressive stance and unexpected behaviour change all of these are effects but the cause is still the “stress” caused by suddenness in life. Uncertainties is here to stay and the cycle of disruption can be shorter and repetitions might increase this is a fact but what can be controlled is my mental health which conscious efforts.

Another aspect that needs to be explored is “What if for a moment we lose our memory or imagination” the two powerful faculties of human beings we might be the happiest. If “Memory” is lost then what happened in the past is unknown we are a blank slate we have no records of anything and every experience is a new one. On the other hand if “Imagination” a beautiful tool is lost that super visualisations and overthinking is gone forever and what is left is “NOW” in this moment.? In this now there is nowhere to go …no place is better than “NOW”.

In my own experience I have been often challenged in interviews “how do U see yourself 5 years from now”. The question is intriguing but has left me clueless “I don’t know”? that’s all I hear back when I ask myself.? This question had bothered me few yeas back before COVID happened which changed the perspectives completely. COVID was a disruption in real sense having no absolute answers, no-one knew whats the way and the changes were …people worked from home…many lost their jobs…many lost their near and dear ones…time spent around family increased and so did fights and all of it underwent a 360 degree shift. Now when I ask this question to myself “How I see myself 5 years from now” I feel relieved if the world understood during COVID anything can happen so might the interviewers that there is nothing definitive. In fact the interviewer is not at fault its their conditioned mind of chasing goals…short term…mid-term…long term that keep us at bay from questioning the truth.

This winner /loser mindset has an equal repercussion in the physical body which fails to be at ease and in no time leading it to dis-ease. The truth is this tussle between these dualities is ok but how long do U want to dwell here …will u take this entire lifetime or will u be awakened from the deep slumber….the CHOICE will always be with us.? As we make a conscious Choice of stepping away from dualities the magic will happen…hope you are the lucky one to witness this magic in your Life.

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